Just a short word - my story. I had an affair for 3 years with a co-worker. My wife found out (suspected) and I eventually confessed. It has been hard, she has agreed to try to forgive me - but she will never forget. There is damage that happens - and I would never do this agin in my life time. Thats what happens with experience - not an experience I would ever suggest you try and get.
What you need to do is sit you wife down, ask her if she want to continue to be married - if she does get to see someone soom. My wife and I in the near future will attend a marriage encounter operated by people who have had the same type of marriage problems. Information can be sought at a local Catholic church (thats where you can get the info - it is not for only catholics) it goes by the name of Retroville (or close) they do have a web site - I have heard good things about them.
After such a weekend encounter you can then decide what to do next. Good luck!
