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My ex and i broke up 2 yrs ago...and in the last 2 yrs we been friends we stop talking to each other ( I initiate non contact) but weeks or months later he calls me if i dont answer he comes by my house stops by my job if he cant find me he emails me... He was having problems he had no place to stay back in May and i let him stay in my home...i just cant see letting him be homeless so i helped him...he went out of town last weekend and we had some problems while he was away so when he came back he seen my mom had come from out of town, him and my mother do not like each other at all...so he made a phone call and packed his things and left. Ever since hes been gone things been kind of shady between us, hes acting kind of superior.. He told me that when he was settled in his new place (which he is rooming with suppsedly his homegirl and her boyfriend) he was going to bring me by to show me the place...well now he said he is never bring me me there... I asked him y he said becoz he is not bringing any females over the house...i told him i am not just some female u would meet somewhere and bring home i been with him 4 yrs helping him being there for him and now he categorizes me as a "female" so i was offended we argued and he left. Later that night he started calling me but i wouldnt answer his calls so he stopped by telling me he wanted to chill with me for a lil bit..but none the less asked me for sex...i didnt agree...well saturday night i sent him a text message from a website not from my phone, so it came to him as "uknown sender" but the message was the type of message that he should have known it was me...but he called me and asked me if had sent him the message...i said no..yes I know it sounds like im playing games but i again felt offended that he even had to ask me if it was me. So i sent him another text message later on that day and told him how offended i felt he had to ask me if i sent the message if what it said should have been from me and he should have known this...needless to say i am very hurt to this day so i decided not to answer his calls...he has been calling me since sunday afternoon and since i havent answered my phone he sent me an offline message on yahoo saying: "thanks for not answering your *bleeping* phone, had something important to tell u, but i see how is." If it ws so important y couldnt he leave me a voicemail or if he had the need to send me an offline message at least telling me nicely i been trying to call u please call me back i have something important to tell u...or just let me be...what does he want from me?...

Guys this a long one but please read i need all the advice i can get...thanks! I havent posted in a while, i was staying away from everything focusing on work and my children to be able to move on from this...gosh but i still have bad days and it kills me...perhaps someone out there has been there done that and can advice. Well i broke up with my boyfriend of 2 yrs on oct last yr...i moved out of the apt we shared on Nov 14th...on Dec 21st he stopped by my work to ask me to forgive him...i did...i wasnt bitter i felt in my heart i could forgive him.. on Christmas day he sent me a text message wishing me and my fam a Merry Christmas..i didnt respond didnt feel the need to i had told him Merry Christmas on Dec 21st...he called me later that night to ask me if i had received his text he sent me...we talked for a few minutes and hung up....didnt contact each other for another month...i initiated contact because someone at work told me that some girl had asked her if she knew me because she was "dating" my ex.. I felt furious because i didnt like that act this person knew who i was where iworked and even what i look like and i dont know the first thing about her...so i called him and confronted him..he apologized it turned out this lady was the person he was crying to while me and him were having problems he even stayed with her while i moved out the apt after we broke up..so obvioulsy he was telling her about me...after we settled that we kept in touch on the phone and text for like 2 weeks...he first tole me he didnt want my number and even if he had it he wouldnt use it because he liked the distance that we had...i purposely called his phone and let my number show on the caller id...well guess what? he would call me from work and from home...he even invited me to go over his place and watch movies i ignored his invite..he told me sometimes he felt like taking my kids out to do stuff specially my son..but he realized it wasnt his part anymore..then he asked me if i stilltrusted him if he could come take my son out with him...but he didnt know my address and when i told him he said he didnt want to know my address..y would he say he didnt want to know my number then he didnt want to know my address??? I decided to initiate No contact because talking to him was affecting me...so i didnt call him didnt text him...absolutely No Contact..sometime in feb after Valentines day he sent me a text..later that day he called me..he invited me to a cookout he was having at his house that weekend...Y did he want me at his cookout?...again i ignored his invite...that sunday was raining so of course there was no cookout (even tho i think it was never really one planned)...that sunday he texted me and asked me to call him i was too busy so i told him i couldnt call him i was busy...he said it didnt matter to call him anytime he would be up...1 am came along and he called me.... He asked me how i was blah blah...and then i heard a females voice...i didnt say anything...then he made a comment that suggested a female was there...again i didnt respond to it...i told him i was sleepy i had to go he told me he would call me the next day....he never did...he once told me he wasnt dating anyone he didnt want to date anyone because he was so focused on his goals a female would only backtrack him from what he is focused on... because they want so much attention..so he said he had friends he talked to once in a while but he dint want anyone serious right now...y tell me he wasnt and didnt want to date anyone?...but yet he would throw in the conversations how his one friend who lives outside of the city took him to a movie and she had to pay because he was so broke and she took him to breakfast and blah blah blah..i continue No Contact because i feel is not worth talking to him...for what?...i cant be his friend...i dont want to...Well this past friday...he texted me at 9 am....called me at 11 am at my home...and showed up at my job at 2 pm...with this parents....(i work at Wal-Mart)...his parents came from NY to visit him...out of 32 cashiers and registers that were open he came thru my line...frankly i didnt want to see his parents i could careless...y was he texting me calling me and chose the Wal-Mart i work at when there are 3 others in this city????.... He had a new hairdo...when i met him he had braids on his hair...he cut all his hair when he got this job that required him to look "clean cut" then for the 2 yrs we were togther (lived together 1 yr) he tried to grow his hair to get it braided again because iloved it...it never worked out...well when he went to my job this friday...YUP he had braids....i guess he also wanted me to see he had braids now....i forgot to mention in all our conversations he always says he is "loving and living life to the fullest" he tells me about all these plans he has and goals and he is going to manage some property and hes going to be making all this money and he is going to close on a house (dont u need a liscence to do that?) he claims he is into real estate....he always tries to make me think or believe he has such a great life and hes doing so much after we broke up...he told me his New Years resolution is initiative.. Hes going to get up early in the morning and clean the house and run errands and just be productive...lol...isnt this what normal poeple do on an everyday basis???...but i guess it would be an accomplishment for him...y if hes having such a great life y does he keep contacting me...y invite me over to watch movies?..y invite me to a cookout?...y try to get in touch with me when his parents were here and show up at my job????.....i dont contact him...at all he contacts me....I'm just trying to figure out what are his motives for contacting me...y tell me how wonderful his life is y contact me when his parents were here...sometimes he stops by the store and comes up to me to say hi and says he has to pick up something then he says i will be back and he doesnt come back..is it just to see me or just so i know he was there???? like i said im confused

