Howtocope

That is what I thought. That is the reason I asked. No, I do NOT excuse their behavior.. I was wondering if Sexychiick16 did.. and it sounds as though she does.... When I was 17, I was raped by my boyfriend. I said no, but I was so emotionally weak, that I let it happen anyway. This happened 3 times in our 3 month relationship. I was so scared that he would call Stat rape on me ( I had just turned 18, he was 16) that I went along with it. I didn't tell ANYONE about it... becuase I felt that, because I didn't force him off me.. and I didn't say no stronger, it was really my fault. He knew I didn't want to do it.. and I stayed with him because of his threats. I know how it feels... but, if anyone has sex wiht you.. whether you are drunk or not.... it's NOT your fault. When you are intoxicated you are NOT in control. And these gentlemen should have realized that. Girl, trust me... it is NOT your fault at all!!!!! These guys should have known better.

I read your story, and, from what it sounds like, you feel this way: Because you were drinking so heavily, and making out with these guys, you put yourself in a position where you didn't know what was happening. It sounds like you think that these guys were kind of led on by you.. and that you feel it was somewhat your fault... so, why get them in trouble.... Am I on target with this? Is this how you feel about this situation?

YEP! Sounds familiar!!!!

Well, I guess there are worse things to be addicted to.. ha Hi... My name is howtocope, and.... I'm an enotalone addict. Thank you...

You can only be helped if you want to be helped.

Band o Soleil works VERY well. Smells a little funky at first.. but, not too orange or streaky. I would also reccomend going and getting the spray tanning at somewhere like "Hollywood Tans" I hear they work very well as well!

I also completely disagree that all of the other religions in the world are not going to heaven. If I grew up in the middle east, and I was taught my entire life about Muhammed and Allah... why would I believe in someone coming into my country telling me about this kid who was born to save us all? It wouldn't make sense!! It is the same way that Americans tried to teach Indians about Christianity (This was AFTER they killed most of them for their land.. and for fun... yeah.. REAL Christian!!) Why would I believe a murderous clan of white men who have come to take my land? See what I"m getting at? Why SHOULD we believe in Jesus? Why should people believe in Jesus who have never known Jesus? Just because a book tells us to? If that is the case, maybe we should all believe that War of the WOrlds really happened. I mean, it was written that it did. I'm not saying this to be catty, or to make you NOT believe... these are all questions that I have. It just doesn't work for me that God, the all powerful creator of us all, would punish and be choosy as to who he allows in heaven. For instance.. Buddhist monks do NOTHING but devote their lives to good and the study of their selves and nature. Why would someone like this NOT be admitted to heaven? Just because they don't believe in Jesus? Seems a little unfair doesn't it? Many people also take what they want out of the bible, or their religious teachings, and leave what they feel isn't important. Look at Waco, he had his own take on the bible.. or even the Al Queda. They read their teachings completely different from what it truly says. They read into the stories, and make them say what works for them. Who's to say that our religion doesn't do the same thing? I mean, it is in human nature to be selfish. Who's to say, that somewhere down the line, when things were translated, someone said. ."Well, Ours is the best religion.. so, I'm going to write that God said ONLY our religion is the way to go." Anything is possible.

I agree with you shysoul... My church always taught that the bible was a BLUEPRINT on how to lead your life. Stories that weren't necessarily true, but that were told to teach a lesson... This is how I see the bible.

Here are some questions.. maybe you can answer: If there is a God, why does he give good people diseases? If you can only go to heaven when you believe in Jesus, what about the jewish, buddhist, pagan, indians, muslims... etc? Why would God act like a child and be spiteful? Why is it that EVERYONE and his brother heard voices from God in the biblical times, but no one does now? If God really wanted us to believe in him, why not show himself? Or some proof of existence? ........ These are just a few questions.... and please don't tell me "You just need to have faith" because that isn't an answer. These are hardcore questions that I think need to be answered honestly. Because we all were taught the same thing.. and some of us are now beginning to question it's validity.

ONly one response?

When I was in high school, I was bulemic. I worked on curing the problem and stopped the habit.. but, never stopped the obsesiveness about my body. When I competed in the Miss America system my platform was eating disorders..and I worked VERY hard to let others know about my situation and to help young ladies choose a better lifestyle. Well.... I'm a hypocrite. It has been about 5 years since I binged and purged. Tonight. I tried to do it again. I am SOOO upset about the way my body looks right now. I am DESPERATE to find something that will work. This summer, when my boyfriend dumped me, I lost about 10lbs and I looked AMAZING!!!! But, the problem was, I wasn't eating... and my metabolism went into turtle mode. When we got back together, it has been nothing but an uphill climb for me. I HAVE to find something that works. I was eating so good.. and excersizing.. and not losing a pound. I am going home at the end of the week for xmas and I want to look my best. I am absolutely miserable right now. Please, how can I lose at LEAST 5lbs before I go home next Sat?? I really want to lose more than that.. but... I just can't...

my boyfriend needs to get off every night in order to get to sleep. He stays up crazy hours to get his work done.. and I'm normally asleep before he is. I use to be really really bothered by it too... but, now, I think I'm just use to it. It still bugs me that he has to do it.. but, as he says "It's just a tool". Girls aren't like men.. so, we don't always understand

as the song says.. A lady in the streets but a freak in the sheets!

OMG.. I started reading this and thought... THIS IS MY POEM! lol.. then realized you took a different spin on it. ha ha... Good job.

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