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elan-the-moose

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  1. that was a very good reply. I myself am in a situation where i have to give her her space. I told her that we should not talk for a while... because we both are "emotionally charged" and need time to let the dust settle, to see things objectively... You also have things to sort out. You should have space of your own too... your own life... She is only 18... she also wants to discover life... i'm not saying that she can't enjoy life without being with you, but she needs space of her own... you two have to be inter-dependant of each other, and not dependant. this is like a test... with time on her own, with hindsight she will figure out if she really wants to be with you. don't interfere with her life, you will only make things worse. she has to find herself and she is probably confused too. if she gets another BF quickly, don't worry, he's prolly a rebound. If you were of any meaning to her, she's prolly still very confused right now. take care man Oli
  2. hi there... i just realised why she just left me. My GF left me because i dumped her in the past. And i was very mean. I think she is afraid of getting hurt again. She still has feelings for me, that's for sure. And she told me she would come back to me if ever her fears went away. I need to re-establish a sense of security, show her i care. right? she phoned me even after we broke up... it shows she has feelings for me. she still blames me for what i did to her over 6 months ago... We are perfect together... well we were... I love her sooo much. What can i do to get her back? I know i should not be intruisive; I will not call her all the time... I'll be sending text messages every few days to show i still care... it's more personnal than an email, but not as intruisive as a phone call. what do you think? how to rebuild the trust?
  3. ohhhhh my goooood for those who have been following my story, my ex just got herself a new guy! (censored) ohhhhhhhhhhhhhh my goooooooooood! it hurts! i don't know what to do she's the love of my life! what should i do? will she come back? she started going out with him the night she got angry with me... the day before my birthday myyyyy goooooooooood please help me
  4. you know... when you've just broken up with someone... it is always better not to rush in a relationship. when you've lost someone, any trait in another person that might remind you of your ex might make you want to go out with the new guy. If you think you've gotten over the other guy, if you are absolutely sure, then go ahead. If not, you will just end up hurting yourself and the other guy. right now i'm waiting for my ex to come back... i let her go... I sincerely hope she comes back to me. it's hard... i wonder how you guys on this forum can wait months! it's been a couple of days i've broken up and it's already hell for me! anyhow... i hope it helped. Oli
  5. I think that a martial art will work very fine. I'd recommend Karate, but that's just me. Maybe you should try Kung-Fu. Martial arts make you forget everything, make you focus and might even make you more productive. that means more time to relax or more time to do stuff. even if you think you don't have time for that, try it. It might sound weird, but adding more things to your schedule makes you more organized, thereforeeeeeee more efficient. I hope that helps. Olivier
  6. well mate... being only online friends isn't going to get you nowhere... you have to meet, or at least talk on the phone first. human contact, be it on the phone or physically can change lots of things... being physically present with the person in question is the best way to try to make something sparkle. she won't have as much anticipation and "feelings" when you meet online than when you meet in person. oh and try to play on the "anticipation" part. good luck mate Oli
  7. while i haven't been with my ex-GF for that much time, we still have been together 3 years, with big ups and BIG downs... we are actually in a big down right now, i.e. she is my ex... I broke up with her half a year ago because i did not know if i was with her by habit or if i really loved her... i felt i didn't need her anymore... well, that was mean on my part, because she had given so much for our relationship... anyway, i came back yes, after all i did, after all i felt, i came back. after 4 months, because she was mad at me, but i came back. now we just broke up again because she can't forgive me for what i did to her... right now. i know that if 2 people have sincere feelings, and are really meant to be together, no matter what, if you let time do its job, you are bound to come back together. I have decided not to beg her anymore, not to plead for us because it will make her even more distant. I asked her to give me a phone call when she is ready to talk to me... i hope that everything is going to be fine for you
  8. today, Feb 19 is my birthday... i just turned 21 and it's my saddest birthday ever... i've posted my story yesterday about my GF. She is now mad at me... she thinks i'm a liar, hypocrite, and that i deserve no trust. i didn't do anything... well she read my emails, and in them i talk to my old friends back home... since they're old friends i talk very differently to them than to her... i had a little hope to get back with her when we broke up, but now i have none. i don't know what to do. i think i don't deserve what is happening to me. she is the love of my life... she has found someone else she feels comfortable with... they will surely start going out together. oh god... is there something i can do? i can't even talk to her! she doesn't want to hear me. i can't go see her, she doesn't want to see me. i want to set things straight and i want to wait for her. i'm going back to Toronto on friday... so i hope i can make things right before that. what should i do? Oli
  9. i think love is something more complex than that... being well together is the beginning of it... but love... it's a big word... love is built with time... i mean real love. love at first sight is something different, less durable. if you think it's for the best, go for it. if it's something that has more bad consequences and you'll do stuff "just for the heck of it" then by all means don't do it, it's not worth it. a simple infatuation is not worth a friendship. when it concerns real love, then everything changes. take care Oli
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