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  1. My boyfriend of 3 years has a female friend. Now usually I wouldnt get worked up because I understand men and females can be just friends; however, the first time they met I wasn't there. She was drinking and kept asking him why he wasn't single and how she wishes he was. They're still good friends, they text basically daily and see each other once a week or so. I've met her and she is really nice to me but I'm still having hesitations about them being such good friends. Is my jealousy justified or am I being crazy?
  2. I guess my biggest issue is if he's been hiding it from me for the past 3 years, he can continue hiding it from me in the future. Like how will I know if he actually quits or just said he did to make me happy? We were planning on getting engaged soon, but I told him I don't want to make that commitment unless he's quit and he agreed. So he has motivation to quit, but also motivation to lie about quitting
  3. At first he said he didn't, but he will for me. A few days later we talked and he said he does. He said he's been wanting to quit since he started. The longest he's gone is a month, but with stress and everything he went back to it. He is sure that with my support, he will be able to.
  4. My boyfriend and I have been together for 3 years. I found out a couple days ago that he has been lying to me about smoking for the entirety of our relationship. At first I was absolutely furious. I felt disrespected and humiliated. After thinking about it, I realized that he did not do this to spite me, but it's just an addiction. He told me he hid it from be because he didn't want to disappoint me, and honestly I get it. I love him with all my heart and I know he is the person I am supposed to be with. I don't want to throw away our relationship because of this, however I told him very clearly how badly he hurt me. I told him that I need respect and honesty and ultimately I need him to quit in order for this to work. I think smoking is a disgusting habit, and he's basically killing himself. He's been smoking about 6-7 cigarettes on and off daily for the past 5 years, so I understand that he won't be able to quit overnight, but I want to do everything I can to help him without being too pushy, you know? We are still young (23) so I'm optimistic that things can change. I just need some advice on how to handle this. Any suggestions are appreciated. Thanks
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