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  1. hollyj, cherylyn, catfeeder and rose moose, you guys all have no idea just how meaningful your messages meant to me. This is easily probably much better advice than that of my own therapist! Bless all of you.
  2. Thank you figureitout23. Yeah you are right as I have been going for low hanging fruit and definitely have been trying to be in the moment and just breathe and find peace. Currently peace is the biggest luxury that I desire at the moment.
  3. Thank you Hollyj! Yeah I have to agree I haven't given myself time to process or grow and continued to pick poor partners out of not wanting to be alone. It seems as if I was way too dependent on just my relationship status to be considered happy yet here I actually stay very busy with work, and socializing with friends. Most of my friends are fun and I am grateful to have very positive and meaningful friends(mostly from my church social group). One thing I haven't done and is being fulfilled with more hobbies and not sure where to start. I love art and haven't done it in a while so there i
  4. Hello guys, So I am currently 30 year old and taking a break from relationships to truly improve myself before attempting to get into another relationship. Regarding my relationship background I had a 6 year serious relationship during and after college until I was 27 three years old about 3 year ago and after that relationship, it has been a string of 4 short term relationships where I either got hurt, heartbroken or it was simply one-sided(mostly due to settling for less and not knowing what I truly wanted out of a relationship and at times to "not feel lonely". I will have to say that a
  5. A couple of things 1.) If she is not interested in being romantically involved, you simply walk away and let her know to call you if she changes his mind. (As a way to respect her boundaries and also to not make you look needy/desperate/weak) 2.) You must go no-contact. However, this is where people get confused. Often, they do NC as a form of manipulation to get an ex back. In this case, you want to do NC to get YOU back! You make choices for you, you think of what's best for you. You get to know yourself on the most intimate level through all the soul-shattering pain, sadness, and loneline
  6. A couple of things 1.) You must agree and tell him that you are not interested in friends and make it very clear that you would only want to be romantically involved with him. If he is not interested in being romantically involved, you simply walk away and let him know to call you if he changes his mind. 2.) You must go no-contact. However, this is where people get confused. Often, they do NC as a form of manipulation to get an ex back. In this case, you want to do NC to get YOU back! You make choices for you, you think of what's best for you. You get to know yourself on the most intimat
  7. Thank you guys for your feedback! Very much appreciated! For now just giving her space and then reconnecting in a couple of weeks to see how things go.
  8. Hello guys! Okay so here's the story. So I have been dating this girl for 4 months and she has a LOT on her plate. She is recently divorced(and is currently finalizing paperwork at the moment), she recently got her car rear-ended and totaled just a couple of weeks ago(in which insurance totalled her car but since she still owed car payments, she now no longer has a car as the totaled check covered most of her remaining car payments but not all), she is currently broke due to the divorce and car issues, and she also has major family drama going on between her family and due to these events sh
  9. Welp! You're a genius yet again Wiseman2! She messaged me today with a "Hi" message along with a positive picture that said "Life has good and bad moments. Enjoy the good moments. Learn from the bad ones. Wake up and think that every morning something amazing is going to happen". Let's see how I assess this.
  10. Yeah I think you're right Wiseman2 (as usual! ) Thanks again!
  11. Oh man I thought my previous reply went through! Apparently not lol. In this case, we talked more about the ground rules, she and we agreed to not date/sleep with others and we have just been talking day by day at the moment as she directly told me she just feels confused but doesn't want to see others at the moment. Currently my biggest struggle is how to handle being in this "gray area" that we are currently in for now by just staying in touch day by day. I always attempt to talk about working out our relationship that we had, but she always ends it with "I just need time, I feel confuse
  12. So far the only "established" ground rules is limited to no communication. Just that we should take space day by day to see how it goes and if we end up "missing each other" kind of thing as we don't feel "that spark" like we used to in the beginning. I'm going to go to Kansas where she lives at for Mother's Day weekend and she suggested maybe we could see each other just to see how we feel when together but I'm not sure if I want to at this point. Do you think we should first establish ground rules in this space?
  13. Thank you guys! I actually ended up talking to her about it. And she just revealed that she just needs some space from me in the relationship. Not taking it personally or anything and just continuing to stay grounded and take care of myself.
  14. Hello everybody! So currently I'm in a long distance relationship with a new partner. (we first started doing this around August or so of last year). At first, she would always go out of her way to send me those sweet lovey-dovey messages (Good Morning Babe, etc), but now lately she never seems to do so on her own like she used to. Me, of course, just always on the lookout for red flags, just want to make sure I know if she's no longer interested etc. When I asked her about it, she simply said that she just "feels different" but not in a way that she doesn't like me anymore. She said the
  15. How long has she been single again since that 6 year relationship as that's a long time and takes longer to heal from that. She may be in "recovery mode" as she's not able to fully open herself emotionally as well at the moment but we could only verify that with her first. But only time will tell. Good luck! However if you are still seeing more signs of this, and if you are strongly seeing this being one-sided where the "love" or "commitment" isn't reciprocating from her end, don't let yourself end up feeling forced to stay in this relationship. Never be afraid to walk alone and find some
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