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Actually, I am not sure what I want from him. I like him as a person. I find him fun to hang with but I just am fearful of the age difference. Also, it feels good for once to have a man desire me. I dont get that a lot. Most of the time, men dont even notice me at all.

I am a woman in my earlier thirties and I have always had a hard time finding men to date. Men are just not attracted to me in one way or another. Recently, I met a man during the summer at the Ren Fair. I worked as a performer at a local Ren Fair for the summer. I had talked to this guy a lot at the fair but didnt think anything of it. After the fair ended, he invited me to a few events associated with Ren Fair stuff. I accompanied him to a few of the events and eventually figured out that he is attracted to me. We email each other regularly and have gone out on two "dates". I can tell he is really into me. Me, on the other hand, I like hanging out with him because I am lonely and depressed a lot of times. I am not sure how I feel towards him. There is two problems about him: 1) he is about 55 years old; 2) he weighs around 300 lbs. He was married for many years but his wife died about three years ago. He is lonely and spends a lot of time at home, like a hermit. He does not have a stable job, being laid off from his factory job about 3 years ago. He says that meeting me has been a great thing since I have gotten him out of the house and doing things. He is a really sweet guy, nice, funny, and easygoing. I like him a lot but is the age difference a bit drastic. He just recently took me to an event that his Faire friends were at, and next weekend, we are going to another event that his Faire friends will be. I dont know how people will perceive it if they think we are dating. I dont know if I am doing the right thing or not. Please advise

The only reason I worry is because I dont want people to think bad of me, and I didnt want him to think I was looking for a free shirt or a free ticket to the show. During the run of the fair, I got to know him and talk to him behind scenes. He was fun to chat with and full of information about things. I may see him again if I go up to northern CA in October where is he is doing a 9 week performance. I will be in southern CA in Oct for a wedding. I think I mostly felt embarrassed that his assistant wanted to give me a free shirt and when he asked the performer, he said no, and I felt stupid for being in the middle of that.

I have a strange question.I went to see a comedian perform down in a Chicago theatre. I had seen this person perform at a Ren Fair close to me since I worked there over the summer. I used to talk to him behind scenes every so often. I decided to go watch him perform here and pay $20 for a ticket. I have a feeling he must think I am weird or something. I dont know how to put it, I dont like people thinking bad of me or think I am weird. While I worked at the fair, I would talk to him every so often, tell him things, ask him how he got into performing, etc. I never really bothered him, or I would always ask him if I was bothering him when I approached him and he said no. At the show, I showed up half hour before show started. There was a good sized crowd there for the small theatre. I saw his assistant there selling shirts for him. His assistant is a nice teenaged boy and he likes talking to me. So, I hung out with his assistant while he sold shirts and talked to his assistant. His assistant told me he could get me a shirt for free if I wanted one and I said yeah, that would be good. The performer did pop out his head for a minute before show started but he didnt come out to talk. I ended up sitting with his assistant inside the show. The show was great. During intermission, I hung out and talked to his assistant. After the show, I hung around to say "hi" to the performer because his assistant and another girl who was helping them out said he would be happy if I said hi to him. His assistant then told me that he would ask him if he could give me a shirt for free. I was like" oh you dont have to, dont worry about it" I am not like that. I dont go after free things from people and I didnt want the performer to think I did. I have never been like that. The assistant insisted and went and asked the performer. He told him no since it was the last of his stock. I felt real stupid about that. I did end up buying a shirt and having the performer sign it, and I did talk to him for a bit. I feel like a heel and I feel stupid about the shirt since now I think the performer thinks I wanted a free shirt and a free ticket from him. I also dont think he likes me since maybe I talked to him too much at the fair. I did give him a good tip sometime during the fair, $20. When he passes the tip hat around after each show, most people give about a buck. I dont know. I may see him again, if I go up to the fair out in CA when I am out there in Oct. Am I nuts for thinking this way? That is why I never ask people for favors. If I get shot down, then I feel stupid. Do you guys think I am nuts for thinking this way. I just freak about how people think about me and his assistant was really nice to me and tried to get me a free ticket and a free shirt. I wasnt out to do that, and now that performer must think I am

From what he told me, he had met this girl in the beginning of the fair since she also works at the fair. I happened to meet him towards the end of the fair. I just dont understand, if he was attracted to her and they had gone out on 1-2 dates, then why he ask me out to see a movie with him? Maybe he just likes to hang with women, I dont know. I know he enjoys talking to women, I watched him flirt with a few women at the party. I didnt really hang out with him at the party.

I already went out on a date with him this past Sat., to see a movie. After the movie and on Sunday, I asked him if we might go and hang out again. He told me that we might, but maybe as friends, because he was sort dating a girl I knew from the fair but if it didnt pan out then maybe something could develop between me and him. My whole premise of this question is to see what would possess him to ask me out to see a movie, if he was already interested in this other girl, and he was the one who pursued me at the party last Sat and he was the one who asked me out to the movie. Men are so hard to understand.