My ex called again last night he called me on his break and then told me he was going to call me after work and he did....is this a way of him getting back slowly in my life again????....i want to give him the benefit of the doubt that hes just prolly bored and needs conversation....

I actually left my ex we wwre together 2 yrs and we been broken up 3 months...2 months after we broke up and a month after ileft him in the apt we shared he came to me asking for forgiveness....but i was very comfortable with no contact....we r not friends per say we just had so much to talk about and we spent all that time on the phone and he called me today again....

Is it weird that i talked to my ex for 6 1/2 hrs last night?...it didint feel weird to me i guess i neded to know what was going thru his head i kinda feel better now that i know nuhtin has changed he tried to make me believe he had this wonderful life but the more we talked the more things sounded the same... the conversation wasnt 61/2 hrs straight his phone actually died so he sent me a im asking me to call him back because he doesnt have my number...he also told me he didnt want my number because he likes the distance we r keeping..and i asked him so if u had my number u wouldnt keep ur distance??.and he told me if he had the number he wouldnt use it....we talked some more he told me he would love to hang with me take me out but being around me right now is too painful because its so recent... he was watching a video of us while we were on the phone and he was reminiscing about old times he told me he misses me... well when i called him back when his phone died i purposely let my number show on his caller id...and guess what?? his signal died and who used that phone number after he said he wouldnt use it...yup he called me back... and i couldnt talk to him at that moment...has anyone out there after breaking up had convos so long with the ex???...if so what has come out of it??....i dont know what to make of it...i figure if he didnt want to talk he wouldnt have bothered we would say what we had to say and hung up but that wasnt the case... he asked me if i was working today and i told him no and he said he would call me or sumthin....anyone out there has any comments advice stories experiences?????

