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  1. DN
    Moderator note: off topic, disrespectul and flaming posts have been removed. Any more posts like that and this thread will be closed.
  2. DN
    Welcome to eNotAlone. Try the simple route. Just tell him. Be tactful of course. Just make sure that you are ready and that you don't expect that sex will necessarily guarantee that the relationship will last.
  3. DN
    I think you should just send a brief thank you note with no additional comments, cash the check and move on. There is no need to feel bad. So long as it was a definite loan with an agreement to pay back and you don't feel that there was a financial imbalance in the relationship that might have offset the loan then you are morally entitled to the money.
  4. DN
    I think your attitude over this issue is highly likely to cost you the relationship. Are you sure it's worth it?
  5. DN
    I think you should ask her what she meant by that comment.
  6. DN
    What do you think she meant by 'false hope'? Hope about what?
  7. DN
    Moderator Note: Please stay on-topic.
  8. DN
    The key to any relationship - and that includes ex-relationships - is communication about what you are doing and why. That way there are no misunderstandings.
  9. DN
    I think you should tell her. Just say that it is in your best interests not to communicate with her for a while until you get past the relationship.
  10. DN
    I think you already have that strength. It never really left you. Make the decision and stick by it. Instead of letting it bother you - try laughing at him. Another thing to remember is that he does it because he is probably a sad person himself deep inside and needs company. But you don't have to let him drag you down with him.
  11. DN
    Just smile and say "thanks for your kind thoughts" and put him and his negativity out of your mind. He is annoying you because you allow him to. If you refuse to allow his comments to annoy you then you have empowered yourself.
  12. DN
    I have to agree with isidore. I would not be happy being in a marriage with someone who not only talked about the marriage to an outsider but was more concerned about her friends feelings than mine.
  13. DN
    True. But on the other hand my eldest daughter met her husband at work and my youngest daughter met her fiancé at work.
  14. DN
    Unfortunately, only you can decide which man will be the one for you. The danger is that either or both may decide that you are not the woman for them after all. But it is time for you to make a decision and stick with it. Too many people have been hurt already and now you have a child to consider. You should get a DNA test done once the baby is born to determine the real father - the child has a right to know it's father and the father a right to parent his child.
  15. DN
    Yes, you will if you decide to. You will probably have a small, secret place in your heart for him but the chances are that you will find a strong and lasting love with another man.
  16. DN
    Beware of casting an issue as 'mid-life crisis'. It won't serve you. Deal with the issue at it is because if you think about 'mid-life crisis' as the reason for his behaviour you will be tempted to wait until his crisis is over for him to realise he wants you.
  17. DN
    In principle that is fine. But don't mistake lack of those precise words or even similar words for absense of intent or desire.
  18. DN
    You have a very generous heart to want to reconcile with her but you can still forgive your mother without actually meeting her or reconciling with her. You have reached out and if she does not want to reciprocate then that is all you can do. Do not blame yourself in anyway but perhaps now you can concentrate your emotional energy on your husband and children instead of being distracted by your mother.
  19. DN
    Perhaps you did not mean it to sound this way but the way it reads seems to me to be remarkably unfeeling.
  20. DN
    I think it is a great shame that a thread designed to try to help understanding between people should have been so misunderstood. It seems that some people will never get it. The original thread has been unstuck since it has obviously miserably failed in it's purpose.
  21. DN
    So - do you really want to give him up? Or perhaps make one last ditch effort to sort it out. I might be able to help you with some techniques for doing that but you have to be willing to try. And it would involve you making compromises and sacrifices as well and letting go a lot of the anger that you have inside - some of which is not his fault. Anyway - send me a pm if you want to.
  22. DN
    OK- well I am seriously trying to help you here and jokes like that just confuse the issue.
  23. DN
    Another question: do you love him enough to try your best to get this relationship back on track? Or have you had enough already.
  24. DN
    Is this a joke or are you being serious? If it is a joke I'll sort of chuckle and move on. If you are serious I have to ask if you think that is a realistic expectation.
  25. DN
    Yeah, well, let's not go too far - there is no genie in the bottle. Are those things you want in a guy things that you must have for a relationship to work for you? And, if they are, do you think your fiance could provide them for you? Assuming that he really wanted to? Are you able to compromise on any of those things if he cannot provide them all?
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