finittz

I'd actually say that I'm pretty close with her, not best-friend but close. That's where a big part of the problem roots from, I don't want to ditch her as my friend because I enjoy her company, but then again it's killing me. Like you said I can't really imagine anyone saying I don't want to be your friend anymore.

There are 4 of us (3 girls and a guy) which are always together in school. We were walking to the bus stop after school and one of them is like "so are we still going skiing Sunday?", I didn't say anything. (A day or two ago I overheard that same person talk about going skiing) The other girl is like "ya for sure" and still I didn't say anything. Then I start to cross the road the other girl is like " Sam, you're coming, you know that right" (Sam=me). So this is the first time shes asking me (even though thats more of a command) but now I don't know whether they truly want me to come or she just asked because maybe by mistake she mentioned it infront of me....I've contemplated at other times whether these same friends have actually wanted me to come places with them, because they've gone to other places without me and it may just be because they're all girls so they want to hang out as girls, but I don't know. So now should I go?...I feel like I was just a last minute addition...

ya it is...but you mean friendship wise or legally (I was given the password) and friendship wise yes it was but I don't know. Now I just feel really bad, I'm not gonna say anything to anyone even her and try to forget I even read it........ahhhh the only thing this tells me is that Im obsessed with her SOO what I should be asking is how do I rid myself of the obsession?

Ok so I'm a guy and my friend gave my her email password, she wanted me to get something for her (somethin like that). Anyways, that was a couple of days ago, and today I was bored so I logged into her account and started looking through (I admit I was so curious to know what happens in her life, this being a girl who i've previously had feelings for). I used to be one of her best friends before I asked her out, now I'm just a good friend. What I found out today was amazing! She's thinking about breaking up with her boyfriend (hasn't told me anything about that), her sister did something really bad in school and another topic which I asked about a long time ago and she never told me. She used to tell me everything and I really miss it. SO like wow, i found out so much today. On a sidenote for anyone whos thinking this...no I don't plan/nor will I do anything bad with the info I got today. I know I'm wasn't a good friend today when I went through her email, but damn she gave me her password (she prob didnt think that I would do somethin like this) but I did it. I don't know what to feel at the moment, so I'm just sitting here typing and thinking damn....

Thank you everyone for your comments but obviously you didn't finish reading my post. I have already asked her out and told her I liked her in September. She said she didn't like me like that. AND another thing is that now she has a boyfriend!

SEVENTEEN: You look at their profile constantly. SIXTEEN: When you're on the phone with them late at night and they hang up, you still miss them even when it was just two minutes ago. FIFTEEN: You read their Texts and IMs Over and over again. FOURTEEN: You walk really slow when you're with them. THIRTEEN: You feel shy whenever they're around. ELEVEN: When you think about them, your heart beats faster but slower at the same time. TEN: You smile when you hear their voice. NINE: When you look at them, you can't see the other people around you, you just see him/her. EIGHT: You start listening to slow songs while thinking about them. SEVEN: They're all you think about. SIX: You get high just from their scent. FIVE: You realize you're always smiling when you're looking at them. FOUR: You would do anything for them, just to see them. THREE: While reading this, there was one person on your mind this whole time. TWO: You were so busy thinking about that person, you didnt notice number twelve was missing ONE: You just scrolled up to check & are now silently laughing at yourself. The above is the survey type thing I did. After I finished I realized I was still thinking about a friend a thought I was over a couple months back. We're always hanging around at school, so doing no contact is not an option. As well, when I first liked her I talked to her about it and after that things went pretty sour between us, now they have become normal again and I don't want to go through a sour period again by doing more talking so again thats not an option. How could one girl change my life so much ! any suggestions...for the moment all I can do is post on forums like these and keep it bottled inside of me..

Let me explain the full context. So tonight (or now more like yesterday night) I went to a semi-formal dance. I went solo (im a guy) but with some girl and guy friends, some brought their boyfriends/girlfriends and the other 3 girls went solo. So i was thinking we'd have fun just dancing, but when the dancing started they didn't want to go so I went in with a guy friend and joined into some groups on the floor. Later the 4 girls (who were at my table) came onto the dance floor and i joined them for like 2 min and then they moved away, so i go around a bit and then join them again and they kind of just keep to themselves in a circle of 4 ppl and at that point I was really pissed so I just went to dance with other people that I knew. It really pissed me off because I thought I'd have a good time dancing with them. ALTHOUGH, I did have a good time dancing with the other people I just can't seem to get this out of my head. I feel like they were so selfish and just ignored me? I don't know do girls tend to cluster up like that on the dance floor? OR what was it ....this is mostly to vent because I feel, I don't know but like betrayed because I only came to the semi-formal because they're (these solo girls) like "ooo you should come to semi etc....etc..." so I came.

ok I think I may ask tonight....umm we talk a lot on msn but i've never actually called even though I have her number. So should I just ask her on msn?