ho all i posted here before a while ago about my break up after 2 yrs...well is been a long road but i think im doing fine but i cant seem to get out of the anger stage of my process...and everytime i seem to be doing ok something xomes back to get me... my ex came to me asking for forgiveness a month after i left the apt we shared...gat that point i was ok and i figured y not forgive him if i dont i willonly seem bitter recentfull and he might think im not over him so wth i forgave him....well to me it was just that a simple forgiveness and lets move right along... well on x-mas morning he sent me a test message saying merry x-mas to me and my family...i didnt respond didnt feel the need to becasue when he came over my job to talk to me he told me happy holidays and i did the same so to me that was that but anyways...he then called me x-mas night asking me if i had received his text becasue i didnt answer..i told him yes then he started small talk but i didnt have time... left it at that...well i disconnected my cell phone a couple of days after x-mas is the only communication he had with me other than my job...well i guess he must have been calling me or sumthin he showed up at my sisters house on new years day (uninvited) asking how i was and where i lived...excuse me r u insane???....like my family is going to tell u where i live r u that dumb.. well that kinda made me mad because i feel he had no right to show up at my sisters house uninvited when hes my ex and my sister and her hubby dont really like him and he was always telling me he didint like my brother in law anyways so y even bother idiot!! urghh...well maybe he was trying to get me to call him I DIDNT...well the other day my friend come to work and says to me "Lillian a girl that takes a class with me is dating your ex boyfriend" i was like whoa!! how do u kno well apparently this girl hes now "dating" (so she says) asked my friend if she knew Lillian that worked at so so place, and my friend told her yeah shes my friend, well the girl told her i am dating her ex and mentioned his name and said i was ugly then my friend asked her how she knew how i looked apparently he showed her pics... i am livid i cannot believe he violated my privacy y did he do that i mean if he felt the need to talk about me hey go ahead but keep me faceless and nameless y did he go into details...y tell her exactly where i worked and even give her the chance to see what i look like so she knows who i am wherever she sees me i think he should have had a little more respect for me and keep me out of it...i never knew what his ex b4 me looked like i only knew her name because someone mentioned it in front of me but he never gave me details about her i didnt care either...but y do this now..i am tempted to call him and curse him out or ask him y did he do this...any advice please i am going crazy with these feelings

I dont want any type of communication with him...i am just hoping he will understand in time just non contacting him he will eventually get it!!! You think????

Nah my sister hasnt spoke to him since before me and him broke up she actually doesnt like him very much nor does my brother in law, he was actually very courageous to show up there not knowing if he was gonna be gunned down...lol....but no they want no part of him....well actually i havent heard from him since new years day...so he might be afraid to make any moves...i think he realized i dont want him in my life...

I posted here before about my break up..we broke up on oct i cant remember the date...but i lived in the same apt until nov 14 it was well over a moponth after we broke up that i moved out...it was really bad living with someone and not being witht hat someone...im sure some of u can relate perhaps it has happened to u... Anyways exactly a month after i left dec 14th...my ex paid me a visit at my job...the job he has stopped by before so many times to insult me...this time he first said he came by because i had mail at my old place (which he still lives in)...the mail is mostly junk i kno it because all important addresses i changed before i even moved...then he said he stopped by to get some chicken ( i work at wal-mart) mind u he has never had wal-mart chicken not even when we lived together.. then finally he admitted he was there to ask for my forgiveness...i forgave him..i am not bitter or angry and im pretty much over him...i dont kno if he thought this was going to open a door but is not!!! a couple of days later he sent me a txt message wishing me a merry x-mas..i didnt respond i didnt see the need when i saw him at my job i wished him a merry x-mas and a happy new year that was that.... Well since i didnt respond he took it upon himself to call me x-mas night to check if i received the text earlier that morning..i told him yes....then he kept trying to make convo...i stopped him and told him i had to take a shower....i immeditely changed my cell phone number....i know if i had left it on he prolly was going to contact me on new years eve and i didnt wanna hear it....well i guess he called because he ended up at my sisters house (out of all the people in the city he ends up at my sisters house on new years day) asking about me and where i lived of course my brother in law lied and told him a totally different thing...is he insane did he actually thin my sister or my brother in law were going to give im info???? what is up withthat?...y did he ask my forgiveness?...before we broke up he made it clear he didnt like me and didnt care for me any longer....y ask my address y call me to find out if i received his text message????

