Glitter_Girl_4

Im glad other people have decided to give me an opinion! Ticklebug, thanks for replying... You are completely right.. I am insecure and I get upset/jealous when me and our relationship isnt at the top of his list... I want councelling and I even said to him that I would get councelling (cause I feel I need it) and he told me to stop being stupid.. he says I dont need councelling I just need to smarten up... I should just enjoy the time we have together, Im sure things would end up much better quicker if I did that, but its hard sometimes... like I feel if in a month he is just going to tell me he only wants to be friends then I dont want to waste anymore time.... He is great but I cant be friends with him if we break up... Thanks!

So my LONG TERM bf and I have recently split up. He is very upset about my attitude and our constant fighting over ridiculous issues. He also has felt like he can not go out with his friends or do something on his own. I am willing to work with him on these problems and I believe I had been doing very well with the second issue, but we still were having little fights. So we broke up, he said he wanted some time to think. After a few days he would call me every few days and we could get togehter for a few hours. He told me over and over that he loves me so much and not to ever forget that. After some chatting he told me he would LIKE to see if we can work things out. A few days ago he said that he really really wants to be with me forever but he doesnt know if he can (fighting) One night we saw each other I broke down (not crying) and I started asking questions about our relationship. He said to me that if I got rid of my attitude everything would be great. I swore I would never do that again. I did mention it again once and he said again it was all about whether I get rid of my attitude and once he sees a change then we can start things up again. He also told me that he was all set to never see me again but he didnt want that so thats why we are trying to work things out and to please just stop asking about our relationship. I understand where he is coming from. My questions regarding this are very stressful to both of us. Ive been trying but Im sure most of you can understand, sometimes it is really hard not to say something. Each time I see him, or over the phone if I am not going to see him later he says to me (before I say it) "I love you baby" ALOT of the time I am ALWAYS the one to say it first, of course I am not anymore so he is.. then I say it back. He also gives me many kisses too (not long french kisses, just very sweet little kisses on the lips, but that is mostly what we liked to do anyway) He mentioned to me a few days ago how he would like to take a nice drive to his hometown (4 hours away). We love long drives and havent been there in about 1 year. He also was supposed to come with me somewhere last night (family related) and he made plans with a buddy, when I reminded him he let the buddy know he wouldnt meet up with him till 10pm. He came with me to the family thing then drove me home and went out with his buddy. He asked me to be at his house by 8:30am this morning. I was, and we left. Had a lovely drive and a great time. We didnt talk alot but because he was supertired (out late last night but only had 4 beers). Normally he is super ugly when tired but this time he just didnt talk much but he did look at me and smiled alot. We got pizza and I said something briefly about "us" and he flipped and yelled at me to stop pestering him about "us". He said its superannoying when every word out of my mouth is about "us". I had no idea I was even saying anything about it today(until that moment). HONESTLY. After we ate we took his video game back and when we pulled into his house he thanked me for a great day and said "I love you baby, talk to you later ok?" He gave me a sweet kiss and got out of the car saying goodbye. Am I a retard sticking around or is this ok? Except for the title bf/gf and not seeing him as much it seems asthough everything is the same as it was before. He has recently been talking about near my bday (january) going to Alberta to visit my best friend and her bf. We talk about other things to do next year and even a few times (not tonight) the future has come up, just little things like "I want our kids to do that" or "I hope our kids are cute" (haha, I just reread this and that may seem a little rude of him. He just said that because my cousins kid is 5 and not so cute right now, so he commented on her and then said that he hoped that our kids were cute. He didnt mean anything rude by it at all) Sorry for the babbling, Any comments/ideas on the situation would be appreciated. WHY ARE MEN SO CONFUSING???!!!!!

We are BOTH 24... there is NO WAY I would ever consider having a baby with him without him wanting one. I was once pregnant by him and he was so excited... I felt that at 21 with my life just starting we couldnt have a baby.... sometimes I think he was actually upset with me about it and never told me.... He is very iffy about kids now.. sometimes he wants them.. sometimes he doesnt... but not for a few years... hopefully by the time he is 27 he will feel better about it and he wont get so crazy when he hears a baby cry...