For the past nine weekends, I have been working at a Ren Fair. I have had a good time, met a lot of interesting people and made a lot of friends. I initially started out working at the fair as a way for me to meet people, make friends, and maybe find someone to date. I am 30 now and I am starting to feel old and lonely. I kinda want someone in my life soon, that will stick around and not dump me or something like that. Last Sat, there was a party on site where a bunch of people went. Earlier in the day, one of the guys who worked in a candle shop at the fair, talked to me for a bit as I was doing my rounds around the fair. We talked for a bit but I had to go. Later on that night, he saw me at the party and he decided to hang with me. He was real nice and chatty. We talked about our lives. He told me how he had trouble making friends, meeting women, finding a job, etc. I told him about my life and he was very impressed. We talked some more and eventually he asked me out to see a movie with him. I was like sure. I hung out with him for a bit at the party and some of his fellow candle workers showed up and we talked with them. During one part of the conversation, one of guys brought up to him about some girl that he had gone out with twice. He told the guy he wasnt sure what was going on with her and that he hoped to maybe date her. He knew I was there and he had just, about 1/2 hour ago, asked me out to see a movie with him. What gives? I did talk a bit with the guy later on in the party and the other girl was never brought up again. Now to this weekend. We went out to see a movie on Sat night. I had a good time, although, the dork forgot to bring his wallet and I ended up paying for his movie. I dont mind doing that since, besides working at the fair, he has no other job. He lives at home and he has no car. He is 24 years old I believe. I kinda have an interest in him, of I kinda had an interest. After the movie, I asked him if we could go out and do something again maybe, and he was like "yes, we can. I had a good time". He then asked me to stop by on Sunday by the shop and we could exchange numbers. On Sunday we exchanged numbers. On Sunday night was the cast party since Sunday was the last day of fair. I hung out with some people at the party and had a great time. He did show up at the cast party and I talked to him for a bit at times. Before I left, he saw me, came up to me, and wished me well. We hugged each other and then he said have a good one. I told him I may call him in a few weeks to see if we could get together. He was like "yeah, we can, but I have to tell you this. I kinda have been going out with this girl, we have gone on two dates, so if you and I go out, we go out as friends, but if things dont pan out with her, we will see what happens with us. He then gave me a smile. I left. Now I have his number and dont know how to interpret that. How would you guys interpret it? Should I give him a call in a few weeks to see if he might want to go out? BTW, I do know the girl he wants to go out with. When he had mentioned it last Sat, I should have asked him about it. But I am the type, I see what happens but I dont get personal or pushy about it. I feel kinda upset and disappointed in this. Does anybody see ANY hope in this? I will call him in a few weeks.

I just dont understand what he is looking for. He seems like he really enjoys my friendship because he seems to enjoy emailing me back and forth. We do it a lot. My biggiest problem is I am so attracted to him, it is starting to affect me. It is not always like this, it comes and goes. SOmetimes I am ok with just emailing him. Other times, I am so attracted to him I want to go out with him again. What gives? And I dont understand his attitude with me, never did. In the beginning, before he told me he was married, he seemed like he wanted to go out iwth me. Now he doesnt seem like he wants to, but then he is nice and friendly to me at work and we email alot, to the point, if I dont email him, he will email me. Intersting.

I dont know what to do. I am at my wit's end. There is a guy I like at work. He is married. I email him back and forth most days about 3-4 times a day. I ask him for advice, joke with him, etc. I also work with him on a limited basis. I have been attracted to him since Nov. We have gone out and done stuff together only twice. The first time, we went to a tournament and I hung out with him. I ended up kind of having sex with him later on in that afternoon. It was a small fling. He tells me that since he is married, he isnt looking for a fling with me, but that if things happen, things happen. A month after the tournament, we went out and hung out again. This time nothing happened, except that he told me he didnt want a fling. But, after hanging out, and when he walked me to my car, he asked me if he could kiss me. I said no since he wasnt looking for a fling so I wouldnt kiss him. But then he said if things happened, things happen (meaning if it does happen, fine). We then kissed. That was in March. Since then we have not gone out again. We have emailed each other every day at work, about 4-5 times a day. I am getting sick of just emailing him. I am still very attracted to him. Since I work with him, I do see him about 1-2 times a week in his dept. I find any excuse to be in his dept so I can see him and talk to him. I watch him from the corner of my eye at lunch. I even watch him come in, in the morning. I know what time he comes in and he parks on the street. I watch from a conference room window on the 3rd floor. He cant see me. Why am I so damn attracted to him. I get so happy when he emails me back. I try to find ways to flirt with him and he flirts back with me too. I dont know what the hell is wrong with me. I am getting tired of only just emailing. I see him as my friend and he considers me a friend too. He always manages to email me back, call me back if I call him when he is busy, etc. And on the days I DONT email him, he usually drops an email to say "hi". What DOES HE WANT? I want him terribly. I cant stop thinking about him. I look for him at work occasionally. He has promised me to take me out for a drink in June to celebrate my birthday (my birthday was actually a few months ago but he didnt have time to go out until June). I cant wait to go out with him. He tells me he will help me find a bf by setting me up with a friend of his. I dont know whether he is going to help me or just blowing smoke. WHY DO I FEEL THIS WAY??? I am like a teenager with a crush and I am 30 years old. I like him so much. He obviously enjoys my friendship. Why am I so attracted to him. I know he is married and he isnt looking for a fling, although I do flirt with him occasionally at work and I keep on dropping hints about going out. Sometimes, he takes them, other times he ignores them. Why am I being like this? My lust for him is driving me nuts. It seems as though, the more he doesnt want me, the more I want him. HELP ME!

