My fiancé and I were due to be married in a matter of days.
Three weeks ago, after a fight, he decided that the wedding was off.
We had been in similar altercations during our three-year relationship, but we always seemed to work it out. But three weeks before we are to say "I Do", he decides that he's had enough!!!
Enough of what?
We'll I tend to get a little aggressive during fights, and at times have attempted to hit him, but was never successful. He has never hit me back, but he'd storm out and go to his mother's house. I would apologize, say that I am sorry and try to explain to him why I did it. I explained to him that this behavior stemmed from a few things:
1. PMS
2. Being in an abusive relationship years back
3. Seeing my parents fight from time to time as a child
We have discussed the aforementioned on sever occasions, even before he proposed and he seemed willing to work with me. I however, never attempted to get counseling to deal with my rage. We always seemed to sweep each incident under the rug.
After this last fight, he stated that he does not want to begin a life with me until my aggressive behavior ends. He will not agree to postpone or even think about a new date. He says he needs time to "HEAL", and then we can work on the relationship.
Now here I am, broken hearted, my parents are devastated (not to mention all of the money they spent on the wedding), and he is mad at me.
Is he right to break it off now, after we have invested so much time in the relationship and wedding the planning. These fights were random, once a month or so…not always to the point of me becoming physically aggressive, but we did argue a lot. We were both under a lot of stress, but I figured these things would change after we became financially stable and were able to buy a home. Is this his way of telling me he was never happy?
I am seeking professional help to deal with my issues. I really lost now....
I amlost feel like I'm going crazy
Should I trust him if he allowed this to fester for three years and then break it off three weeks before the wedding?
Oh, and his bachelor party was in Vegas...He went!!!
What should I do?