We're both in highschool same grade, one class together. During the break and even a bit before we started talking a lot. I got her number in a kind of "cheap" way but I still got it (from her) lol. Now I wanna ask her out but at the moment we are really busy with school stuff that we're finishing up before school starts next week. Should I still ask her out somewhere? Also we live kind of far away, so I don't really know how we should meet...should I ask her about taking public transit or what because I dont have a car? I don't really know how that's gonna work even after I ask her out... Another thing...we've been talking for a while now about 3-4 weeks a lot...so how do I make sure this doesn't come off as a friendly thing and more of as a date? Finally, when we do go out (if we do) should I pay/offer to pay for stuff? Movie tickets etc? As you can tell I am a complete newbie at this, so please help! Thank you One last thing i remembered....I dont know if she likes me too because she seems like the type of girl that would talk a lot with ppl but then again phone # and this other interesting convo where we tried to sneak in whether I had a girlfriend or not....or maybe I was just looking too hard??

This relates to the girl in my other posts but it is really another topic on its own. I'm a guy and I watch romantic comedies, but around the tough guy kind of image watching them makes you so girly (well at least thats the sterotype). Then today I overheard this girl im havin problems wit and her friend talking about how she thinks this guy is perfect (the usual he looks good, funny etc....) and then she mentioned "he watches romantic comedies too" (somethin like that). And she was so happy about it and here I am thinking well I watch them too but I never said anything because it would make me look really u know. So now I'm just thinking and also pouring out my feelings....do girls like that/ prefer that guys watch romantic comedies and just let down their tough guy act? ahhh why!!

well if anyone remembers during the summer I fell for a close school friend and it wasn't entirely me I swear she lead me on...like calling me on my work breaks cuz she got scared watching a movie (come on whts a bigger tell sign). Anyways the previous school year before that summer she just started getting really close to me taggin a long with me everywhere and always buggin me. I told her I liked her (some ppl said to do it and some said don't...her bf said to tell her...so I did it) this happened right after school had started again in september. Now this year I have ALL my classes with her and we walk home the same way so I'm always still seeing her!! She still talks to me etc...not as much as last year but she still does. However, this year she has a new person shes always buggin and after. And this other guy which she always goes to and leans on, you know the thing you do when you're bf/gf. So i hate to admit it but these two guys get me really jealous. I thought I was over her and I told the ppl that went through this wit me that I was over her...BUT really I don't think I'm over her. The fact that she is extremely hot doesn't help either... So now I don't know what to do...I try kind of just ignoring what she's doing and who shes with but guess what at the start of the year like first couple of days I hadn't told her I liked her and so I sat beside her in ALL my classes and now I completely regret the decision because that means I have to see her all the time which just increases my jealousy when I see her with those two guys around me..ahhhhhhh I can't take it anymore and I can't talk to anyone about it because everyone thinks I'm way over it... Before I remember having the longest convos with her about nothing and now on msn she'll say two things and i'll say two things and the convo will go dead till I say somethin like "so wht u upto now" etc....before it used to be so nice she would msg me all the time and wouldnt stop goin and when i didnt respond she would jus msg me more and call and my god reading what I'm saying makes me so sad....how could I be so obsessed over this one damn girl.... I need help what do I do?? also THANK YOU, you don't know how much I appreciate this...

This may sound weird but....how do I say hi to girls? In particular this one I like who I just started talking a lot more with. When I see her in the hallways I just say hi (in a shy voice) ...once a even just lifted my hand up like a high-five kind of thing.....so any suggestions...and plz dont think im weird...its just that this thing is kinda makin me paranoid

The answer is yes. I'm a shy guy and if a decent girl asked me out i would say yes...so it could be that he just wants to try the dating thing out...lol...but on the other hand I did turn down this one girl who some ppl might have thought to be decent...

well...im the quiet type of guy...hanging out wit friends, laughing at their jokes and once in a blue moon throwing in mine... there a couple of girls i talk to if an opportunity comes up..but otherwise i just sit there...while my other friend pokes them, always making jokes about them and bothering them, now to me it would seem like it bothers them, but he still makes them laugh and i get the feeling that even though he acts like a 10yr old kid...girls like it when he bothers them... so in general do girls like it when they are bothered, poked, tapping them then turning away? Also since im the kind of guy who just sits there, and laughs at jokes they make once in a while...should i change my attitude..start bugging them more and acting a bit more stupid???