Well most of u kno my ordeal with my now my ex...is been a month and 7 days since i moved out of the apt we shared, we had no contact initiated by me all this time and b4 i moved out the apt all we did was argue...well this morning i woke up with an inner peace and i felt that i was over him...well i went to work feeling just great i was supposed to leave work at 6 pm and i was asked if i wanted to stay extra so agreed....around 7 pm i was with a customer and he walked up to me...i treated him like any other customer i asked him how he was doing he asked me how i was doing and he told me Happy Holidays..i said same to u.. we talked about how we were doing what were doing with our lives he asked me about my new house and he asked where it was i only told him it was close to downtown he said it was the rich area..it really isnt but he can believe what he wants right?..lol when i was telling him about my house and everything he stopped me laffin and told me "wow girl the man you are with must be really country because you have an accent"...like u cant pick up an accent by working around ppl with one...y does it have to be a man???? Anyways.. we continued talking he told me his grandad had died and he was in ny 4 a couple of days...he wasnt going back to new york anytime soon..then he told me that my boy was in town my boy he refers to is a friend of his that hes known since he was 10 and i care a lot for him he used to spend weeks at my house in ny when me and my ex lived there so i really care for the kid hes 18...so i told him i wanted to see him so he came in and we hugged and everything...well i got a bit off track he told me he came in to tell me i had mail in my old apt...i asked y didint he bring it he said he didnt kno he was going to stop there...i asked him to bring it tomorrow he said he would...but then he said he came to get some chicken..he never had chicken from wal-mart but today he wanted chicken....lol well he got the chicken...we walked outside and he told me the reason he was there was to ask for my forgiveness...he wanted me to forgive him for everything he did he told me he realized he had a lot to do with our realtionship breaking and he relaized it was a lot happening he told me while he was in ny he got really close to his parents closer than he has ever been..and he relaized that hes fortunate to be alive and life is too short to stress over things..the only thing that makes him sad he said was the fact he doesnt have any family here and is gonna be sad in the holidays...he said at least he has his friend but is still sad...he said hes gonna try to go to orlando and spend sometime with his friends there...i never knew he had friends in orlando but hey...i dont know if he was trying to say something with that but i didnt offer...Well i told him i forgave him....y wouldnt i god forgave us right so i didnt see a reason not to forgive him...i just hope he doesnt think is a new book opening in our lives because frankly to me it ended there.... One thing i did and i felt stupid afterwards lol i was trying to give his friend which is 18 a lil advice because he is girl crazy i told him be good and please please protect himslef use condoms so i told my ex also both of u guys please use condoms...they both said we do...lol i felt so stupid like giving my ex advice like hes a child lol oh well.... i just wonder him coming to my job asking my forgiveness does it mean he realized what he lost?...he wants me back?....he misses me and thinks about me??..well you guys have any opinions comments experiences...please advice

A lot of you know my journey thru this bad relationship that resulted in a bad break up i am moving out of this apt on nov 16th if you guys want to go back to my threads about the whole relationship and break up b4 advising me please do..... my question is should i leave him the bed so he can sleep in or should i take everything and leave him with what he brought to this relationship NOTHING but his clothes????

is it bad to say what u feel??? is it bad to want to let out everything u feel and get it off ur chest my ex accuses me of still wanting him and being in denial because i tell him how i feel he says i look for arguments just because i want some type of attachment with him......he says i cant let go and thats y i do dumb things and start arguments i dont start arguments i say how i feel and of course he doesnt like it i wonder if i dont say nuthin he will continue to use me now since i say how i feel im a dumb person and still want him back, what do i do???....im moving out nov 16th it doesnt get here too soon.. it started because he went in the fridge and was about to get some orange juice and i asked him did u buy any orange juice here? well then he told me noone is going to take ur stuff u dumb person and he told me i dont kno why u feel the need to tell me things it seems that u have a lot of things u want to say but u should be intelligent enuff to kno i dont care and im not listening im blocking u out i told him if u block me out so much y do u throw them back in my face and he told me has a lot in his chest about me but he chooses not to start nuthin i told him well im the type that have to let it out...im finding myself feeling down because he has insulted me so much he told me i have nuhtin to offer and i am beggining to think i really i have good days but today my heart is skipping a beat he comes in and out the house like he owns the world like he has so much going for him and i am just sitting here offering nuhtin

