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dreams will last for up to 1-2 months after the breakup...than they disappear. 1 out of 100 hurdles out the way. Evidence that it wont happen over night but life goes on...you will be loved again and you will love again cheers

Grieving period is going to be there...embrace it... feel what it has for you...evidence that you have the ability to love which is the most important thing in love. Second, you love her, very easy to see. But she doesn't seem to have the same feelings. What she has done is low, it makes her look like she is very insecure and needs someone to help her live. I know that without doubt you want her back...you cant make her come back, she has to want to. Write a letter or tell her (prob harder cos youll get inot argument over ex) about how you feel...tell her everything you need to, from how ***ed it is that she left, to how much you love her. Then back off...disappear for as long as it takes for her to return, just remember. Everyone has the right to be with someone who loves them and wants them. Dont torture yourself over somone who can do that to you. By you pressing the issue, she will use ex to fill the viod (you). Remember, you will love again, and someone will love you more, just show people what their missing out on. cheers

thats the ***ing ticket...thanx for the help

Its always great to hear someone elses opinion.cheers

Met this amazing girl. we went out chemistry like crazy. from that day for the next two weeks we saw or spoke to eachother alomost everyday. She broke up with her ex 5 months ago. I met him when we were out. over the last couple of days she hasn't returned my calls...i know it has something to do with him What should i do? Do i call her again Do i wait for her to call me? I really like this girl We were going really strong. We have already intimate times together, which in some ways shows how comfortable we are around eachother. If you havn't followed my stories...i broke up with my gf 7 months ago...hardest thing in my life. This is the first girl i have had feelings for in over 4 years (Me and my ex went out for 4 years i have had such a hard time dealing with me and my ex...now ive met a girl and there are already issues Please help

I understand totally, but the problem is when i do see her she doesn't pay any attention to me, she totally ignores and flaunts her self in front of other guys. How do i act when she ignores me...we were in love, she used never leave my side and tell me how amazing my company was.

Ok this may rake a while so sit tight. I broke up with my gf of 5 1/2 years about 7 months ago. During the relationship we were so in love i thought that she would be the girl that i would spend the rest of my life with. We had such an amazing connection and friendship and looking around i thought that not one other couple were as in love as we were. Towards the end of the relationship i knew something was lacking. There wasn't that spark of romance that we had experienced in the past. My ex as i have to call her now also become very insecure about our relationship and about me in general. She always used to question me about where i was going or who was going to be there or did you see that girl that i know likes you (which i disliked etc). Anyway she broke up with me because of things that i thought were rubbish. There are some things you do with your mates or some things you do and keep to yourself, kinda to ensure and maintain your individuality (nothing like cheating on her...i could never do such a thing). She found out about some stuff...like one night where i said i was going to be at a mates house and i was out with my mates...the thing is theres nothing wrong with it...i just knew that she would get angry at me if i went out without her. She broke up with me and was very angry about the things i did. About 1 months after we broke up...i found out she was seeing a guy who we were both friends with when we were together. This guy was closer to me and we used to see eachother and go out often. To make it easy she started seeing one of my friends. I was so heart broken it was crazy. i couldnt sleep eat function in any way. She said well what about what you did to me, at least i wasn't with you. This guy moved interstate after about a month they were seeing eachother. But i have just found out that he is moving back. I couldn't believe that the girl i loved so much..the girl i gave my life to for 5 years could be with one of my friends so soon after we broke up. I knew that it was easier for her cos he was leaving,..never to return...but now he coming back I don't know what to do. I told her that if you see him i won't be able to look at you or even think about you. I told her that i will bloke her out of my life because that shows no respect at all. She tells me that it probably wasn't the best thing she could have done and that it was a mistake. She also tells me she doesn't want anything with this guy...but deep down i know she is attracted to him and i know he really likes her. she says that there will be no relationship and i said that doesn't even matter...if she is with him for a second, (that is physically) minute a day, a year...i can't and wont be able to respect her. Then again if i see her out all i want to do is talk chat hug and look at her. We have very similar friends so i do see her out every 2 weeks or so. She doesn't speak to me in that sweet voice anymore and she doesn't smile and look me in the eye like she used to. She is treating me bad and says she is not ready to be friends with me cos it is too emotional. On top of that she was and probably will see my friend again. It has been 6 ***ing months since we broke up, 6 ***ing months. It feels like 2 weeks cos of all the amazing memories. Things b/w us are really uncomfortable...i dont know how it could turn to this after the love we had for eachother. I dont know what to do or how to hadle it. Do i ignore her as if she doesn't exist (if she is with him) to i try and win her back...do i make her realise how wrong it is and how hurt i am. My mates say that it was discusting what she and him did. I think about her every 7 minutes (that it honest) it has been 6 months and i think about her every 7 minutes. How do i survive, im so unhappy. I feel so lost and incomplete. What do i do. All of my guy friends talk to her cos she is very attractive and charismatic girl. I feel like she is trying to invade my world and crush me. I know my mates are with me all the way except that ***iong pig who is moving back home. I need help... and advice its been about 3 months since he left and i can;t stop thinking about it. he is coming home soon. Please can someone give me some advice...i cant take the pain and thoughts anymore. i think about it every day. I dont know how much longer i can live with myself.

