My ex broke up with me a lot during our 7-year relationship, and each time it felt like he fell out of love with me a little more and it was harder to get him back. He was the one who came back every time by calling me or hanging out, or just friends, etc., but always ending up boyfriend and girlfriend again with I love yous and such, for anywhere from 2 months to 6 months of being together, and then break up with me again for about a month or so, but each time our relationship seemed less and less close. He didn't seem to allow himself to fully love me, and he got more and more selfish with himself, concentrating on money, cars, etc. He doesn't communicate well. This recent breakup, he seemed colder than ever and like he moved on a long time ago with all the off and on in our relationship. He seems happier to be rid of me. My question is will NC work even on him, after it has been proven to him over and over again that this is not working and I'll always take him back? He said I'm always there for him, and maybe if I walked away he'd realize he lost me, but he said I'm a revolving door for him and he knows he can take advantage of me and leave and come back all the time. He said I let him walk all over me.
Or has he finally come to the point that he has decided he doesn't want me in his life and the NC will make it easier for him to forget me and move on. Maybe he'd even be happy that I'm gone so he can spend time on his busy career and not invest energy into a relationship with me that hasn't worked out in 7 years of trying (me more than him). He told me to let us go, does that mean he has let go and NC will only strengthen the way he feels? I have no idea if he's seeing anyone or had been cheating on me and what impact that will have on no contact. It just seems like this guy keeps doing the see-saw with me, like a game of I love you and want to make this work, but it's not working and it's over. I've had my heart broken by him so many times, but he just seems to get over it more and more every time.
I'm so sad and I feel really rejected. I won't call him, but I'm curious if there's still a chance after all the failures. Is there a chance he'll wake up and realize he lost me, or there really wasn't anything there in the first place? Also, when I do talk to him, should I tell him I'm dating someone even if I'm not? Thanks! I'm confused beyond belief, but I do think he still loves me deep down. It's quite amazing that someone like him (very unstable) stuck with me for all this time to try and make it work. HELP!