My husband and I got married right out of high school and have been married for 6 years now. Up until a few months ago, our relationship was the best. Well recently, I've noticed that he has been very argumentive and has been spending a lot of time with his friends. He also wasn't spending as much time with me as he used to. Of course the thought of him cheating did not cross my mind because him and I were closer than that. We were best friends as well as lovers. Because of his unusual behavior, I started to get angry and began to act the same way. When he noticed that I didn't pay much attention to him, he would ask me a million questions and tried to make up with me.
Just recently, I've noticed that he started (maybe) having some kind of phsycological problem. He has been having crazy ideas about someone trying to hurt him, or that everybody is against him. He's even accused me of cheating on him. I for one have too much pride and care for my relationship way too much to do so. Anyhow, just the other day, I noticed that he's been having multiple personalities or something. He will be somewhat normal one minute, and then go completely nuts five minutes later and begin talking about things that do not even make sense.
So I decided to take him away somewhere thinking that maybe he just needed to clear his mind and rest for a minute. So I took him to a hotel a few cities away from home. Well, he seemed to be okay until he woke up the next morning and left the hotel @ 5am. He didn't say where he was going either. Two hours later, I received a phone call from a nurse at a nearby hospital whom said that he had fallen asleep while driving and had been in an auto accident, and crashed into a wall. I rushed to the hospital (he was okay) and when he was released-just with a couple of bruises, we went to another hotel and I decided to find out what was going on.
I come to find out that he cheated on me a few months ago with a woman that he used to work with. He told me that she was staying in a hotel because she was evicted from her home, and she asked him if he would pay her to have sex with him so that she could cover the hotel tab. Well, he did.... and it happened about 5 times he says. He told me that he just wanted to help her out.
So when he crashed our car, he really tried to kill himself because he was regreting what he did with this woman. He couldn't stand being around me knowing that he made a huge mistake.
I know there are no excuses for cheating, and once a cheater-always a cheater, but I'm confused.... I love him so much because he is a great man inside and out, but I dont know if I should stay or go?????? On a scale of 1-10, our relationship has always been a 10. Please help!!!! I need advise soon!!! Should I stay or should I go???