How can i be supportive if she is seeing a guy that was my friend. It shows her that i have no pride right? The worst thing that anyone can do is cheat and date a friend of your ex. If i stick with it, how do i act? Like hi i miss you so much how are things going with my mate? How can i fucntion like that Then it shoes her thats its ok to do things like that, is it?

Im am having trouble as well...knowing what an amazing girl my ex gf was 5 years together and she threw me away. It has been 6 months and it feels like yesterday cos i havn't moved on. I know it is similar, 1 year and it prob feels like a month cos of all the amazing memories. I will tell you now and i will tell right. THE ONLY WAY TO GET OVER SOMEONE YOU LOVE IS TO FALL IN LOVE WITH SOMEONE ELSE. YOU NEED TO KNOW THAT HE DOESN'T KNOW THAT EVERY 9 MINUTES YOU THINK OF HIM, YOU CAN TELL HIM BUT IT WONT MATTER. YOU NEED TO HELP YOURSELF AND REALISE THAT HE IS MISSING OUT ON A PERSON WHO IS AMAZING, YOU ARE AND IT SOUNDS LIKE IT (FROM THE LOVE THAT YOU HAVE TO OFFER) REMEMBER, FIND SOMEONE ELSE, TRY TO, IF HE WANTS TO COME BACK HE WILL

My gf broke up with me and starting seeing one of my mates not long after we broke up. Yes you should be angry and that will pass over time. You have to ask yourself...if you get her back will you trust her. I know you love her as i do my ex...Tell her how you feel. That your angry, discusted and never thought she could do that to you...cos you prob wouldn't do that to her. Tell her you need some time and space but tell her that you love her and want her back. If you give her space then it allows her to really think about you and what she has done. I f over time she doesn't come back and still sees this guy, you have to decide if you want or friendship ore not. Remember, why love someone who doesn't want you. Why care for someone who doesn't care about you and why want someone who doesn't want you Kepp it real cos you are special cheers

Stop asking her if she has made her decision. By you doing that she feels pressured. You will know when she wants to make it official. I brok up about 2 years ago with my gf, we then got back together. The only way is to let it ride dont ask her again or youl blow it

Thanx for the quick response. I really appreciate it knowing taht there are people that care. She has told me that it just happened and that she doesn't want anything with this guy. I know she doesn't want to hurt me but this guy really likes her and i know he will try to be with her. I know that she has been attracted to him for a while, even when we were together, just by the way she used to talk and look at him. I always knew that he was the one other guy she was attracted to...more than a physical attraction. The thing is it will be so awkward if it happens...all my guy mates...including him know her through me. So you can imagine if they start seeinf her with him. it will really be uncomfortable for everyone, including her. Thats the thing i think will stop her...cos it will seem too wrong and she knows how hurt i will be. But then again she was seeing him for a month knowing how hurt i was and knowing how uncomfortable or how rong everyone else thought it was. If i do get back with her i want to think that it wont go back the way it was. Id like to think that i will try and make her feel secure at all times...kinda drop everything if she feels that way so she can trust me again. She is an insecure girl which i know is common but i think that if she comes back i will make her feel secure and know that im the right guy for her.

