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  1. Hey, sorry just replying. A few of you have related to the point that I don't have that spark within myself and I do need to sort myself out. My mind's all over the place and my anxiety/worry/overthinking doesn't help. Really trying to sort myself out and get that spark back within myself too.
  2. I'm only in a financially better position this past few months to move out so going to do that soon. Yes I'd really love to travel more as well and enjoy life but this man struggles financially... I just find it so hard to let him go as he's such a good honest man .... then I say to myself if I don't I'm holding myself back and not enjoying the life I'd like... it's hard as I really really like him... suppose there's that fear as well as maybe regretting it later on as he shows me so much love, care and respect
  3. Sorry I probably do sound like a golddigger and I'm far from it as I've always looked after myself in life and never took any man for his money. When I say 'wealthy man' I mean someone who can look after himself too example. I'd like to maybe travel more and be nice if he could pay his own way and me mine. I'm lucky that financially I'm in a good place now so am probably looking to enjoy life more as well... as much as I love this man times I feel I'm not getting to do the things I'd like ie. more travel but I understand his struggles with finances.
  4. As I replied to someone here and said maybe I haven't worded it the best way. Me and him chatted about the future and where we'd live etc, he knows my dreams of having a nice house but maybe what I want and what I get are two different things. He really means that with his part time job he wouldn't get a mortgage etc and he doesn't want to go into debt anyway, which I totally understand. I know I'm still living at home and seriously thinking of going to rent somewhere first to see how things go.
  5. As I said in previous reply maybe I need to work on myself and work on getting the spark back. I'm confused and need to sort my mind out. I love him but not sure I'm 'in love' with him but a friend says both are the same! I don't no.
  6. That's what worries me as I say to myself if I really want this man I wouldn't leave him? I'm confused and mixed up as then when I'm away I miss him but maybe I'm not giving myself time. He's the only man to show me love and respect and it's hard letting him go. Maybe I need to work on myself first and sort this mind out!
  7. I work hard and save money. My man doesn't really mind where he lives as he's in a very small apartment 2 hours drive from me!
  8. Yeah I'm thinking of maybe getting somewhere to rent and see how things go. He works part time and says he wouldn't get a mortgage, nor does he want to get into debt which I understand. Renting might be the way forward. I understand what your saying and I am grateful that this man is so loving and caring etc. Yes I need to sort myself out as I'm all mixed up, as I said above the spark has faded for me and maybe I need to work on getting that back! Due to my finances but thankfully now mine have improved and I'm in a position to move out, so think renting is the way forward first to see how things go.
  9. Sorry maybe I haven't worded it the best way. We just chatted about the future and where we'd live etc, he knows my dreams of having a nice house but maybe what I want and what I get are too different things. He really means that with his part time job he wouldn't get a mortgage etc and he doesn't want to go into debt anyway, which I totally understand. I know I'm still living at home and seriously thinking of going to rent somewhere first to see how things go.
  10. Hello I'm 44, still live at home, no kids and would have thought by now I'd been married, kids etc and living in a nice house and had a comfortable lifestyle. Previous relationships just didn't work out - I was with a fella for 7 years and he left me and haven't been in anything really serious since. Been on dates but nothing developed. Then I met a man 3 years ago and he's 56 and yes I do worry abit about the age gap and the spark has faded but friends tell me oh that's normal. He treats me with so much love & care, respects me and is very faithful and honest. I have finished it a few times in the the past with him and always end up back together! His finances worry me as I always would have loved a nice house in the country etc (please don't think I'm looking a man for his money I just would love a nice comfortable home) maybe I'm living in dream land and people remind me oh a wealthy man with a house etc mightn't be as honest towards me, maybe the grass isn't greener!! My head is confused and don't know to stay or leave, times I wish I fancied him more but do understand the spark can fade. I have chatted to him and he says he can't provide me with the nice house in the country etc as his finances aren't good and says he can only show me respect, love and care which I know is very important too. I'm just so confused and my head is abit messed. Maybe I'm looking too much (finanically I'm better than him) I love his good qualities though and don't know to stay or leave him :(
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