...well last night he showed up in the house well he walks in and out all the time...he came and he called me stupid at least 20 times he first got mad because he says i dont want to help him he wants me to leave my name on the electric bill after i leave. i said no i am removing my name from that acct the reason he is mad is because once i disconnect the electric toremove my name he has to come up with 210 dollars to get it on his name...he accused me of not helping him after i spent 2 yrs helping him financially and doing everything for him....he said to me he thanked me already for that... well the second reason he got upset is because i changed the password on my computer he called me stupid then he said i do stupid things well when he showed up last night supposedly to get his camera after he was gone for 5 hrs he came in the door and saw that i had taken my computer out of the room we once shared..i took everything my clothes my computer everything that belonged to me as soon as he waled in the door the 1st thing out his mouth was stupid he called me stupid he said i do stupid things and asked me y i took the computer out the room if i knew he uses the computer 2..i told him im leaving anyways i started taking things out and packing i told hium get a grip im leaving soon and he mocked me. he then told me i had nuthin to offer not now not then and he tried so hard to make our relationship work but i never wanted to make changes in my life he told me i have a lot of changes to make and he is going to pray a lot for me because i need a lot of prayer because i dont do and never did sh@t for my family i told him not to worry i will change and i will put my family 1st because i neglected them for 2 long...he told me i always fail to see my faults but im quick to see his...he told me he could care less of what i do and he told me if he wanted to he had all the right to put me and my kids out in the street because he is head of household and his name is 1st on the list.. he kept just going on and on about what i didnt do to save the relationship and if i had done what he told me we would still be together...i found a place to go im moving the 15th of novemeber i pray to god and not because iwill be weak because i wont my bbaies deserve better but i pray he never finds me i dont want nuthin to do with him i really hope he stays away i am not telling him where im moving to... today he came home while i was out seeing the home im moving to and he called me at least 5 times on my cell phone i didnt pick up i knew it was something stupid but after i made some phone calls and disconnected my electric and my cable i called him all he wanted was to ask me if i had seen a shirt he wanted to wear....then i told him i was moving the 16th and i already called the utilities and he had to do something b4 that day if he wanted his lights on he said he new and he would take care and i said good bye and hung up.....y did he feel the need to insult me and tell me i never had anything to offer after everything i did is he trying to put me down so he can feel good is he trying to get back at me for not leaving my name on the electric bill and for not letting him use the computer...y did he have to do all that instead of letting it go??....