I can kinda relate to what your going through. My gf broke up with me and said she doesn't love me anymore. It has been so hard to deal with after the years we spent together and knowing that she used to love me. Now she doesn't want a bar of me...she sayd its too hard. All i want to do is see her...talk to her...love her. I have come to realise that there is no point in loving someone who doesn't love you back. I use to say that my ex gf loves me but she is confused and wants to see whats out there. When it comes down to it she doesn't love me...if she did she would be next to me right now. What im saying is that if your husband or ex husband loved you he would move in with you and be with you. All your doing is living and loving for someone who doesn't love you. Every human being deserved to be with someone who loves them. By you sittinin on your ars and thinking about him...it doesn't help you realise what being loved is. Remember how amazing it was to know your loved. He will move back in and be with you if he loves you. At the moment it seems like he doesn't and thats something you have to understand. Love and parteners are addictive...just like a cigarette. People become addicted to the love of another person...especially if they shard many years together. You have to get over that addiction because it isn't healthy. You need to realise that he will be with you if he wants to...whats the point in crying about someone who doesn't care. You need to realise that you deserve to be loved and that he is missing out on you. I know things were amazing when you were together, you thought you were the luckiset girl in the world, but now things are different and you need to understand that crying over it will not get you anywhere. I read a book called ''Letting Go" i ordered it from link removed. It is an amazing book that has helped realise things. What you should do is write to him or call him and tell him that you love him and want to be with...this should be your last contact. He will know that you love hime and then if he wants to be with you he has the choice...Remember he chooses not to be with you...letting him know you love him is all you can do. You need to realise that you have a gift...the gift to love someone...Use that to go out and find someone new. Get out and find a man that is single and attractive. Try to like...sleep with him...show him tha girl you really are. If he isn't what you like then move on to another.. ALL YOU NEED TO KNOW IS THAT YOUR EXHUSBAND WILL BE WITH YOU IF HE WANTS TO...WHY LOVE AND CARE ABOUT SOMEONE WHO DOESN'T CARE ABOUT YOU. I KNOW ITS HARD COS YOU IT ((((((((WAS))))))) AMAZING BUT IS IT NOW.

Ok this may rake a while so sit tight. I broke up with my gf of 5 1/2 years about 7 months ago. During the relationship we were so in love i thought that she would be the girl that i would spend the rest of my life with. We had such an amazing connection and friendship and looking around i thought that not one other couple were as in love as we were. Towards the end of the relationship i knew something was lacking. There wasn't that spark of romance that we had experienced in the past. My ex as i have to call her now also become very insecure about our relationship and about me in general. She always used to question me about where i was going or who was going to be there or did you see that girl that i know likes you (which i disliked etc). Anyway she broke up with me because of things that i thought were rubbish. There are some things you do with your mates or some things you do and keep to yourself, kinda to ensure and maintain your individuality (nothing like cheating on her...i could never do such a thing). She found out about some stuff...like one night where i said i was going to be at a mates house and i was out with my mates...the thing is theres nothing wrong with it...i just knew that she would get angry at me if i went out without her. She broke up with me and was very angry about the things i did. About 2 months after we broke up...i found out she was seeing a guy who we were both friends with when we were together. This guy was closer to me and we used to see eachother and go out often. To make it easy she started seeing one of my friends. I was so heart broken it was crazy. i couldnt sleep eat function in any way. This guy moved interstate after about a month they were seeing eachother. But i have just found out that he is moving back. I couldn't believe that the girl i loved so much..the girl i gave my life to for 5 years could be with one of my friends so soon after we broke up. I knew that it was easier for her cos he was leaving,..never to return...but now he coming back I don't know what to do. I told her that if you see him i won't be able to look at you or even think about you. I told her that i will bloke her out of my life because that shows no respect at all. She tells me that it probably wasn't the best thing she could have done and that it was a mistake. She also tells me she doesn't want anything with this guy...but deep down i know she is attracted to him and i know he really likes her. she says that there will be no relationship and i said that doesn't even matter...if she is with him for a second (that is physically) minute a day a year...i can't and wont respect her. As much as i say this im so scared.Both my ex and this guy are kinda in the cirlce of my friends so there will be no way for me to escape it. Things b/w us are really uncomfortable...i dont know how it could turn to this after the love we had for eachother. I dont know what to do or how to hadle it. Do i ignore her as if she doesn't exist (if she is with him) to i try and win her back...do i make her realise how wrong it is and how hurt i am. My mates say that it was discusting what she and him did. I need help... and advice its been about 3 months since he left and i can;t stop thinking about it. I think he is coming home soon. Please can someone give me some advice...i cant take the pain and thoughts anymore