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  1. Hi, thanks for your reply. I'm planning to bring up the time he asked me to lunch and explain why I declined it at the time. Then I'll explain why my feelings for him have changed. I agree, I just want to see how it goes with one date. I have a feeling that he'll reject the idea though because he seemed pretty distant today and might have moved on. Thanks for advice... this is the first time I've to ask someone out!
  2. Thank you for the advice everyone. I think I'm going to give it another few days before being direct with him and explaining my actions.
  3. I met this guy a last month and we've been building a pretty good friendship. We're in our early 20s. I didn't see him as a romantic potential because I just came out of a breakup... and I just didn't see him that way. Last week he invited me to get lunch with him. I asked if any friends from his circle were going. He said it would be just us. I was feeling weird about it because we've never hung out 1 on 1. I guess he picked up on my discomfort and just told me to forget that the conservation happened. We continued to be friends like nothing happened. What's ironic is that ever since then
  4. It's probably nothing because he's willing to let you meet her. If you see anything concrete then you may need to bring it up with your boyfriend in a non confrontational way. But so far it looks like nothing to worry about.
  5. I guess it's a mix of uni, work, and just the fact that we both have low sex drives? I parents don't like it when I get home past 9pm, but when we do hang out, we go to places like movies, exhibitions, and sight seeing. I don't know what it is, but it's very natural for us even though we're aware that everyone else does it so much more often lol
  6. Hi, thank you for your reply. Yes, I did discuss it with him but we came to the conclusion that a condom would do just fine. I started to deeply regret that decision when it was too late. Seriously considering getting an implant instead so this never happens again. I'm going through the other comments here and it's true, a lot of my fears come from how others view me. I think i'm going to bring up abstaining sex to my boyfriend until my head and self-esteem are in a better place. It does sound like the best option right now (and it's not just pregnancy that I get anxious about). He'll defi
  7. Thank you so much for your reply, it is really reassuring. He definitely came in the condom, I watched him take it off and checked to see if there was any leakage. There didn't seem to be any. I guess if I thought about this logically, I am not pregnant unless he had superhuman sperm or something. There's still a part of me that is afraid of being part of the small percentage of people who get knocked up even after perfect use of the condom. You're right. I'm going to take a pregnancy test in a couple of days (don't want to test too early to avoid a false negative reading). And I also
  8. By how much has the protection decreased? When I was up to the middle of the last week of my combined pill pack, I missed a pill. I took two pills at the same time the next day to "make up for it". A few days into the sugar pill week, I got withdrawal bleeding as normal. In retrospect, I really should have just skipped the placebo pills completely and started a new pack, but I seldom have sex (like I then had protected sex (with a condom) 2 days into a new pack. At the time I thought a condom would be enough, but now I'm freaking out. I really cannot risk getting pregnant at this st
  9. So there's this online voice call application that we all use. You join a room and anyone else can join. People can see who's currently in the call. My friends join the room so they can play games together. However, sometimes it's just me and my ex in the room. We're not necessarily talking the whole time because we're doing other stuff on the side. We usually just talk about games, work, university, other friends... I never hang out with in alone in real life. But my boyfriend tells me it makes him uncomfortable when he sees us alone in the room. I guess an easy solution would just to n
  10. Hi everyone. This might not be your ordinary story here. We're all in our early 20s. I broke up with my then boyfriend of 9 months early last year. The breakup wasn't messy. The three of us are part of the same friendship circle so we have a lot of mutual friends. After a few months of no contact after the breakup, my ex and I finally started talking as platonic friends again. Never did we bring up the fact that we used to date. So we sort of treat it as if we never dated. About a year later after the break up, I started dating his friend. We've been together for about 4 months now
  11. Yes but not very close friends. Personally I don't get close to men that I am not romantically into. By "close" I mean talking on a regular basis and meeting up to "catch-up." I think it really depends on the person because I have trouble with forming very strong bonds with other people.
  12. It really depends, I think. If the dumper truly believed that they were in a crappy relationship, then they probably wouldn't regret it. I initiated my last break up and I regretted it for the next 5 months even though I knew at the back of my head that I made the right choice. Time really does heal.
  13. Yep, they're guys. I think you're spot on. They don't really have any other female friends that I know of either. Thanks!!!
  14. Oh yes, so the couple friends that we invite are always able to make it. The single friends somehow end up flaking. :( But you're right. I might give it some more time.
  15. I would not be ok with this. Especially since he did not give you a heads up at all. If he respected your relationship he would not have put himself in such a questionable position. As some of the posters said above, think about the planning that they must have gone through for that whole day. - Basically pending the night with another girl? - Spending more than 12 hours alone with another girl? - Not telling you that he was with this girl? - Being in a private karaoke room with another girl? - On your 4th year anniversary? (not to mention the alcohol) There are just so many thing
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