knightofmartin

Well i'm getting ready for the prom, and i'm not really sure what i should do. I want to invite this girl that i've talked about previously. But i'm not sure if she'll say yes. Like the other day during a basketball game i was sitting with a bunch of friends and then she ran up and sat infront of me and kept looking back at me and stuff so i dunno... but then i go to talk to her and she kinda ignores me i don't get it. I want to ask her so bad but i'm so afraid of rejection, last yaer igot rejected 21 tiems. It was the worst thing ever. And then i endedu p not going . so i 'm just going to ask like 3 people this yaer and then if no one says yes i'll just go alone or whatever. But my other choice is this girls best friedn so basically if i ask one i have to ask the other right away and make sure they don't talk because i dunno i think that it would be weird if i asked one adn then the other with some time like they were my last resort or my second or something. Any suggestions of what i should do how i can ask the girl i really like when i don't talk to her much since she kinda just ignores me but then all my friends say she stares at me all teh time and like .. i dunno. Help! heh thanks

this sounds strangely like my situation, but mine had a bit of a more twist, she was bisexual. But at any rate, it sounds prtty much what happened with me but we didn't talk on the phone that much. Perhaps her excuse is genuine? I would suggest what the person before me said: if she continues donig it .. its rude and tell her that it isn't really respectful or something like that. Just keep trying, and try asking a lot more indirectly. and see what her responses are. that method can really tell you if she wants to do somethnig or not. It has worked for me a few times. good luck!

I know this is just a shot in the dark, but have you thought about maybe saying yea we can do something as a group or something and then just state that the other s will meet up later.. and that'll give you a good lead in .. and then well the person is sort of with you for the night and even if the bastard guy does hit on your lady friend it doesn't matter as much. One other thought is that have you ever tried to get your friend infront of girls to look really really dumb? i've done that a fe times and then i ended up getting them to be reallyl good friends of me and push the arrogant guy away. Hope this could help !

today i sat next to her during breakfast. I dun't know what i was thinking it went pretty south. I sat down kinda inbetween her friend and her.. by accident.. i was gonna sit at this other seat but ti was really close to her and then the otnly other open seat was between her and her friend .. well there were other open seats but they were covered with books / notebooks / papers so di didn't know what was going on. So as i put my tray down they both kinda stopped talking and it was really awkward until uhm, my friend molly came and started talking a lot which was cool. And i kinda talked to the group as a whole but i dunno . I think amybe it was just morning? well i left befoer they did and then they left shortly after ... so i kinda felt good about the situation in the morning but then i realized at lunch they stopped taklign etc. which wasn't cool or aynthing. but then during diner i talked to a friend that knows her pretty well and said my chances with her are -2% .. i thought they were like .01 % .. but whatever at least the number seems to be getting bigger anyways any suggestions of what i should do? Should i try to talk to her again.. should i try to ask her out, or talk to her somemore or just takl to her friends ... i'm kinda at a loss here. Thanks everyone

My story goes as follows: I have liked this girl from afar for quite sometime now about a year and a half. I think that she might think i'm a nice guy but i don't really talk to her. I've been working at getting to know her etc. I've talked to her online a lot and i've asked her once to dinner when she was really down on herself online (i know that was really wrong sorry) She said no but thanks a lot for the offer. I've been trying to talk to her but i really only can talk to her friends and if she comes around i get really nervous (i'm used to public speaking and what not; but this is a lot worse than that). So i don't know. I hav this really hard time talking to her. I think she likes me i'm not sure here is that situation: at lunch breakfast what not at least earlier this yaer she used to turn around to look at me etc. and all my friends noticed it .. it was really obvious so i don't know what that means. She is really good looking to me but not to anyone else so i''ve always wondered if she thought she might like me sorta or trying to like me because no one else likes her? I dunno that might be knida far fetched / justificiation to talk to her and hopes for not being rejected. But anyways, I want to invite her to a movie or to the prom thats coming up in about 2 months. I go on spring break for a month soon and i wanna try to get something down pat soon. I'm not sure what to do and how i can accelerate a friendship fast etc. if i have a hard time takling to her? any helpful hints etc? thanks everyone!