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    I am a shy person. I have to know people really well and then I am funloving and crazy sometimes. I hang around a certain group of guys all the time b/c they are friends with my best friends's brother. So anyway, I am shy around them b/c they are loud and funny and crazy. Well one of the guys started hitting on me and I really liked him but he would never take the initiative to actually date me. Me friend says he is just shy, but he would keep trying to get me to stay with him so I felt like he was just trying to get sex (which I never gave him) so I gave up on him. Well now, another of the guys has expressed an interest but he was joking around asking if I could keep him warm. So I don't know if he is trying to get sex too or if he actually is interested. I mean it is new but he hasn't tried to ask me out either. I don't know what is going on. I mean, why do I make guys not want to be committed to me? I am shy! Its not like I seem fast or something. If you asked anyone, they would say I am the LEAST likely to sleep with someone unless I was in a serious relationship and its true. SO what is the deal? Help!
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    The holidays are always tough right after a break-up but ya know how the holidays are always over too fast??? Well it will be over soon. Anyway, I went through that last year.(first holiday w.out bf of four years!!!) and it hurt..but once I got through it it made jan on out seem a lot easier and before I knew it, i wasn't thinking about him anymore. It was right when I stopped thinking about him and started having fun again that he tried to come back too so watch out for that. Anyway, stay strong and good job not calling. It easier said that done and always tough to resist!
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    Well, you are obviously still hurt about your last relationship and you feel rejected by that girl even today. That is why all of this is giving you such an ego boost. The reason none of these girls interest you past a minor flirtation is b/c none of them are HER. You have got to open yourself up to meeting someone really worth your time and allow yourself to trust women. There is a girl out there for you that won't hurt you or chase you down and monopolize your time. You in the meantime, need to be fair to these girls. DON"T string them along if you find out you are not interested. Just say something like, I just got out of something serious and I thought I was ready and I am not. I need some time by myself. Its just not right to be that way with these girls when you know it isn't going anywhere. The world needs more honest guys in it. Be that guy, better yet be a man, be honest with them, open yourself up to finding a real relationship again cause you never know and remember that its hurts to go through a breakup but when you meet the right woman one day, It will all seem worthwhile. Take care!
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    I met this amazing guy ( the kind I have been searching forever for) only thing is, he was separated from his wife whom he has children with. I decided to be understanding b/c I figured Mr.Right has to come with some price. So anyway, he was very affectionate and called all the time an I always supported him. Well all of a sudden he started backing off and so we eventually called things off but he insisted we stay friends so I agreed. He would get jelous if I dated someone else and he never dated anyone else, but he said he just neede to be friends b/c he was thinking about getting back wiht his wife b/c of the kids. He swears its not b/c of her. But anyway, I have stayed friends with him but he has yet to make a decicion. Recently he backed off even more and so I told him to go ahead and give it a try with his wife. He said he had been thinking about it but he was afraid if he did he would lose me. I told him that he never calls anymore anyway so Itwould be easy to let me go, but he just disagreed. Well he is still not calling as much but won't make up his mind. In the beginning I had this guy eating out of the plam of my hand and now its totally opposite. What can I do? Also, if you are involved or have been involved in a divorce maybe you can help me understand what he is thinking right now.I want him to be with me. Any advice on how to make this happen let me know!
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    but he already knew he wasn't going to get anywhere before he even started flirting, so i don't think its just him trying to get some. my friend said to just try calling him and if he doesn't answer leave a message. She says i am not pursuing him enough b/c his last gf pursued him, but i don't know what else to do without throwing myself at him, which I am NOT going to do. I guess I couls just invite him to hang out and if doesn't just drop it....but does it sound like he at least has some interest????? Or am I crazy (also, i was thinking maybe he is afraid that if it doesn't work out or soemthing then it will make it akward when we are around each other since we have mutual friends)
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    I need help with determining if this guy likes me or not....he was really flirty, doing things such as put gas in my car, cook for me, propping my legs up in his lap and rubbing my feet when we were watching tv with friends. This even led up to a little kissing (when we had some time alone). Well he told me to call him so i did and the convo went well. But then he never called me back and so i tried calling him again but he never answered or returned the call. Our mutual friends keeps telling me to call him, but I don't want to since he never returned the last call. Well I didn't see him for a few weeks and I saw him this past weekend. He wasn't as flirty as he has been but he did do stuff like massage my shoulders and stare at me from accross the room. I just don't know what happened and why he backed off. All our friends keep asking me if we are going to start dating. I am all for it but he seems reluctant. We did both just get out of long term relationships. But I just don't know what the deal is. My friend says he is secretive so she doesn't know what is going on. What does it sound like and what should I do to get something going with him cause I really like him?
