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NeoTek

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  1. Hi, I am currently engaged and have a 3 year old son. After 5 years we are going to break up. We both agreed to settle everything outside of court, but I just want to know the legality of child support and alimony. I live in NY and currently support 100% of my family. My fiance doesn't work. If she did take this to court how much alimony would I have to give her? If we have joint custody of my son do I have to pay child support? NeoTek
  2. Hi, Thank you for your advice. It seems all I really needed was a confirmation of what I thought I should do. It's not as easy as you say to "head for the hills". If it wasn't for my 3 year old son I would have done that right away. As I said before if anyone else has some good advice to give, I'd be glad to hear it, otherwise I plan on thinking about this until Saturday and then I'll make a decision on what to do. Thanks again, boonpop, I appreciate your time and understanding. NeoTek
  3. Hi, Well let me start off by saying that I have been dating my fiancé for 5 years. We have been engaged for 1 and ½ years and have a 3 year old son. We are both 20 years old. My fiancé stays home all day with my son while I go to work. She does not work. We both go to school full time. With that out of the way, here is my problem. My fiancé and I are opposites in many ways. I do not have any friends, nor feel the need to have any. She, on the other hand, wants/needs friends and has a very flirty personality. The fall semester for school started and she told me she made a couple new friends. I thought nothing of it at the time. She began talking constantly about a certain friend. I once again was not suspicious of anything as she has had many friends before. Then she started staying up till 3AM talking to this friend, and paying less and less attention to me. She had been going through a hard time (her dad was diagnosed with leukemia) and I just though she could talk with him (because she said his dad went through the same thing). She also told me he was gay (so I had no problem with any thoughts of her cheating on me). This went on a couple weeks and I became lonely and suspicious. I decided to put a key logging program on her computer (it keeps a log of all instant message conversations). I found her saying some sexual things to him, like "I can see myself making love to you and not regretting it", and "Think of how it feel when our bodies are together when we hug". Then one day I found that in one of her conversations she said she was going to skip class to spend time at his dorm. I still somehow couldn't believe this was happening and needed to see it with my own eyes. I went to his dorm and saw they were there (just sitting on the bed talking). I told her I couldn't believe she was doing this and that I wanted to leave. I ran out into the parking lot and she followed me. She told me that everything was just lies and they never talked about that sort of thing in person. She also said everything was just for attention. She claimed I had not been giving her enough attention for the past 2 years. I couldn't believe that because I thought I was. We talked until the wee hours of the morning and resolved some things. I told her I wanted to work things out because I love her. I asked her to never see her friend again. She told me she couldn't because she truly did want just a friendship and it seemed to progress to something more (even though she said she knew nothing would ever happen sexually and it never did). I reluctantly agreed with everything because I wanted to work everything out. Through the past weeks I felt like two different people. At times I wanted to support her and trust her, on the other I felt hurt and wanted her to never see this guy again. Believe it or not, the three of us actually went out and talked. They both know 100% that nothing will ever happen between my fiancé and her friend, but the friend has told me that he loves her and understand that she wants to be with me and will hide his feelings for her. I though everything would work out with them being just friends (even though he wanted more than that). I told my fiancé I took the key logging program off her computer, although I didn't. In the past week they haven't said anything extremely sexual like before, but they have said things. He says things more so than my fiancé. For example he was telling her how he got an erection every time they hug. She says things like she loves his eyes and other things she likes/dislikes about him. Personally I don't think this is something friends talk about. I want to wait until Saturday to make any decision as to leaving her. I have never needed this before, but now I need a friend to talk to. I do not have any thereforeeee I went to this forum for some support/ideas. Thank you all for your time and understanding. NeoTek
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