well when i met him he was 19 i was 30 it was blissfull but now i know it was because i was working i had a great job i had my own place and i was helping him with everything gas money food money i was cooking for him i was flipping the bill for everything. he never gave me a flower he never took me out and paid, and frankly now i kno i was his ticket to florida... i got used. well we moved here in march it was struggle from the minute we got to florida we were homeless for 2 weeks we couldnt find decent jobs we couldnt find a place it was a lot of stress and frustration and he told me he wanted his own space he wanted to be on his own..after i told him plenty of times to find his own place and not worry about me and my children that we would be ok...he didnt listen he insisted in finding us a place because we came here together and we should work thru this together. Well we found place but neither of us had a good job i didnt have one he had 2 that together werent worth nuthin we were scared we needed to have something quick to be bale to keep the place well he landed a better job and i got a job at walmart i was excited just because it was a job and i was going to be bale to help my man out but guess hwat he told me? 'how much will you be making?' i told him and his response was oh that little?...i told him you know i can never make you happy at least is a job and it will help out so you wont feel overwhelmed with bills. and funny because when he had a job at a fast food restaurant i supported him and told him honey be proud is a job. well we kinda started getting along a bit more but there was always this insecurity in the back of my mind that something was going to go wrong well he lost his job..luckily i had some unemployment i was owed from new york and it came at the right time thank god so i was able to pay rent electric phone car note car insurance he needed a part for his car so i ended up paying everything he had no job so i encouraged him to go to a few places luckily he found a job a much better job. but one day he left his yahoo messenger on and some girl was iming him i confronted him and we had a huge argument he told me he was tired of being attached he wanted to be free he wanted to be alone he wanted to meet people he wanted to go out and flirt and dance without worrying about hurting anyones feelings he was tired of my insecurities...he told me to think about what i wanted to do and to let him know that night i wanted to talk he didnt but i talked anyway and i told him what i had come up with since we are in a very bad situation financially we have no choice ut to live 2gether in the same house well he was fine with it i told him you have to do your own laundry your own cooking and you have to do you he was fine he just said he didnt want to be in a relationship he wanted to be alone free solo noone to answer to noone to come home 2. I said my peace and what i thought was best it was 9 pm he never goes to bed b4 1 am and all of the sudden he turned and said im going to sleep i said is early he said he was tired and he told me you know i wish it never got to this point and i said i didnt either but things happen.. and i went to sleep i was in peace i said to myself is finally over is gonna be ok...well around 3 am i feel someone touching me he wanted tot alk i didnt i was sleepy he wanted to talk about us he wanted a chance he wanted another try but y would i agree to do that after i was told he didnt want me didnt want a relationship he even had asked me y would u wanna be in a relationship that the other person doesnt want you?....that hit me and i said to him it wont work he said u dont know until you try if it doesnt then we will move on u have to realize nuthin is forever he said. well it was ok for 2 weeks then all of the sudden one night he walks into wal-mart and tells me someone took my coins right then and there that meant accusing me or my children...he told me if those coins dont come up when u get home and look for them you have to go is a wrap you have to leave i was so upset i had to leave work i couldnt stop crying...so that night he called and i told him i cant take it anymore is not working we have to be just friends roomates whatever u want to call it but yoy have to do you and i will do me and my kids because u accused us of taking ur coins when they were there all along it was the devil that made u blind. he didnt come home the next day he works nights and he is usually home by 7:30 am and he never showed again that night he showed up at wal-mart to tell me i was right is better off if we end it because is too much damage and as much as he tried to work things out it just doesnt work so that night he had me on the phone all night talking and telling me y we had to remain in a no title relationship y change living arrangements when we still have to be in the same house in other words u can keep cooking doing my laundry and giving me sex but in the meantime i will look for something better...guys correct me if im wrong what does no title relationship mean??? well like 3 weeks ago we were watching a movie and he asked me if i was happy with us getting along and i told himm yes but not with the no title relationship he told me titles were made by man and the only title is marriage...that we can be 2 ppl happy getting along with out giving it a girlfriend boyfriend title, im still not happy but he didnt seem to care...he told me it doesnt feel like we are not together because emotionally and physically we are together but mentally we arent again what does this mean??? emotionally and physically we are together but not mentally.. well just this saturday we were watching a movie and his phone rang he didnt answer it i asked him y he said because he didnt feel llike talking i knew it was another female...so after the movie was done he ran in the bathroom, when he came out i asked him if he had slept with anyone else but me he got scred and asked me y but told me no i didnt tell him y i asked...but i said but you are talking and seeing someone else arent you he did tell me we are not together we shouldnt be having this convo and i didnt answer the phone because i dont feel comfortable talking to other females in front of you. i told him is the same thing if you run to the bathroom to talk to them he said i have female friends but i dont sleep with them...and i talk to someone yes because you and me are not getting along. i also confronted him on some gay porno i found on the computer he told me it was a way to make money because women would not pay to see or talk to a fat black man and old gay men would and he was going to tell me but he was afraid of my reaction but he was going to surprise me with new furniture when he made nuff money entertaining gay old men..he told me i knew he was always looking for ways of making money i feel is so dirty...then i told him i was moving back home he was livid he asked when i made that decision he asked me what time how i was getting there who was i going to stay with..and he had ate some food at 9 pm by the time we were done talking he threw up everything he got sick to his stomach. he told me he missed what we had but of course because i was taking care of everything of course he missed that i told him everything i felt i told him everything i did for him i told him how i felt used...then sunday i was so depressed and he was stillsick but he asked me "if i come up with some money and help you find a place would u stay in florida?" i told him no he told me you dont want to go you havent thought about that you havent thought about the consequences of moving back....i left it alone next day i was looking online for tickets and he told me you act like you are leaving tomorrow i told him time flies i have to act fast and he told me all the energy and money you are going to spend moving you can use to stay here and find a place y is he trying to find options for me to stay????? y when i dont sleep in the same bed he asks me y i am not in bed ???? i told him yesterday that once im gone there will be no contact none whatsoever no phone no emails nuthin is completely over i want to heal i wanna get my life back together and he got upset he asked me not even contact with my mom???....now y do i want to keep in contact with his mom y is he sonterested in keeping contact y? y ? is killing my im so confused is over when soeone breaks up is over no contact is best but he doesnt seem to agree...i told him the time i have left here i wanna be happy and in peace with him is no need to be arguing and hating each other he told me to let it go that i cant expect that we wont stay in contact and that we could be all sweet..y cant we be civilized until then what does not remaining in contact have to do with trying to get by these last couple of weeks??????.... there is my story more or less in a nut shell there r little details i didnt go into how my garbage would pile up in my garage and he wouldnt take to the sumpster because here you have to pay for garbagr pick up and the neighbors take the gharbage is a shame and how he wouldnt stop smoking after saying he was os many times like how he drinks everyday and he drinks hard liquor on weekends and everyhting that comes out his mouth is i want a drink....how all he wants to do is sleep all day he never wants to go shopping grocery shopping walking in the mall i need feedback advise stories of something similar hope anything thanks guys