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  1. 12Network
    Day 1 - We broke up on Tuesday, I didn't contact him on Wednesday and then I texted him yesterday. I asked if we could try and talk it through and he said no, we're better off as friends but we would need some time apart before that could happen. We have tickets to go to 3 concerts in the fall (the first is just over 5 weeks away) and I really want to go to them so I asked if we could see how we're feeling about being friends closer to and maybe still go. He hasn't replied. So starting no contact today. I realize we both have some issues we need to work through before anything could work between us. Reading the getting back together stories has really helped me see that we both need to work on those before any sort of successful relationship can happen. I don't think he's going to come back and change his mind, I think he's pretty set and it's pretty much over. But I still have some hope. I need to work on myself first and hope that he does as well. This forum was very helpful in my last breakup so hoping it will be in this one as well.
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    Today is 28 days of no contact, 16 days since our last administrative email, and almost 3 months since the break up. I have been doing a lot better, I haven't cried in almost a week. Today though, I don't know, I just woke up feeling down and missing him a lot. I feel like I'm on the verge of tears and I really want to message him. I just wish he missed me. How can you miss someone so much who could care less? On a side note, if you see this May - I can't reply to your message, it says your inbox is full!
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    Day 18/8 - I haven't posted in a while. I have been doing a lot better. I was looking for a picture of my cat today and instead found a pile of all the photos we had had developed of the two of us. It just made me think about how happy we used to be.
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    Even if I've accepted that the breakup was inevitable it still hurts that you're so ok. I don't understand how after living together, sharing everything together, you don't even miss me.
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    Day 14/4 - Today is 10 weeks since we broke up. Nights have been the worst, it's like during the day you can keep yourself busy but when you go to bed you're left alone with your thoughts. Thus, for the last 10 weeks I've slept terrible, staying awake until the early hours of the morning and falling asleep watching movies or youtube. I think I reached a turning point though, last night I was able to just go to bed and this morning I didn't immediately check my phone. I am going to try and come on here less so that I can focus on moving on.
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    Day 13/3, tomorrow will be 10 weeks broken up- I go back and forth between hating and never wanting to see him again and being heartbroken and just sad. I made a point to not check my phone as soon as I woke up this morning which is the first time. It made me feel a bit more in control.
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    Day 11/1 - I ran into one of his friends from school today. She stopped me and said "you're {his name}'s girlfriend right?" That was hard. I think she thought I was a b*tch, I just said "not any more" I tried to say it with nonchalance but it came out with much more of an attitude than I meant. Ugh.. I've had to tell all of his friends, he hasn't told any of them. As if, on top of everything else, I have to deal with telling your friends.
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    Day 11 of NC/0 since I had to send an email about the apartment today. I missed him a lot today, I was very close to asking him to just call for a catch up or to play a game of chess. I just miss him a lot.
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    Day 10 NC, 2 since administrative email, which he still hasn't replied to. I know it's just administrative details and not 'real' contact but it still bothers me that he hasn't replied. I have tried to draw a line between contact and the required separating our stuff emails but this is the first time he hasn't replied and it's driving me crazy, I guess they're not that different. It's really frustrating because I can't just cut off all contact until this is all dealt with.
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    Day 9 NC, 1 since administrative email (which he annoyingly hasn't replied to). I don't really have anything new to say. I'm glad I packed up all his stuff, it's nice to not have it all around.
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    9 weeks since break up, 8 days of NC, 1 day since administrative email.
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    Day 7 of NC. Tomorrow will be 9 weeks since we broke up. I've noticed it's a different kind of sad now. It's no longer can't get out of bed, crying so hard you can't breath. Instead it's just a constant overwhelming unhappiness with occasional, more manageable, tears. I'm going through the motions, doing everything I'm suppose to - working out, new hobbies, seeing a psychologist, spending time with friends and family. I don't know if this is better, it doesn't feel like I'm getting over it, just learning how to get on with my life. I still check my phone every morning, more out of habit now than any actual hope that you will have messaged me. I still think about you all the time and miss you constantly. I've also started to accept that you're not going to come back, that you're happier with her, even if I don't understand it. My heart breaks every time I think of you with her. I just miss you.
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    On March 23rd I jokingly asked if I should read anything into the fact that you you changed your profile picture to one without me and you laughed and said no, you wouldn't do that. Then on the morning of March 25th you told me you loved me and you missed me and that I was your favorite person in the world. Then, on the afternoon of March 25th you left me for her. And it broke my heart. I just don't know what happened. I just miss you.
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    Day 6 NC (Day 3 no administrative emails). I have started seeing a therapist, so I met with her this morning. I don't know if it's helping.... I just want him to miss me and realize he made a mistake and he misses me... I know how you feel! Sometimes I wake up and think I'm finally making progress and then something will happen that will remind me of him and it will just go donwnhill. People keep saying the same thing about how you just have to let it go and either it will work out or you'll get over it and be ok... but it's not that easy is it? It's been almost 9 weeks since we've broken up and while it is still really hard I think it is getting better. I think I'm learning how to let go without letting go of hope. I am working on moving forward with my life and trying to be happy again without shutting the door completely. That is, how do I move on and be happy so that if he doesn't come back I'll be ok but if he does the door is still ajar that we could work it out. It's a hard line to walk.
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    Today is day 5 since we've spoken, day 1 since we emailed about the apartment. It's so frustrating because I have to email him again tomorrow about the apartment. And then I'll have to email him at the end of June and then I'll have to see him in July and then I can go no contact. I just want to email him and say you know what come get your stuff or I'm giving it all away but part of me is scared that if I'm mean to him he'll never come back. I know I shouldn't care, I should only focus on me but I still hope. It just seems so unfair that he's treated me so poorly and he gets off scot free while I am in pain. Part of me wants to email his family and tell them that he cheated on me and broke up with me and dropped out of school to be with her, and just so you know he's a terrible person.
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    Day 9 - I sent him a message today about our apartment (we have to deal with getting rid of the apartment)... I don't know if I have to or not but seeing as it wasn't just to chat I don't know if it counts as breaking NC?
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    Day 8 for me today... Yesterday was particularly hard. I think because I am also without a job at the moment it makes it more difficult because I have more time to think about it. Sigh....
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    I just joined but today is day 7 of NC, 7 weeks since we broke up. It hasn't gotten any easier. He's still the first person I think about when I wake up each morning, I cry all the time, I just don't understand what happened. He broke up with me litterally a few hours after telling me he loved me and that I was his favourite person in the world.
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    I have read this entire thread over the past few weeks and it has really helped me! If you would be willing to read my story and give me your opinion I'd really apprecaite it (not sure how to post a link - in the getting back together section title 'Ex Immediately in a New Relationship...Advice') To keep on topic I have a couple of stories! 1. A friend of mine dated this guy in college for I think about 2 years. She ended up getting a summer placement one summer and met someone else and broke up with him for this new guy. They were broken up for 3 months (I don't know if NC or not) and she came back and said she made a mistake. They are getting married in the next couple of months. 2. My aunt dated this guy in college but was concerned that it was too serious so she broke up with him. They met again in a bar a year later and have been married for something like 20 years with 3 kids. 3. My other aunt dated this guy in college as I well. I don't know who broke up with who but they broke up when they graduated. She moved back to the city a few years later and it ended up that one of the apartments she looked at to move into he was moving out of. They also ended up getting married 4. My great-aunt was married to this guy and divorced about 25ish years ago. They met again last year and have now remarried.
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