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Broke up with my boyfriend recently, but must live in the same old atmosphere. It's really painful to me. His housemate works next to my office, and ex often stops by to see his housemate. When I go to work, I still see him around and it brings back my hurtful memories, especially when he told me that he didn't love me and had prepared to break up with me for a long time. It really hurts me to know that for the last 6 months we were together was just his fake and acting. I am really upset and depressing. My feeling inside is angry, sad, confused, isolate, resentful and everything. The another worst thing is that I work in the service field, so I have to be nice, cheerful, and put smile on my face to other people. I hate doing that. How could I do that when inside me is crying. I am not good at faking and betray my feeling. I can't move to anywhere else because I have signed a contract with the company to work for them for another 2 years. I wish I could do that, so I don't have to live the old environment that my ex and I spent good time together. I know runing away from the problem is not the smart way, but what can I do to overcome my depression. My ex sometimes calls me or tries to return things that I leave behind at his house. I refuse to see him in person. I am not ready and strong enough to look at him right now. Please help me.

Maybe you all here can help her and me. Her story and mine is almost exact the same. The differences are that we are gay couple; I am 11 year younger than my boyfriend. We are not living together, but spend a lot of nights together (just sleep in). I'm not his type by the look. I am facing the same sexual issue. In fact the other night I saw some guys' personal ads that he bookmarked. It is upset me so bad. He admitted he fantasises having sex with other men. We take good care of each other very good and encourage each other to have open and honest communication which you should try. Expressing your feeling by using "I statement" and try to avoid hurting and blaming each other. Sample of I statements: When...(describe situation, "just the facts") I feel....(emotion named in a few words) Because...(espress your opinion or perspective) I need, want, wish, would like...(state your specific, positive solution) This might help. My boyfriend and I talk about sexual issue we have. He doesn't know the reason he fantasises that and acts like he doesn't appreciate my body. So this week--he goes back to his family for Thanksgiving--I ask him to consider what cause it. Hope we can come with solution. One of the issues in the past that we had is equality in relationship. I don't know how equal you two are in the relationship. My boyfriend wants me to express what I want or feel and initiate things including sex more. This might be one that you can take for consideration. So I would say try to have open and honest communication with him and be active listener. Give him and yourself chance to talk without interrupting. That's all I can share with you now. If I have something that might work, I promise to share with you. I keep my promise.

I guess I need to take muneca advice again on my issue too. Trust her. She always gives great advice. In my relationship, I put myself second in the past. She's right--he took me for granted. After breaking up for awhile, he came back to me. I am in control more nowadays. Sometimes you need to draw a line and let him know. Be a leader and negotiate sometimes.

As far as I know the penis pump or vacuum can cause bad injury. The penis can get bruise and be swollen by using that. I don't have any problem or any complain about mine. Maybe just being greedy. More More More

Cecil de Volange, you ar probably right about that. He get stressful easiy, but never let me know. I tried to encourage him to share with me. In the past 9 months, he broke up wit me once because he said I caused him depression. The fact was it wasn't me. He ihas been going through tough time at work and debts and wanted to eliminate any source of stress in his life. He saw me as one of those souces too. Kinda like defended himself. A week later he came to ask me back. He said he didn't think thing straight. I love this man so much, so I get back with him. Everything seems fine to me, except the sexual life. There are good and bad times. If it because he doen't know what he wants, what should I do to help him?

Really want to know if somebody here have ever tried the penis enlargement pills? Does it actually work anyway?

It is great if you two can take turn to initiate. My partner love it when I start first. So do I.

You said he just turn 60, right? Maybe he is going through some depressions--work and age. I myself am now facing the sexual issue as well. The best thing is to talk openly and honestly with him. Hope he is willing to share with you because only you can't solve the problem. Relationship takes two to survive and healthy. Maybe seeing a counselor is a good idea too. We are doing now. Thing is getting better. Hope it does the same thing to you.

I usually shoot about 6-8 times. The more I shoot, the more my partner like.However, it is not only about squirt, it is about how much you enjoy doing it both before and after. Nothing to be ashame of.

Lately my boyfriend fantasises having sex with other guys, he admitted to me. When he was younger, he fooled around a lot. He said he kinda miss it--having one night stand. I think he misses the excitement from the one night stand. We agree to have a monogramous relationship. Somehow, the fantasy has been bothering him recently and often. He said he loves me and doesn't want to do something he will regret, but doesn't know what causes it and how to get rid of the fantasy. He and I have pretty good sex life, although I am not his type by look. His desire for man is dark skin and mascular, but I am just average--147lbs, 6', medium skin with dark hair and good chest. I don't have killer ab or such thing. I am not that urgly; in fact I have a sense of style. People always make a compliment on how I dress. We get along so well and compromise to each other pretty much. Why has this problem happened in our love life? What can we do to solve the issue? Please share your opinion ahd help. I would really appreciate your help.

You should support them for their happiness and also your family. I 'd rather help my parents make a great date each time instead of seeing them yelling to each other and divorce these days.

I think you need more personal time. If that is what you need, make a deal with her. Plus you're too young to try to be a couple. That might freak you out right now. Take thing slow.

I totally understand how you feel. I was there before. I grew up in a very conservative family. The worst thing is my homophobic brother who we barely talk to each other nowadays. Who care. This is my life. Anyway, I would say you need to take time dealing with your confused feeling. Little by little. Don't tell your girlfriend now even though it sounds not fair to her. I would suggest you to notice yourself when you watch straight porn movies. Do you find yourself looking at the actor or actress Which one turn you on the most? Well, it doesn't have to be porn movies, any magazines can be used. Porn movies seem to be the best because of the action. Most important thing is that you must notice your feeling yourself while watching it. While doing that, do some research. A lot of information out there you can find. I am gay. When I was teenager, I attracted to a girl too. But most of the time, I find guys more attractive than girls. If you are sure you are gay, tell your girlfriend right away. So you don't her life back. It hurts to do so, but it's best for both of you n the long run. Feel free to ask me. I will ask my boyfriend too because he is from a very Christian family.

She is 5'6" and size 10; I hate to say--from a guy's point of view--she is a little bit big. You don't see that because you love her. I think you should talk to her At least it is showing her that you care about her. I would love to have this kinda friend around me forever. But confronting with her, maybe you need to do in the "soft" way, show her what you feel, think and concern, and see how her feedback is. Show your supportive would be nice too.

Good for you. Just to know that you make decision to make your life better; it is wonderful. Send you all the positive energy to support you.