ok well...this is applyin to 2 different girls..lol one at my school and on online... but the thing is that whenever she goes to the movies its with a bunch of friends...i've been to the movies wit her once a couple weeks ago when some of my friends were goin wit hers...thing is the guys and girls walk seperatly so its looks weird if i go up to the girls and all the other guys are behind me...and even when we got into the theatre all the guys sat at a row in front of me and all the girls on my row...i managed to sit beside her...she said how she hated the movie...and that she wasnt scared (we were watchin "the grude") and ya so the rest of the movie went by...we didnt talk much and then we went walkin around the mall...some how me and a friend got separated from the other guys and were wit her and 2 of her friends....but i still didnt have the guts to talk to her...and then they just went around some stores shoppin and then i went home....so sad i know....anywayz this is all about the girl i goto school with....so any ideas

bout the callin....we barely talk in school partly to the fact that i dont sit next to her in any of my classes with her and even before school shes usually with her girlfriends upstairs or just hasn't come to school. So i dont have her number....and asking for it would be kind of ocward becuz we barely talk at school...and on msn things don't know too well. Except im kinda good at school(meaning marks) so she does once in a while ask me questions about wht were doing or something like that but it only lasts for a couple minutes...any more suggestions...that should answer some of ur questions...

ok heres the situation....i meet a new girl...we talk, introduce ourselves, im usually questionin them about themselves. She also has a webcam, btw this is all happening on MSN. So we see each other, now after the intros the convos go to hey>hey>whts up>nm>u?>nm...then just a long space and then usually just ends...sometimes i gtg so i say bye and she says bye after like a 30min block of silence. So im wonderin wht can i talk about after the intros...we have webcams can we do anything wit them...(not thinkin bout cybersex or anythin like that...lol)

I like this girl, dont think she realizes it. She talks with me sometimes, mostly with her 3 close girl friends. Then in class shes talkin to this guy that sits beside her, i think she likes him, but then again she sits beside him. Is it becuz i like her and im jealous that i think she likes him or could it be that hez her friend and just talks....does all this make sense????? anywayz...any suggestions thx in advance...

just wonderin....is your age right!! you're 16 and are gonna have sex....and ur current gf has already had it b4 meaning shes had it at a younger age???

I met her this year...shes in a couple of my classes but we rarely talk in class or around school...mainly on msn At first i used to have big convos wit her, about everything...lately shes not been sayin much to me...and occasionaly i start up a topic and after a while it dies out and we dont talk anymore that day....she usually talks to me bout schoolwork... I feel so connected when we talk, but then i see some of her display names and they are reffering to this guy, lets call him guy1....like from 7 to 12 it seems like she talks wit him....i dont know, am i jealous becuz she talks a lot wit other guys and not me.....im so confused...i think about her everyday...but i've been readin other topics and im thinking should i just try to forget about her and someone who is interested in me will talk to me....OR do girls prefer guys start the convos...wit the hey(the 5min hery, whts up, nm...etc) and then a topic.....or will girls start talkin wit guys if they're interested in them or like them as a friend...i know wit a girl to girl thing its completely different...but here im talkin about a girl to guy thing.... anywayz there are a lot of different things above...plz make any suggestions or comments on wht to do or similar situations or anything...thx in advance

can someone plz explain flirting to me....im so confused about what it is...thx

THX everyone for ur replies...one thing everyone has mentioned is flirting...i never got the whole flirting thing...i dont get it get....can someone explain it to me....give me examples of mature flirting as you say pokin...etc. is immature flirting... thx

i kinda want to know from girls aged 15-16 years old...any other comments will also be appreciated ok here it is....theres this girl in my most of my classes...we talk sometimes in person but mainly on MSN...i like her and usually i am payin attention to her/sits infront on me... now in class this guy that sits beside her is sometimes bugging her....poking her and stealing her pen...and most of the time im her im a nice guy and dont do anything except sometimes talk... I just wanted to know if she likes when ppl bother her...poke her, steal her stuff, making fun of her, etc....or if she would like it when a nice guy is around just talking... It doesnt matter....you can comment...girls (put ur opinion) and any other suggestions would be great BTW I CANT GET MY MIND OFF HER...

I was wondering if having alot of classes together when dating is a good or bad thing...Im not dating yet but it is prob gonna happen...lol This semester i have 3 classes with her...but next semester i only have one...so is that a good or bad thing? I was thinking good so that it wouldnt ditract me to much but at the same time i have her in one of my classes...with that she is the type of person who hangs out with her friends ALOT she has 2 really close friends

im kind of in the same position as you...except i have classes with her but because she doesnt sit near me we hardly ever talk in class and just talk somewhat on msn.. Im also a kinda shy guy so i dont know what to do...