RayRay63

Anyone has stories about people turning 30 and after a LTR (4 years) with a very stubborn dumper?

You have to let go of false hope, it stops you from moving forward.

Day about ... 500 and something

Thought about her a couple of days ago. Briefly.

Well, as the breakup was "official" as of yesterday, this is day 1. I did notice at some point today she blocked me on FB. Not that I was going to contact her, but I could see if she was online and I wondered if she was going to keep that avenue open. Guess I got my answer after I checked this morning. Out of respect for her wishes, I won't reach out, but if she does, I will be glad to talk. I will say that I feel a little better today than I did yesterday. IMO this relationship ended prematurely to a misunderstanding.

You need to block on her social media.

You do not want to see it, it holds your back.

Thats the thing. I do not want to change his behaviour. That is why I rather just break up with him. But again, does it worth breaking up over something like this? As others said its about clash of values and as LDJ said I need to consider the long term effects on the relationship.

 

Since it has been only 3 months, it is better to cut it off now then later.

That is, unfortunately, the best call - if its a deal breaker.

Some couples watch porn together to spice up their sex life. Some don't. There is no right or wrong here.

Sounds like you want to change his behavior to something you would prefer.

That never works out well.

Know your product

Saw these guys live last night at the factory.

Its been too long

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=qatJHDHRwJg

Day 6 - still early doors for me. Broke up end of August and allowed myself to be that old toy my ex would use for an ego boost/pick me up for about two months.

 

Been very difficult 6 days. Hoping it starts to get easier next week

What I said to Pickachu ^^^^

Its very early days for you. Struggling with it is completely normal.

If you feel like weakening and messaging the X, post you proposed text here on ENA.

You'll be hammered, shot down, and trashed.

But in a few months you'll thank the community for stopping you trashing yourself.

It's just strange. We talked to each other every day for the last 4 years and now it's like I mean nothing for her. I try not to think of that, but it really hurts.

I feel you brother - but this what they do to you. I can only say, suck it up, tough it out.

It does get easier in time.

Syntax - Meccano Mind

Day 58, it is getting better. A part of me still wants to reconcile, but another part tells me that she has hurt me to many times.

The other part will grow stronger. Time is everything.

I'm at about 8 months. Or about 6 months since a breadcrumb.

It gets easier.

I know that some people talk about six months or a year and you can wave and smile

Not if I see her first