Jump to content

drpenguin

Members
  • Content Count

    20
  • Joined

Community Reputation

3 Neutral

About drpenguin

  • Rank
    Member

Recent Profile Visitors

The recent visitors block is disabled and is not being shown to other users.

  1. Exactly, when you've done the work you become more compassionate than annoyed when things goes down. Cause usually when people snap it's not just about the "throwing out the garbage." Usually it's: Are they feeling heard? Do you care? Did you notice they were trying to do something special? Etc. You start addressing root issues, not just the throwing out the garbage. My girl loves me for it. Ultimately did you do the work? Had I not did my transformation I'd probably still be pining over my ex as opposed to simply being happy with how things are. To clarify "Now I didn't feel any d
  2. Um, did you read the post? We're both happily with different people right now. The entire post was about letting go and moving on. Granted mine was rather extreme, I think they're some lessons here for people to learn
  3. She reached out, she didn't want to get back together, she married the other guy pretty soon after. So how the heck is this a happy ending??? Just thought you guys want to know what's it like on the other end of the tunnel, since not many who have moved on really come back to tell their stories. Now this is my experience, mind you, take what is useful, discard what's not. Soon after the faithful "reach out" that we all wait for, I was crushed. I thought I had done everything right from the No-Contact rule book. I didn't call her, text her, contact her, cyberstalk her whatsoever
  4. Ok folks this will probably be the last time I'll be posting on here because I thought it'd help anyone thinking about trying to get your ex back using No-Contact. The short of it: No-Contact is the way to go so you can Move on, NOT to get them back. Cause honestly what's done is done and there's nothing else you really can do to save the relationship short of inventing a time machine (Let me know if you do invent one though.) To quote one of my buddies, "grandma's dead" I know this is brutal, but the truth is. Had I taken this advice as opposed to keep my hopes up that my ex was goi
  5. Did they tell you to write a letter too? I booked a session and that's what they said. They Even proofread the letter and told me its good to go. I didn't send it because when I reread it, it sounded rather needy.
  6. I like Coach Craig, almost grudgingly makes sense and verbally smacks you if he senses you're going to do something stupid. I've done a few skypes with him, and his rates are fair considering what's available on the market. I also like listening to Corey Wayne as well. They both give similar advice, but i definitely won't pay a grand for coaching from him
  7. Wow 18, ok so you're really young here. This is going to be a listen to your elders moment... In short yes No Contact is what you're going to need to do. It's clear you have an anxious personality from the "fear of abandonment" statement and that you're going to have to learn how to soothe that anxiety, or it'll be the reason you won't be able to have a relationship with ANYONE. Right now any news of his dating life is going to drive you more and more mad, and although it feels terrible to have him cut out of your life, it'll be worse to hear all the nitty gritty details You guys are no
  8. Not necessarily a full fledge psychiatrist, but like a therapist or a counselor. Psychiatrist prescribes you drugs, the others helps you analyze your problems into something productive (more important). I see two currently (I got good insurance) and well I've made huge headways after 2 months of NC. Without counseling I would've broken NC so many times. Give you someone who will listen to you without any bias, especially if you're overly concerned of bugging your friend and family. Also they might help you dig into deeper personal issues that you may be self-sabotaging your relationships.
  9. If you honestly want to be with someone, you don't settle for friendship. Ever heard of the friendzone dude, c'mon. Anytime a girl proposes friendship when you just want to jump in to her sheets, is a sign to simply back away and move on to someone who appreciates you more. Hell sometimes the chick will realize that you're not some chump she can just string around at her beck and call and run after you. (Case in point my 2nd gf when I finally just gave up and backed away I get a call in a week that she wanted me) Move on, work out, go out, and get counseling as needed (seriously it helps
  10. I've been this guy recently. Didn't want to commit to having an exclusive relationship with my gf (who was my best friend for a decade before we dated), since I wasn't ready to settle down. At some point my ex-gf just had to leave in search of a man who can commit. I'm the one on this forum trying to win her back. It's been 2 months and no contact. You do the math, you know what to do. Good luck
  11. You KNOW what you need to do, you DON'T want to do it. Make up your mind, do you want her or do you not want her. And if you just want sex there are plenty of other girls. You can't get affection unless you're in a relationship so figure your stuff out.
  12. My ex is currently in a "rebound." This post from the former archive helps me keep strong after 2 months NC Either way, whether reconcillation or moving on, work out, go out, and get counselling as needed (seriously, it helps). It's better to move on and have your ex return then, than it is to keep waiting hopefully and have them never return.
  13. So I've decided to write a letter. I don't know if I'll ever send it, but based off some advice I've gotten here and through some dating coaches, it seems like something that at least I should consider working on. I am getting out there and having fun, and my life has changed drastically since the break, so a part of me definitely questions whether reaching out is good for me right now. I still miss her like crazy, but considering she's not even single, and haven't bothered reaching out is rather telling about my situation. Nonetheless she was (is?) my best friend and I know deep down I
  14. Honestly, sounds like you're in denial. This is someone you met on the internet, who has shown to be disloyal to you, known her for under 6 months, AND it was a long-distance relationship so I doubt you've really seriously gotten to know each other very well. How exactly does this add up to someone who's going to be a best friends? Add the former emotions that are always going to be lingering PERIOD and she has felt the need to BLOCK you and You're just setting yourself up for catastrophe. Honestly, be the bigger person and WALK AWAY while the pain is relatively minor. If she really values
×
×
  • Create New...