Sisterlynch, my husband knows I am not really happy. He is not into me in a sexual way. He likes me and I think he enjoys my company, but we dont have sex. He has problem with that, not me. That is why I find this guy so intriguing. I am not looking for a relationship with him, just a sexual fling. He being married too, he wrote to me first and, in the beginning, he seemed like he was into a fling too. I might have misread him but we did hang out two weeks ago and messed around a bit. Now he is acting strange again. I wish I had not told him about my Sat plans with my husband. Maybe I could have then got together with him. On Friday, he completely ignored both my emails, which he never does. He always answers one of my emails. I am thinking of not writing emails to him the next two days at work, and also ignoring him except for work-related purposes. Maybe then, he will be interested in going out with me again. DOnt know. Any suggestions?????

I know, but he knows I am married and I knew he was married. We got together after the sport tournament two Sat ago, at a bar, and then we messed around a bit. I thought he was interested in a fling. I also told him I was married because I wanted him to know that I wasnt after him for anything long-term since I was married myself. I just wanted to have a bit of fun with him. That is all. I thought he was interested. If I lay off on writing him, etc., do you think he will be interested again??? He seemed interested at the bar. He tells me he likes my friendship and he enjoys my emails a lot. I dont know what to think

I recently got married almost a year ago. It was an arranged marriage. I know my husband well but we have no sexual relationship. We share a lot in common but he and I are not that close and there is no sex. I have a tendency to flirt with guys at work (People at work do not know I am married). I kinda got attracted to this guy at work. He works in a different dept than I do. One day I ran into him and talked to him a bit, thinking nothing of it. He then wrote me an email. From then on, we had am interesting email conversation. We did this for many days. I email him about 2-3 times a week and we have email conversations. At first I had no idea he was married. He does not wear a wedding ring. I am very proactive. I found him interesting to converse with so I asked him out. He said he was busy. But that he would think about it. He then told me that he was worried about the fact that we worked together in the same company. He still never told me he was married. He did tell me once where he lived before he moved to the city and I have a friend who lives out there. She did some digging around and found out that he was indeed married. I then confronted him about the subject and he told me yes he was married but that I had never asked him so he thought I knew. I asked him in about 3 emails but he never answered that part of the email. He never asked if I was married since the way I am at work, people assume I am single. I did finally tell him I was married and I also told him the situation behind the marriage. He said that he would eventually go out with me maybe for a drink but that it had to be a office party or something like that. He was terribly afraid of people gossiping. I was ok with that for then. Finally, a chance came up for that. There was a farewell party for a guy who worked in our dept. I invited my friend to it since I was invited. We managed to talk there and he seemed interested in me. We had a great time. I flirted with him and he seemed to enjoy it. The next week, on a Sat, we had a company sport tournament. He and I decided to meet there to talk some more and then he and I went off to a bar so we could talk some more. I told him I was interested in him for a fling. He said he would think about it. We then kinda messed around in his car. He was kinda drunk I think. Not sure though. Now I want to see him again. I am so attracted to him. We kinda made preliminary plans to go out this Sat night. We made these plans on Tues afternoon. Later that evening I found out that my husband and I were supposed to go down to the city for dinner and an opera on Sat. I was willing to cancel out with my husband but I wanted my friend to be sure about if we were meeting on Sat. I emailed him on Wed telling him about my dilemma and he said "dont worry, we can meet another time" I was furious. I had looked forward to seeing him again. The next two days, he acted weird to me, partially because work was getting hectic. Although on Friday, he did not respond to any of my emails. He always said he enjoyed getting emails from me. Now I dont know what to think. Is he sick of me??? What???? I like him and want to go out with him again. I am thinking of not writing him for a few days and see what happens. Is he sick of me??? I am confused. He will have to deal with me again because I work with him on a weekly basis. Originally, I did not work with him, my coworker did. After I started to like him, I told my coworker that I wanted to help her out and relieve her stressed out schedule by taking over one of her tasks and I told her I would do the task that dealt with him. She was happy for me to take over and so I did. So I do see him on a work basis about once a week. I was looking for a fling. Thought he was too. Now he is acting weird, why??? I am not looking for a relationship and he seemed like he was ok with fling. I have had flings with a few people from work and most were ok with them being once a week, etc. This guy is weird. Or has he lost interest in me???