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  1. So true! We are still going to be sat there with our masks on hahaha. Socialising is well overdue for everyone!
  2. Thank you. Pleasedonot5 you have summed up my predicament completely. It would be too late/unnecessary almost to cancel (it I did it would seem like I meant more by the film, which I didn't as much as the drink). Plus the clothes. If I dress up too much, then it may look like I am trying to make an impression. But I can wear something relatively nice, not just jeans/joggers etc. As we are still going out to the cinema and haven't been for about a year and why not? It's still a public place. I'm still going, but not with no expectations and I won't organise anything again for just the pair of us. Thank you everyone.
  3. Thank you. Pleasedonot5 you have summed up my predicament completely. It would be too late/unnecessary almost to cancel (it I did it would seem like I meant more by the film, which I didn't as much as the drink). Plus the clothes. If I dress up too much, then it may look like I am trying to make an impression. But I can wear something relatively nice, not just jeans/joggers etc. As we are still going out to the cinema and haven't been for about a year and why not? It's still a public place. I'm still going, but not with no expectations and I won't organise anything again for just the pair of us. Thank you everyone.
  4. I don't know. He didn't say. It could just be an excuse or he is stressed or not over his ex. Who knows. It's a no and that's what matters.
  5. I think that I will still go, but have no expectations of anything. I feel a bit weird cancelling tbh, because it doesn't have to mean anything and doesn't anyway. Plus we are still friends anyway and will see each other again fairly soon.
  6. It wouldn't be fair to message him a lot, to persuade him etc. He has said no, so I've left it as that. I am still friends with him though, but think that it would be unfair to message more than I would ordinarily as friends.
  7. He said no to a date. He was quite flirty in my opinion, quite touchy feely and complimentary (but could just be this sort of person). Anyway, I asked him to go to the cinema and he said yes, then I said, actually do you want to go for a drink and he said no, because he was emotionally unavailable. Anyway, would you still go to the cinema with him? He still wants to go. If so, would you dress casually or make a slight effort. I haven't been messaging him a lot. That's not fair and if he changes his mind, it's up to him, but I shouldn't pester him. Thanks
  8. Thanks everyone. I think that it's probably best if I don't see him again then. I'll have to figure out a reason. (He lives in another city anyway, but messages me every now and then). It's a shame, because we do get on, and there was chemistry last time we met up, but I can't get past the saliva thing.
  9. I have no idea which topic to put this under and it's just tricky. I have dated someone in the past and when I kissed him (it was dark so I couldn't see) he had thick saliva and it was just awful. I could taste it and I didn't kiss him again so it went nowhere. I met him again, years later and we got extremely well. We stayed out all day and it was great. However, again he had thick saliva that is white in the corner of his mouth when he talks between his teeth. It grossed me out. He has started talking to me again and I would love to see him, but this is just in the back of my mind and I don't know how to bring it up without being extremely rude or blunt. Shall I just not even bother? I know a couple of people that do this and they are in relationships. I have no idea how the topic is brought up.
  10. No. Maybe I will suggest things to do that others have done if I enjoy them, but not in a comparison way. Everyone has pros and cons. No one is better than another person if you like the person you are having sex with.
  11. I never really 'got over' mine. I stopped trying to and stopped feeling guilty for it. I just think that I'll always have a soft spot for him, and there is a fondness there, but the relationship wasn't right. Doesn't mean that the feelings have to go completely. It's like an old childhood game that you think of fondly, but have no desire to play with again.
  12. I am 28 and I've only ever been in one 6 month relationship, with someone that didn't make an effort. I have been on SO many dates and I just don't understand how I am still single. It is making me feel really lately, and I feel incredibly lonely and slipping into depression. I am also making stupid decisions. My friends invited me round for tea because they said I didn't look myself. I am also annoyed at myself for not being strong. My friends admire me for being independent, but that is only because I haven't found anyone, and I am also a very weak person. I have a weird push-pull relationship with my ex that I just can't seem to get away from. Everytime I see him we slip into our old routine and one reason is because it is easy. I have also slept with a couple of people and it hasn't made it any better, I just feel ashamed and such a ty person. (I did date someone for about 2 months, but that is it ) I broke up with my ex about 18 months ago. We didn't speak at first but then gradually started speaking again and meeting up occasionally. I missed him but I could cope as a friend. Then, at the start of this year, I realised I was starting to develop feelings for him again. After I thought this, I slept with someone to try and tell myself that I didn't. I said if he didn't want a relationship then I didn't want to see him again. He persuaded me to see him, after telling me that he didn't want a relationship, and we kissed. After that, he acted like nothing happened and we went back to texting everyday. We met up again and he kissed me. Then again and we had sex. He didn't contact me for a few days and I text him asking him what the deal was. He said he didn't realise it meant anything to me so I blocked him. I then slept with someone else on a night out, I think to prove to myself that I don't care. He was 7 years younger than me. My friend said I should see my ex because I was cruel to just block him so we met up to hear him out. He said thanks for unblocking him but when we met up, it made me feel really after I quized him about how much he actually knows about me. He then bought me dinner as a sorry gift. I stopped talking to him and for some reason it started again. I started treating him as a friend and we started texting and talking more, long phone calls. When he didn't come to my party because he said he was ill, I used this as an excuse to cut ties. I felt like he emotionally blackmailed me saying he was hurt that I thought he was lying about being ill. We then didn't speak for months. I then saw him on a night out. We instantly started talking again, it was back to our routine. He came round to my house the next day and said that seeing me again made him happy and then we went to the cinema. My friend said I should ask him on an actual date, to be clear, and see what happens. I dressed up and we went on a date. We kissed at the end of it and he text me saying that he enjoyed it, yet over a week later and he hasn't organised a second date (was away when I suggested a 2nd date). The man that I slept with the second time keeps texting me and he is 7 years younger than me. I don't want to be in a relationship with him and I know I am hurting him, I didn't realise that he was a virgin until he told me half way through, but I keep replying to the flirty messages to keep me distracted and partly because I don't know how to stop (I've already told him that he is too young). Please help. Good advice, advice telling me to not be such a , to get a grip etc. Whatever you think. I just feel so alone and confused.
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