Jackie

I have been taking him up on his offers to hang out, and I don't mind at all. But it's been like this for the past year. It's almost like he likes me.. wants to go on a date, then takes a month to think. Then starts talking to me again. About 8 months ago he kind of got defensive when I had asked if he looked at it as dating anymore. It's almost like he gets uptight then we didn't talk for a couple months; And that's why Im scared to tell him how I feel again or what I want. I dont' want him to think that Im that kind of girl because I'm not. He can also be a shy guy or seem kind of nervous (when he's not drunk). So I just don't think he'd say what he really wants if I put pressure on him to tell me. very confusing hey!?

Ill try to make a long story short... I dated a guy for almost 3 years, and he broke up with me becasue he said that I deserve someone who can treat me better and he treated me fine and I even told him that! A year later I meet a guy Jon, we have a lot in common, I feel very comfortable around him and he asked me to dinner and a movie. It was a good time. He wanted a 'break' because I moved and we lived too far apart. Now I live in the same city as him and he asked me out again. Had a good time. BUT a week later he said "you're really nice but I don't know what I'm looking for". A couple months later he's asking me if I wanna hang out sometime, go to his house and watch a movie. If I don't know what a guy wants and I really like him, I can get very shy I really like this guy that keeps asking me to "hang out" but I don't know what he wants. His friends told my friend that Jon hasn't had a gf before. And Jon told me awhile ago that the longest he's had one is 2 months. And he's 23! I'm a really easy going girl, not whiny or high maintenance, nice, and just like to have fun. And I don't talk about getting serious or anything. I don't want to just jump out and ask him to date me because I have a feeling that may ruin my chances or scare him off. SO.. if anyone knows what I should do or say PLEASE PLEASE help me!! Or if you know why this guy is giving me mixed signals I'd love it if you could help me out! Thanks A Bunch Jackie