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  1. I knew what it was,I really did. I know neither of us would date a co-worker. It's too messy. You are right though, it would end up even more weird if I said something to him about it. I just have to let it go and that's not something I'm great at yet but I will get there. Honestly I'm glad things aren't so bad that we avoid each other at all cost. We still hang out after work and we are friends. I like it that way. Thank you for the advice
  2. I never wanted to make him out to be a bad guy. I'm just really confused as to why this happened on his end. He isn't a bad person and I've gotten to know him a bit more than I did. I know why I did what I did because i did it. I guess the best solution would have been to not ask for advice here maybe but talk to him about it. I have constant anxiety and most times I don't say what I feel because I'm afraid for whatever dumb reason. Im sorry,this wasn't the right thing to do. I guess I just wanted outsiders opinion and I got it. I know now what happebed and what I did wrong. Now I just have to
  3. Thank you,I appreciate everything you've said and what others have said. I guess I didn't realize the effects of my relationship until the last few days. It's a running joke at work about how much I apologize,feels like I'm apologizing for existing sometimes. And yes,I am a bit paranoid about men. I am insecure and have a very low self esteem and I am scared all the time. Thank you
  4. And I understand that,I guess what bothers me is the whole condom thing that went over my head at the time and that he didn't really engage in conversation until after i had been talking about my ex. I'm just not experienced in any sense of the word and this is all new to me. I've only had 2 serious relationships and both were not great.
  5. I should make this clear,i am not accusing anybody of sexual assault. That is not what I mean by take advantage. What I want to know is if sounded like a plan of his before I had a clue he was hitting on me. I don't have hard feelings about him, we are friends even. I should have been more clear on that. I know I messed my world up and that I need help. I appreciate everything you have said. Thank you
  6. No I am not.i should have written that in there.
  7. No,I am not living with him anymore. I think I will make an appointment to see someone. I don't have a drinking problem but you are right, nothing good comes out of drinking while depressed. Thank you.
  8. So very recently I have left a relationship of 4 years. I have just started a new job 5 months ago and being around more people my age and getting some freedom really opened my eyes that I was extremely unhappy. My ex could be very verbally and mentally abusive. I had never talked about this to anyone in person. So a couple weeks ago I decided to go out for a co-workers birthday. I've never had many friends and at this point my ex and his family were the only people I socialized with. So I was nervous and excited. They party way harder than i do and my insecurity came out. I drank a lot. I ope
  9. He has been in therapy for awhile. I know you are right,if it hasn't changed by now it's just going to get worse. Every time I try to have an honest conversation with him it turns into a mess and I am starting to think it's not worth trying to get him to see the things that are wrong. It's nice to hear someone else say that talking about feelings is normal. I have been with him so long that sometimes I question whether or not I am doing something wrong. The conversation always gets twisted around. Thank you for the advice. I think staying somewhere else would be the smart thing to do.
  10. Got the years wrong last sure I guess,didn't see that. Anyway,it's just hard to get out of the situation. Trust me,I feel incredibly stupid for staying as long as I have. I don't know why I am staying with him. I guess I'm afraid.
  11. I have been with the same man for 3 years. He was so sweet and loving and giving when I met him.most of the time he still is. He is a veteran with ptsd and a traumatic brain injury so sometimes his emotions can be a little extra than usual. We live with his parents and I don't really get along with his mom. They say it's because I don't communicate. Anyway, last night we were all sitting together and he made some stupid joke about me having a dark side to my personality. His mom agreed and they both had a nice laugh about it. This morning I asked him not to make jokes about me if he could help
  12. Thank you for replying. He has gone to many different doctors at the VA for help with his emotional issues but none have really worked for him. To make a long story short the VA has really let him down and he's only ever found one doctor that he's liked. When he gets like this I try very hard to understand where he is coming from but lately it seems like he Thinks i am the problem and that everything would be easier if I just changed myself and act like he wants me to. He's kind of been raised to have a big ego and doesn't think he could possibly learn anything from anyone else. I have told hi
  13. Thank you for replying. I am pretty sure that I will go to my parents for a bit and see how that goes. I think we both need time to think about things and while I know that I am willing to talk things out together but he needs to decide if he is willing to do so without being so abusive about it.
  14. I have been with my fiancee for almost 4 years and we have always gotten along great. We have a lot in common but not too much, we make each other laugh and we both love each other so much. He is a veteran of the navy and has TBI and PTSD. Which comes with a lot of emotional issues such as anger and depression. For someone who has never been around that before I feel like I have beeb understanding and try to help him how I can. He recently started to go back to school and work which has been rewarding for him but also very stressful. We have been squabbling a lot lately. It shouldn't be a big
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