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    ok...well, my bf of 4 years broke up with me in october and started dating another girl RIGHT AWAY. We kept talking for a few weeks sfter the break up. But then one night we had a really big fight and I told him i never wanted to talk to him again. So I decided never to call him again..started dating some other guys and went through the greiving process..which i am still doing somewhat. Then all of a sudden out of the blue he calls tonight. The first time he called i did not answer. The he called right back 10 mins later and i answered. He was asking me if I was dating anyone..about school.. and telling me that he was still dating that same girl but that she is going away to school in Feb. he also told me about some things he was doing that were way out of character for him like getting piercings and stuff...but anyway it just seemed weird that he would call b/c he is just so arrogant and he is not the type to just give a friendly "see how you are call". What is he doing? Missing me? Keeping his options open for when she goes to school in case they don't work out or what?
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    My ex called and we talked and he was saying he was confident in his decision to break up and that he would not change his mind. He said that he was not good enough for me and was intimidated by that fact. He started being a jerk so I said some really mean things to him and was hanging up on him but he kept calling back saying he wanted to be friends. Before the convo ended though we were laughing like old times. Then he calls on Friday night asking if we can be friends with benefits. The more I said no the harder he tried. He was like"don't you think we will end up back together anyway?". He also said he missed me, thinks about me all the time, and that he still loves me. Yet, he is still dating this other girl. He doesn't seem too happy with her b/c he keeps saying he is not sure about her but I don't know. Since friday I have not heard from him. I really don't know what to think. Please help! (background can be found in the post titled "PLEASE GIVE ME ADVICE!")
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    I am going through the same thing right now...almost exactly!!!! We really should talk!!!! It is so weird!!! Do you have an IM screename? Wow I just can't believe how similar our situations are!!!!! You can IM me if you do at MauiMeg18.
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    I have been there! Its hard because you just want to call so bad you can't control yourself even though you know you shouldn't. Before you know it you have called like five times and are asking yourself why you did that! Anyway, I am going to recommend a book to you. Its called "Why Men Love B******". You seriously owe it to yourself and your relationship to get this book NOW! My boyfriend moved away a year ago so I understand the long distance thing! You have no idea what they are doing at it makes you go crazy. This book is very comical but true. He knows that you are going to call, he knows that you are there waiting for him, so why would he have to make any effort if you are going to do it? You need to let him call you and wonder what you are doing every now and then. If you go a couple days without calling him, I can almost guarantee he will call you! If you want to throw him really off, don't talk the call the first time he calls.! You have to basically show him that you are happy with him or without him, then he will respect you and he will pay more attention to calling you! Good Luck!
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    I was a 16 also and I found a diet that changed my life. Its called the heart smart diet and it is a variation of Atkins, which I think is a little too strict. Do a search for it online. Basically you cut carbs, but you get a "free weekend" every other week to eat carbs if you want. You can have as much meat and veggies that you want!!!! I never exercised on this diet but I think it is very important to do that. Plus it will speed up the whole process. I went from a 16 to a 10 in like 5 months! I almost fit into a size 8 prom dress my senior year of high school! I think you should give it a try. Its the easiest diet I have done. Good Luck!
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    OK. I posted once before about my situation but here is a little background just in case..My boyfriend of four years broke up with me about three weeks ago when I would not take his calls during a fight. A few days later he informed me that he wanted to date this other girl. The thing is he still calls asking if I am seeing anyone and saying that he still thinks about us being intimate together. He has told me alot about this girl so I don't think he totally made her up, but I also don't know if he is actually dating her, even though he says he is. Sunday night he called and under his breath he said "when are we getting back together?", but when I asked him what he said he acted like he didn't say it and said he was just kiddding. Well last night he called again and I was in a really bad mood and was not very nice to him. He kept asking me why I was acting like I hated him and stuff but I just brushed him off. Then I got a call on the other line and he hung up. When I tried to call him later, like 10 times and his voicemail kept picking up...I even sent a text message that he did not respond to. Now he is going to know I called all those times! The thing is, I want us to get back together, because I do love him with all my heart, but I also hate him right now because I am hurt about this other girl. I don't know what is going on here. What do you think he is feeling, and what is the best thing I can do now to increase my chances of him wanting me back?
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    My boyfriend of four years became my ex about three weeks ago when we had a fight and I would not take his calls. When I finally called him back a few days later he said he had met another girl and wanted to start dating her. Well the same night he broke up with me he called like four times to see if I was going out that night. Then he called again the next day. Then he did not call for a few days and then called again. Then he started asking for advice with the new girl. I gave him advice at first but then I told him I could not do it anymore. So then he called me tonight after four days and was acting all sweet. He was like are you dating anybody? And saying that if they treated me bad he would hurt them. Then he was like I know you want to know how me and her are doing(referring to the new girl) and I was like no, but he told me they were doing fine anyway. Then he said under his breath"when are we going to get back together" but when I asked him what he said he was like, "Nothing, I was just joking". But then he went on to tell me that he still thinks about us being intimate together. He has told me alot of details about this other girl so I don't really think he made her up. But I just don't know what to think! He acts like he really likes her because he says he gets sick before they go out from nerves like he did when we first started dating, yet he sometimes makes comparisons between me and her that are in my favor. I just can't tell though. What is he up to?
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