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  1. TLDR; I broke up with my ex a bit over a year ago but I can't seem to move on properly from her and I feel lonely all the time. I broke up with my girlfriend of a year and a half a bit over a year ago. At the time we were doing a long distance relationship and while she said she wanted to come live with me eventually I felt that it was forced. I was also under a huge amount of constant stress and anxiety because I was also reading for a master's degree at the time and I kept fixating that the long distance relationship and added stress of thinking about all the things that come with it wer
  2. Hi, I'm sorry that you're going through this right now. I've been in a similar situation however I was the one to break up due to long distance issues and the girl I was dating started seeing someone else three weeks later. I really understand this feeling of constantly thinking about what happened and wishing that somehow in someway things will just fall into place and you'll get back together but you shouldn't do so. First of all it's really really not healthy for your mind. I did that and eventually ended up needing to take antidepressants for the first time in my life because the pain w
  3. Well I work in the Netherlands and I try to be more socially active but I get what you're saying. I think the issue I'm having is that I feel that it isn't normal at my age to be in such a situation in terms of dating. Maybe I have the wrong idea though. I'm trying to learn the language and I'm always interested in learning the culture because I understand that I need to make effort to integrate properly.
  4. Hi, I'm not sure if this thread should be under "Dating Advice" but I'll explain myself. TLDR; 24 year old expat living in Amsterdam. Haven't been on a date in a really long time and I can't seem to get any female attention. No matter what I try. I'm 24 years old. I broke up with my girlfriend of two years around 1 year ago while I was studying abroad for my masters degree. I went through a pretty hard time but after a couple of months I felt like I was ready to start seeing other people (not necessarily to get into anything serious but at least going out and getting to know new people)
  5. I don't think she will fix my anxiety. I have to fix my anxiety. It's true that I posted multiple threads before, like I said I was struggling with doing an LDR but I loved her and I wanted to keep trying. Fact is that I still love her and I miss her. Anyway, I just wanted to vent here and maybe get some replies which can help me, but I would never put that burden on her or anyone else for that matter. I know it is my issue to solve.
  6. I've seen a psychologist that showed me some coping mechanisms for my anxiety (such as breathing exercises) but after a few sessions she (my therapist) told me that she doesn't think that I needed to go anymore. Also, I didn't get panic/anxiety attacks when I was with her. I actually started to get them after we broke up, the first time when I broke up with her, then twice when I was kind of pressured to give an answer and the fourth time when I found out she was dating already. The crying came in "waves" were I'd be okay for say 2 weeks and then suddenly there is just one week were I started
  7. TL;DR: I left my girlfriend of a year and half because I was unhappy doing long distance to the point that it gave me major anxiety. However, I regret leaving her but she's dating someone else now and I can't seem to move on. Long version (if you have the time please read this): So, I was in a relationship for a year and a half with this amazing girl. We met in February of 2017 and dated till about August 2017. Then came the time for me to move abroad to study for a 2 year masters degree. At this point I decided to break up with her because I had done long distance before but it wasn't
  8. So I had been dating this girl for about a year and a half. 12 of those 18 months were long distance. I broke up with her in July while I was abroad but then in August I went back to my home country for a 4 week holiday and we met a lot during that time. We had agreed to stay friends but when I came back her she told me that she couldn't handle being just friends and that I'd have to choose; either be with her or we should just stop talking. Two weeks past and I was feeling destroyed, but I decided I needed to give being single here a go because I wasn't happy doing long distance. It's importa
  9. Well, this is what "being friends" means. She's not okay with that. She told me that either we're together and fully committed or else we won't see or speak to each other anymore
  10. Sorry for the really long message but I feel that it's important to know the whole story. So I was dating this girl for around a year and a half. The first 6 months we dated normally while the other 12 months where spent long distance. I left my home country to read for a master's degree abroad and to also work there after I get my masters. This was already a problem in our relationship because before knowing that I wanted to move abroad we had a conversation about this and she told me that she wouldn't want to live abroad (I was 22 at the time and she was 20). So when I took this decision
  11. I will try and find a job in the country I moved to. She said she was intending on joining me but recently applied for a new job (which she got and I'm happy for her) and now she said she doesn't know if she'd be willing to move here anymore. Basically I would probably have to go back if I want to be together now (after my masters)
  12. So I dated this girl for a year and a half. 6 months dating normally and the other 12 months spent in an LDR. I broke up with her because the distance was causing me a lot of pain, no other reason other than that. We spent 3 weeks not communicating (except when she decided to speak to me on messenger just to vent and call me things). Then I went back home for a month for a short summer holiday. Here is where things got weird and tricky. We met cause I had to give her some stuff, we spoke, I told her it's best to stay broken up. She had a panic attack and I stayed with her and calmed her
  13. I was dating a girl for a year and a half, 6 months were spent dating normally while the other 12 months we're spent long distance. I like this girl and I really care for her. When we're together we have good times and in a year and a half our feelings for each other grew. However, unfortunately I couldn't take the pain of long distance any longer and I decided to end things (this was very very every difficult for me to do). Now 3 weeks have passed and I went back to home country to spend a month here. I had to meet with her so that I could give her some stuff she left over at my place whe
  14. So you think I should just do it now, and not wait till I see her in person, right?
  15. Thank you and all the others that have replied, I appreciate the help. My last question is the following. In three weeks I will spend some time in my home country on holiday, should I break-up now via skype call? or should I wait until I visit and then break-up? I don't know when I should do it for the following reasons: 1) I believe I should break-up in person as it is more respectful. 2) I think it's cruel to wait another three weeks, let her get all excited that I will visit, and then just dump her.
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