Never thought I would be writing on a message board but here we are. I am in a sexless marriage. By that I mean my wife and I have not had sex in about a year and I am extremely frustrated. I suppose you could say there is good reason as this year and a half has been the worst in both of our lives. In the past year and a half, my wife and I both had and lost our second daughter to an extremely rare heart condition called hypo plastic left heart syndrome. We lived out of a suitcase and travel across the country (to hospitals) without success. We current have a new baby boy who is two months old now. You could say things have been difficult. In the bedroom my wife dismissed my needs entirely. In the past two years we've basically only had sex when she wants to get pregnant. Once she confirms she's pregnant sex stops immediately. I'm so frustrated that even though she wants to have another child I'm ready to refuse trying because I feel used. I've expressed my concerns, needs, desires, and nothing seems to work. I am supposed to wait for when she's ready I guess. Whatever the hell that means. Being rejected as often as I have has completely eroded my confidence in a way I never anticipated. I'm not the best looking guy but I eat right and try to get to the gym 1-2 a week. I feel ugly. Unloved. Bitter. Frustrated. It's gotten to the point where she gets mad or otherwise makes a definitive block if I even attempt anything (ie. a kiss). Perhaps I'm just venting, but does anyone have any advice here?