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dont rush on telling you're mom, you should do it soon so you can get help. people are going to understnad right when you tell them it all takes time and stuff. she's only cheking up on you becasue she cares and she loves you. so just take it day by day and see where everything goes. time is key

before i start, i struggled with self injury for 3 years, at one point i was clean for 6 months, now its 3 months, and i hope for it to continue this way. and i can definitly see myself succeeding. 1. Gender? female 2. Age? 16 3. What do you consider self injury to be? intentionally harming yourself 4. How long have you self injured? i used to and it was for 3 years 5. How frequently do you self injure? when it got bad i did it atleast 2-4 times a week 6. Are others aware you do this? yes 7. How have others responded to your self injury? Has this been helpful or unhelpful? some were open, some were weirded out and thought i was a psycho. but it made me feel good when my friends asked me cause i knew they wanted to understand and were trying to atleast. 8. Have you ever sought help, medical or otherwise? therapy, i now go every other wednesday 9. How long does a self injury session usually last? How do you feel before, during and after? hmm, the physical cutting took about 10 minutes. before i was so angry, hurt, and had all this rage. after i felt so relaxed and reassured 10. How do you know when it's time to stop a particular session? when i feel ive done enough 11. Are you aware of any labels attached to you as a self injurer? psycho, freak, suicidal, attention-seeking 12. Is self injury helpful to you? In what way? it was 13. Have you ever lost a therapist because s/he couldn't deal with your self-injury? no 14. Would you like to give up self injury? for the most part i already have

ah come on kid, thats not healthy. dont think im someone whos never delt wtih self injury, i struggled for 4 years with it. dont start, i know its hard but be strong, again which is hard to say. the scars are the hardest part to deal with, atleast for me and i know others say that. just please dont start, its hard to stop, its an addiction and you just keep going in a downward spiral. just try and try. chin up and cheer up little one

good for you, when you tell your friend just make sure it's just the 2 of you and its a good setting and such. seeing a therapist isnt scary at all, at first you may be a little nervous but then you grow to feel more comfortable as you see them more. remember their there to help you. they defanitly won't make you feel guilty. but if possible, try to get a therapist that specializes in adolescents and self injury, but if not both atleast adolescents/teenagers. and make sure you like him/her, if you dont then it's pointless to see them and you find a new one. chin up cheer up

yes this is all true though but it sucks cause im really tan and stay tan year round and my scars are darker, it suuuuucks

you're mom is the first person you need to tell, she'll love you no matter what tis called "unconditional love". she'll set you up with a therapist and psychiatrist, and dont worry if/when you see a therapist because everything you tell them is confidential and by law they can't tell anyone. that is unless you tell them something that is potentially harmful to yourself or others, like something super serious. you're friends wont find out unless you tell them, i think its easy to keep that from them unless you feel comfortable telling them. i myself was pretty open about it with my friends if they were to ask about it because their my best friends and they need to understand. even if they didnt/dont understand it made me feel good to know that they atleast were trying to understand and that they care. half the world doesnt understand self injury, hah. i hope this helps. chin up little one, it will all get better all it takes is some courage and effort.

im not talking scars in general but scars brought on by self injury in particular

OK, i used to cut myself and I've been clean for about 3 months and at one point i was clean for 6 months. I dont do it anymore but my scars are the worst. i'm so sad cause i know i probably scare people away, especially boys, when they see them if im wearing a tshirt or dress or something. their the worst with dances cause my arms are 100% visible. and i just hope people dont get scared and creeped out. because i mean when people find out i used to cut myself their always so surprised because of my personality and stuff and how they would never expect it. but basically, im just asking what people think when they see scars.

dude my friends a senior annd shes' dating a sophomore and she started crying a few days ago because shes in love with him so much. ha. in the end age doesnt matter

i've never had a boyfriend either, meh. id say just keep it simple

ah yes, i know how that goes, indeed i do. ive been clean for about 2-3 months and for a while i thought it was an addiction as well. i find it as addicting as drugs or alcoohol. you did it only once in a while for the big things and then you find yourself doing it more and more to the point it gets so bad you're doing it for no reason just because you're bored or something. i was the same way, i wanted to see the blood and scars. but now that i look back im sad because of the scars. but you gotta wear them with pride at times. so just be strong and keep your head up little one. cheers

alot of people dont understand, most of the world doesnt understand why someone would want to cut themselves, if you havent been there then chances are you wont understand.

well yea it hurts physically, you just dont care and it releases all the tensions and it calms you. you have so much anger and u just need to do something and when u cut everything just stops and you just focus.

hello, first of all its not wrong love. dont think that no matter what people may say if they say anything. they dont know what their talking about cause their stupid. well i've been to therapy for 3 years, i know it sucks, i used to have to go 2 times a week, ugh that suuuuucked. but now im down to once every week which is sweet. ok, i had to have self control when ever i wanted to cut. one thing i would think about that reallly helped was how much i didnt want the scars after. i think that the hardest thing to deal with by far are the scars. its horrable, sometimes im embaressed and scared and at other times im like i dont care, it doesnt say who i am. when i wanted to hurt myself i would just go up to my room and get under the covers and listen to music. that calmed me, and i would just lye their for 20 minutes or however long it took to make me feeling better. just be strong thats the only thing you can do, and find other outlets to control your anger and emotions. be strong dear and keep your chin up little one

i am a cutter im not gonna lie cant you see these tears falling from my eye this blade helps me cope with all my pain the deeper i go makes me a little more sane to bleed is so breathe is all i know is right i am cutter why put up a fight Look at my scars and tell me what you see All I can feel is hopelessness surrounding me The sight of myself is too hard to bear Please help me remember how to smile if you care -ive been clean for a couple months and it feels good but i did this when it was bad

yes, i used to cut myself. at one point i was clean for 6 months, wow. ive been clean now for about 2, we have our relapses. Self injury in my opinion is jsut as much an addiction as alcohol and drugs. you only do it once in a while for big things, but then you do it more and more for the littlest things. then you're at the point you're doing it for no reason at all just because you're bored or its something to do. its just a different way of coping with things, some use sex, drugs, alcohol, or food. yet self injurer's are viewed differently because we do it intentionally and cause physical wounds and bring it upon ourselves. it's difficult to understand i know but its good that you're at least trying to. cheers lovely.

dude it sucks to hide the scars, i know. mine are so bad. i have them on my wrists and then my most noticeable ones are on my left arm at my bicep i think its called. but right when look at my arm its all there and like 15 its horrable. its the worst with dances because im swearing strapless and pictures and everything its horrable. ugh i wish i could find something, i use so mcuh stuff. try MEDERMA. i dont know if it works or not though, atleast in my situation because i havent used it consistently so i need to do that, hah. good luck lovely. be strong

what are you getting surgery on?

i dont get it, im a pretty cool fun kid i'd say. im a people person and get along with them really easily and can relate to others. it sucks though, i cant do relationships like commitments. yea, im 16 i know, but i mean id like to have some sort of serious relationship. like theres a lot of boyfriends i could have had but i just couldnt do it. it sucks, and then wehn i hear about them and other girls i get kinda "meh". i just wish i could take a chance and not lose interest. any words of encouragemnt?

i am a girl. im thinking she's into you in some way or another. i think that when you go to a dance, like a formal, there's attraction there no matter what. whether it be just friends or more. see where it goes love. cheers