crusher

Hey P, Aside from my own problems...let me shoot this bit of advice, if I can. I strongly urge you to view the situation you are in and your feelings with self-honesty. Does it really feel good to chase a guy for affection? Is this want you want to do throughout your adult life? A guy is not worth your time if he can't make the time and committment in return. BTW this guys behavior probably has nothing to do with you; he is probably, as you yourself suspect, just an operator. Be brave, go through the upset, and move on to something and someone that makes you feel happy and appreciated. Good luck and let me know how you're doing. C-

I was on the other end of the perverbial stick on this subject recently. I was cool to meet someone and start dating....Unfortunately, the guy I met was still in prior relationship recovery, even though he didn't want to admit it. If you discover that this is not the right thing or its not the right time for you...be kind. Let the guy know very specifically what your feelings are for him and what block there may be for you to get further involved with him. If you care about the guy, that's the best thing you can do for him if you can't stick around. Good luck!

Here's my story… So, I was dating this guy for about 7 weeks...we had a good time on Valentine's Day and everything seemed pretty cool. All of a sudden he tells me he doesn't want to date anymore cause "something" is missing...but he can't tell me what it is or what made him decide this. Although I like the guy as a person alot, I wasn't really turned on in bed. There were some other things that didn't really click, but I was trying to give it all a chance. So when he told me this I was upset but felt that it was probably the right way to go. The problem is, I have this "just kicked in the stomach" feeling really bad. This all finalized on Saturday and my friends took me out twice since then and I had a good time; but I am upset and preoccupied with this guy. How long is this gonna last? How do I get him off my mind and accept that I may never know what was going on in his brain? Also, what the hell do I do if he calls me? I am afraid he may change his mind and want to get back together or just as bad call cause he wants to be friends. Thanks guys!