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  1. Seriously, does social media add ANYTHING, to ANYONE's life, EVER?
  2. I would say don't even bring it up, just turn the light off yourself when you get home I don't think I agree with this. I think that he/she is clearly very frustrated but unable to express it. It's not about the light, it's about the feeling that it is triggering, that's what needs to be communicated.
  3. Relationship tennis I call it. antidote: don't serve, don't return ball. how to do that: communicate about how you are feeling. own everything you are saying: "I feel..." statements. don't accuse. Just focus on yourself in every conversation. "You said you switch off everything, the light is not off"..... could be translated as "I feel frustrated and unsupported about monitoring our energy usage" (for example). It's far more honest and less accusatory. You'll be amazed how quickly it diffuses things.
  4. Well what have you got to lose really? If you don't do anything then it's probably over anyway. If you do something and it doesn't work, what have you lost? It's better to just try it out I reckon.
  5. Hey there, I've seen similar patterns in myself and recently I have been exploring the difference between self-esteem and self-respect and self-soothing. I see it like this: - Self-esteem is when you feel good about what you do. - Self-respect is when you feel good about who you are, and your recognition of your own right to exist regardless of what you do or achieve. - Self-soothing is the way in which people unconsciously regulate their stress. Personally I don't have this ability very well established and often have relied on others to provide it for me. I feel like it's been very
  6. He's probably doing it because he knows it gets a reaction. The best thing would be to figure out what makes him react, and then bring it up every time he says something like that. Which would then shut him up eventually. Then at least you don't feel powerless. Better than arguing, because your angry reaction is what he's looking for.
  7. What does "we tag everyday" mean? Like you tag each other in posts? Is that some new level of flirting?
  8. Fair enough. I'm caught. It just feels so convoluted that I'm trying to separate out all the points, and shifting some of the details so that nobody I know will read this and know it's me and then use that information to humiliate me (which I'm really afraid of). I apologise for the deception.
  9. I don't really want anything to do with him to be honest. But I accept the point about not overanalysing. If I could stop over analysing and get on with my life, I wouldn't be writing a post here. I tried to work this morning on some things and it's like someone has crushed my brain.
  10. Hi all, I have a history of psychosis, and I was in work last year and started to feel like people were deceiving me and I went totally crazy and had to quit. I ended up at my brother's, but we've never really been that close, but he ended up letting me stay at his house for a while. My brother was openly supportive but then I found out that behind my back he had told people that I quit because I couldn't handle a bit of teasing. (I understand you might doubt this since i have psychosis, but I am 100% sure of this and saw it in writing). If teasing means you need 4mg of risperidone then I m
  11. Having been surrounded by people who think I'm lazy and bad with money, I can tell you it is easy to feel infantilised and start acting out and tantruming. That said, I agree with everyone here. Not your responsibility and protecting your family should be first.
  12. This sounds very stressful. I think you need to ask what you need from the relationship. That's what's missing from your post. It's all about other people and their demands on you. What do YOU need? You deserve to have your needs met too.
  13. You should plan for having absolutely no idea what the weather will be like. But it won't be that cold. Could be rainy, could be still like summer.
  14. I got it now, thanks very much! I'm feeling much better after opening up here. Thanks for all the comments
  15. I keep getting "reputation comments" but then I can't figure out how to access them. Can someone tell me ?
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