I realized that.... I was just hoping there was something I could do to help, or I need to figure out a way to make my bf really really want kids in a few years...

Hmmm... thats really too bad... I was hoping there was something I could do.. but keeping their needs met makes sense obviously. My bf doesnt want to have kids if they are going to be like my neice and godchild. We saw a baby at the restaurant we went to tonight and my bf said "Now thats a great baby, I would love to have one like that".... From what I could see with my godchild I thought that when you ALWAYS pick them up every time they cry that affects things... Like my godchilds mother wouldnt even let her cry for 30 seconds when it was bedtime. She would automatically just go get her and let her sleep with her, or in something in the living room. Or if she knew that the baby was fed and changed and then put the baby on the floor and she started crying she would automatically pick her up...My godchild learned that she didnt like to be away from her mothers arm and anytime she was put down she screamed and right away got picked up again.

Hi Everyone, This is really important.. Im not exactly sure how to go about looking for answers using a search engine so I thought it would be best to ask all the people who already have children. The experts themselves!!! When you have a baby what are some things or tips you can do to have a really good baby. What I mean by this is a baby who only cries when he or she is hungry, needs changing or when there is something seriously wrong. If at all possible (I firmly believe it is how the parents raise the child) I want to raise a child who doesnt cry all the time. Sometimes you see parents out with their babies and they are so good. They sit in the high chair or in their stroller and they are just happy happy babies.. and then others are insane and they cry 24/7 and no matter what you do they just scream. My neice and godchild were both like this... the mothers were 21 and 20. Hopefully I have made sense and I get some great tips. Thanks

Sorry, I have never been married before. I just meant I dont want to live with another alcoholic. Deal with another alcoholic. I dont think I control him, but he seems to think that way. He usually does not do anything behind my back. He openly told me about going to the bars.

I finally called him because I thought of something sure enough.. he had fallen asleep when he got home from work... so tired from his night out partying I asked if it was going to be a weekly habit and he said he didnt know but if he wanted it to be it would... He invited me over to eat and asked me to pick up a movie.. he isnt interested in going out tonight...

Im sure that is true but its so odd that we get into a fight and right away they start going to the bars again. They were supposed to go two weekends ago but apparently didnt after all. So they went this Saturday and then yesterday. I just thought that was a little much. Im sure he isnt cheating but what if he meant a chick on the weekend and went back last night to see her. Im stressin myself out about this. He said he would call me later. I assumed that meant to hang out but he hasnt called yet. He is one hour late from when he usually calls.

Ok.. When I met my bf 4 years ago we would go out drinking with friends quite a bit. It got old and since I was struggling with an alcoholic mother we decided we didnt like drinking anymore. In these 4 years we really have only gotten drunk together maybe 4 times. About a year and a half ago we decided to start doing more things on our own. Since he didnt have any friends he would go hang out with his brother. They would go to the bars but he always only ever had one drink and was home by around 1:30am He ended up moving out and getting his own place and he started hanging out with a friend and they have gone to the bars maybe 5 times in the last year and a half. They would take cabs and actually get drunk. Im a little hurt over this because he KNOWS how betrayed I feel by my mother, I dont want to marry another alcoholic. He never wants me to join him. Only once was I invited (August) and I didnt go cause I was tired. He said he doesnt like the way I am when I drink. We have been having some major problems the last 3 weeks and apparently he was going out with his roommate to the bars on Saturday night. I havent asked him about this because I want to not care. Well I spoke to him briefly today and I noticed he had a scratch on his neck and I asked him how he got it. He said some big guy in a uniform at the bar last night scratched him when they hugged. I asked him why he was out at a bar last night (cause he felt like it) and why did this guy hug him (cause we were drunk). I am SOOOO UPSET!! I dont think I should be but I cant help it. 1. I thought we didnt like drinking so often 2. He doesnt have the money to be wasting at bars 3. He will NEVER stay out past like 10pm with me on a weekday cause he works. What does this mean? With the problems we have been having I KNOW I cant ask him about last night. I cried the whole way home. Could he really be out with some chick? I dont think he would ever cheat on me and some of his friends say the same thing.