hunni

I did that exact same thing with my ex, but when i told him how i felt, he understandably didnt want me back!! I dont want to dampen your hopes, but in my experience you break up for a reason normally, and even if you get back together, then that same reason will still be there!

Thanks switch. He has been with other girls since we broke up, and i have been with other guys, except im not really the kind of girl who goes off with random guys, more the kind of long term commitment type, so it is really out of character for me. so do think that i should tell my ex about this new guy, see if it makes him jelouse??

About 3 months ago now, i broke up with my boyfriend of 2 years. BIGGEST MISTAKE EVER!!!! Since i have been really hung up over him, and we always chat on msn. Sometimes we get into fights about the past, but most of the time we just chat, and it is really nice. I have asked if we could ever get back together, but he said that i hurt him too much when i broke it off, and so he doesn't feel like he would at the moment, but maybe sometime in the future. I really love and care about him, and didnt think that i would ever get over him, i still am not over him. Recently i have met this guy, and we get on really well. We are just mates at the moment, but there is a lot of flirting going on !!! He is 25, which is a bit scary as i am only 18, but he is real nice. I'm just confused, because i dont know whether to wait and see what my ex does, or whether to allow something to happen with my new guy?? I do really miss my ex, and i havent seen him since we broke up, but no matter what i think dat i will still love him. even when i am old and wrinkled!!!! So what do i do?? Try with my new guy and try to forget about my ex, or wait and see whether me and my ex get back together??? Thanks in advance for any help xXx

Well i agree totally dumpers are harsh, and i can admit that when i am one myself! I dumpt my guy for all d wrong reasons, and am now goin thru all the stuff that you described. The pain of missing someone you care for deeply. Do i have the right to feel this way? i dont really know, but the matter is i do. Now no matter how much i try not to, i keep on talking to my ex, and to be fair, pissing him off!!! I bet he just wishes that i would let him be and i should get on with my own life. Since he wants to be friends, but has been a right bastard to me. Not a mate!! So am i horrible one who he shouldn't take back, even though i am basically begging him for forgiveness??? You have obviously learnt a lot from your experiences. I hope that some of your wisdom can help me???

Well, i broke up with my ex, about 3.5 months ago, and am still not over him completely!!! I know it should be the other way round, but i regret that decision so very much!! Recently, i had a house party, and there r these 2 guys who i just met, and will have to see at least twice a week from no on. 1 of them kept on pulling me, not that i objected due to wayy too much alcohol!!!! . It ended up that they both crashed at my house. I shared a bed wit dis guy, and his mate and my friend on my floor. Nothing happened , we just slept. Since he keeps on calling me, and yesterday he txt me saying "i'v fallen head over heels for you!". I dont really like him, and i'm not really over my ex, but what do i say to that???? HELP!!!!!!

i recently broke up with my boyfriend of 2 years for stupid reasons. My true feelings of love were covered up because my mum sed she hated him, and we were going through a pretty rough patch in our relationship. Since i have realised that was is 1 big mistake. i have told him how i feel, and he has rejected me. It hurts really bad, but i think that you have done the best thing by giving yourself some time apart for the wounds to heal. I havent done that and my wounds still feel fresh even after 3 months!! My only good feeling is that i believe in fate. If we truly are meant to be toghether then we will find each other and learn to love each other again some time in the future. Have you since, or did you ever tell her how you feel??

i have told him and dats when he told me dat i hurt him too much! He sed he wants us to be good friends but i don't know if i can be dat person in his life

3 months ago i dumped my ex, because my mum said that she hated him, and i was going to university. We had been really happy for 2 years but we had been fighting for the last 2 weeks of our relationship because we were just both stressed out with other things going on in our lives. When we broke up i was happy and enjoyin single life, but i hate the insecurity i now feel which comes from going to clubs without him being there to take me home when i'm too drunk to walk!!! I have just started university this september, and i am having a great time. Freshers was amazing. I am getting with other guys, but it all just seems meaningless. I don't enjoy it i just do it! I can't see myself being so close or even wanting to be so close with anyone else. I have tried to forget him but we are always talkin on msn. he says that i hurt him too much for him to get back with me, and all that kinda stuff, but i don't know if he really means it. No matter how hard i try i just can't stop thinking about him, n everything reminds me of him. What should i do? i feel like i have tried everything!!!

i had been going out with my boyfriend for 2 years when i broke up with him. I mainly broke up because my mum hated him, and i was happy when i did. Now i am at uni and he is still at home, and i am missing him soooooo much!!!! I have told him but he just says that i hurt him too much. I can't see myself loving anyone else, and i can't imagine being that close again with anyone else. I do love him, else being apart wouldn't hurt this much, but he can't even make time to see me anymore. I am desperate for some honest advice please reply!!!!!! For the long version: We were really happy for the 2 yrs, and then we went on holiday together with my parents. when we were on our own it was amazing, everything was perfect and i have naver been happier, but then on holiday he started to act like a child. I felt like his mum not his girlfriend! We started to talk less and drifted apart. And whilst on holiday my mum gave me her true opinion of him When i got my A-level results and found i was going to university, i thought seen as things weren't so good that i would break up with him and have have a clean start. It really hurt him, and he was crying for like 2 weeks! i felt sooo bad, but i wanted to move on and i was happy. Since then i have moved on, but going to clubs and things is horrible now and i don't feel comfortable. I have pulled other guys, but it isn't me to go out n do that kinda thing. I fancy other guys, but can't see myself being so close to them as i was with him. We talk on msn now, but he won't call me and i'm a poor student so can't call him. He confuses me, because he says that he still loves me, but i hurt him too much so he doesn't want to be with me any more. I want to be back with him so much, and i can't believe that i dumped him because things weren't perfect for 3 weeks!!!!! HELP!!!!!