Ok I am just going to explain what happened. I am sure looking back I have done some really stupid things- but that doenst change the fact that i just feel bad. I am using the name Fred cause i think that will make it easier to type out straigh- and no that isnt his real name. And btw we are both 23.
Over the past couple of months Fred had been getting to where he didnt want to be cuddling, touch, kiss, or even have sex. At one point I even asked him about it and he acted like he hadnt noticed it had been that long. Well I tried talking, and so on. Nothing. I even bought that little kama sutra game that is supposed to help you communicate. He looked at the box and was like "what the @#$* is this" So needless to say it never got played. We went to dinner a couple of weeks ago and his mom and stepdad asked when we were going to get married. A few days later his dad asked the same thing. Also a couple other people have asked. Fred then told me how that he had dated me longer than any other girl and that he just felt smothered sometimes. But he didnt know what to do to fix it.
this past sunday Fred told me that he no longer wanted to be in a relationship. We have been together almost 3 years (next month) He told me it was nothing I had done, and that it wasnt another girl. Well we live together. So that has complicated things. For various reasons as of now we are neither one able to move out.
Here is where it gets complicated. We still sleep together in the same bed. Since breaking up he has actually wanted to touch me, or hug me, and we have had sex. I dont understand his affecition now, when a few days ago there were none. Also I asked him what his parents had said about us breaking up. He has not told them. He sees his parents almost daily- but hasnt mentioned anything to them. All of his online profiles say he is in a relationship. He has told NO ONE. I guess that is odd to me.
I forgot yesterday and asked him about going sking- he looked at me and said "so are you going to take me or a new guy" And he made a similar comment at another time. When I ask him he says he is just joking and doesnt mean it.
He still calls me babe, still wants to hug me, still wants to do all the things we done before we broke up- and at some points even acts more like a boyfriend that he did before. Also he asked me what I would like our our would-be anniversary next month. He told me there was no reason he couldnt just get me something to celebrate what would have been 3 great years.
So is he just seeing himself as a REALLY good friend? Or as a boyfriend? I really do love him and care for him- but i just dont know what to do. I have asked him about the break up thing- I even asked earlier today- he told me he still didnt want to be in a relationship. Like today he had to go somewhere- he come to see me before he left, called to tell me he had made it, and to ask if i was ok, and told me he would call before he left to come home, and would call when he got back into town to make sure i wasnt hungry or needed anything.
Ok- so enough rambling. If you need more info just ask- I didnt want to write a whole book on the first posting. Thanks
