Trixy05

Okay, so 3 months ago I go with a friend to dinner and out to a club with all of his friends. I am new to the area and he was introducing me to people. And I a had time. I met a lot of people and one guy unparticular that we had the eye contact thing going on. Didn't really go to much further than that. So one month later one of the girls I met that night calls me and we go out to another club. I saw everyone again and it was great. Than another month goes by and another person I saw gives me a call and says Hey we are cooking dinner at the house and having drinks if you want to come over. So I did.... we had a few drinks and I started talking the guy I had great eye contact with before. We ended p talking ALL night. I didn't leave till 5:30 in the morning. And we talked about everything. I went home and the next day woke up and went and had sushi with a friend of mine (one of his roommates) and I was there again till the evening. We shares a few very passion kisses along with the conversation we had all night long. Three days later I get a call, "Wanna go get some dinner." Anyways to sum up the story and my question(s).... we went out twice since the night of the conversation... kissed and I had a great time. I am mature professional 21 year old that's likes to have a good time (yes its possible), he is 36 years old ER doctor. I have a great time with him and he is actively perusing me but what could really come out of this? I mean I have no problem with age, but in general its just like "What am I doing" Any advice? or suggestions? I am suppose to go out with him again in a week, but I'm sure we will all go in a group to get drinks this weekend...

That's for the reply. It's so hard to understand where each people are coming from because each situation can be so different. My biggest problem is right now I have to decide if I should take the job I was offered in the city he lives in. I have to decide by next Monday. I will be going to see him on Thursday night, and staying with him till Sunday hopefully a little time will tell. I just hope I don't drive myself crazy.... I am still confused on how a LDR works for such a long period of time. I would think you should jump on any opportunity to be closer to that person. I guess I am hopeless romantic? or hopeless for love.... thanks all

Good Day All, I am new to this forum, but so far love it. Let me give you a little background info. I am a 21 year old female and I met my boyfriend on MYSPACE, he is 25. We started talking one day at work... and never stopped. We talked for a solid month every day while at work. We started talking on the phone one night shortly after. It had been hard to arrange a weekend to see each other because I worked 7 days a week. I liked to keep busy because it kept me focused...since I wasn't looking for anyone. After a month I had two days off from a Holiday. I drove 6 hours to see him and spent the weekend there. I didn't want to leave and he didn't want to let me leave. Two weeks later I quite my second job. That weekend he came and saw me for three days, which was great. And than I came and saw him one week later. After that we had to wait 3.5 weeks to see each other, which was horrible. We are slowly starting to get in the more laid back stage now... and emails are fewer and farther between and the calls are pretty regular times. This is bound to happen. This week I found out that I got an offer for a position in the same city that he lives in. I live in Los Angeles, he is in San Francisco. The job is a better job, and I have it if I want it. We talked and we both agree that its a "good thing", but is it? I mean I am so crazy about him, and I don't think it could work out if we had to do this LDR thing. I mean how long do LDR's really last anyways? But does it put too much pressure on a relationship so soon? It has only been 3 1/5 months since we started talking! If I don't take it now, maybe I wont get offered it again though? So many questions and things to ask, but I found myself holding back because I don't want to over analyze this. Its just I know every time I leave his arms, that's the only place I want to be. Do you ever feel the need to be pinched? I don't want to tell him all of those feels afraid of it being too soon or scaring him away. Although I do know he cares for me greatly and vise versa. Almost like it doesn't need to be said. Anyway, sorry for the long message, any suggestions?

Okay I am confused yet another time. I am a laid-back, confident, yet kinda of outgoing women. I am 5'10- 5'11 and I am all legs. Why am I so self-consious about it. Right now my boyfriend is around 5'11-6ft tall. For some reaosn I tend to think.... Wow I bet his ex or even in other relationships was under I'd say 5'5. It just makes me feel like a BIG girl, and Im not. Do guys feel okward dating tall women too? Its not that the grass is always greenier on the otherside but... is it common to have this complex?

Okay, I have nothing to really suggest here, but I would like to say something. From being in relationships and ending relationships I had to start back in the dating scene. For a while I would get asked out on dates but never really wanted to put the effort into dating. Having to get to know someone else AGAIN, reading there signs, and playing the dating game, I hate it. I don't know why so many people like it so much? Why they just want to be single yet still LOVE dating! Do people just go out because they don't want to eat dinner together or is it really to have good company and meet someone "romantically." I would never want anyone to go out with me just because they were bored and had nothing to do. I think dating and being with someone should be because when your not with that person your thinking about them.... its nice to be missed. But I think passion and timing are two VERY important factors in "dating" or tying to "meet someone" I know love is worth it....but dating? Its so strange to me a lot how things have changed. I mean I am 21 years old and while I was growing up guys never were taught to hold doors open, walk closest to the road, let the women take the seat.... Women like to feel "courted!" Not saying that this has to happen EVERY time but its nice. Okay I said my peace I hope you all understand and maybe relate?

Wow you are very informative. Being with someone for so long threw me in a loop! I do have a few questions though: How does one create tension from 5 hours away? I see him every two weeks. Its good to miss a call and wait to call back....but do you wait till the next day or is that too long? BTW- The first time he came down to see me, he sent me flowers that day...VERY unexpected and perfectaly delightful!

Good advice, the thing is I did get the job offer and they want me to move Dec 3rd. And about the calling.... he emails me every morning when he gets into work and calls me everyday around 6or 7 ish and normally beofre bed. It seems to be going both ways.... I wish it wouldnt be so planned. Would it be so bad if I didnt answer my phone one of these times? Even though he is what I want and I want to know more about him emotionally and physically ....

Two years I moved to Los Angeles with boyfriend at the time, we were together for two years and wanted to move from the east coast and he had family here. We ended up breaking up 6 months later. That was a good thing. I went on a few dates here and there, but nothing really sparked my interest. On day at work I messaged a guy on MySpace. We continued to talk for about a month everyday for a few hours at a time while at work, and on the phone at night. I was working two jobs at the time, and he lives 5 hours away in San Francisco. We arranged to see each other after 2 months of talking. We really clicked and had a great three days together. And you can feel it in the kiss. Two weeks later I quiet my second job and he came and visited me for 4 days and than three days later I went back up for the following weekend. While he was down here we decided to "be together." Continuing with out conversations at work and daily phone talks this can get a little tiresome, and its not how relationships should be, is it? Well I was offered a position in the city he lives in. Last weekend I came to see him and went for the interview, and got the job. At times he seems excited, and other times he seems a little distant about it. Which I can understand but don't really know how to go about talking about it. But when we have talked about me living in the city, it is a good thing. In the past I have never had a problem telling people how I feel or asking them. But as I get older and the more I realize what I say effect how things work out in a relationship, I think the more I tend to hold back. I am afraid of being too affectionate, but how affectionate can really be on the phone or over a weekend for it to be too much? One really can't get that much further than 5 hours away for space. How do you know when you say too much for a guy? They get scared so easily. And what questions can you ask in conversation about a guys past or future without them freaking out? For example.... Do you believe in love at first site? Could make him think that I love him, which may not be true I am just asking him if he believes in it. Am I analyzing things too much and to not worry about anything? A lot has happened within the last few months, but I think a lot has changed since the last time I was "dated" or "with" someone. It is like riding a bike? BTW- If it matters he is 25 and I am 21.