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With all due respect I didn't come here to be patronised, we didn't use them 'lightly' ffs... Omg.. "But since she didn't understand that apparently"... Stfu?

I know it's hard - but if she doesn't trust you, then any attempt you make to continue forming your relationship is pointless. Relationships centre around trust, and without is one will inevitably fail every time. Talk to her. Tell her how you feel.. it'll make things better in the long run

My gf and I have been together for about 4 months now and, although to many that will sound like hardly any time at all, have become incredibly close in not that long. We started having sex fairly early on in the relationship; at first using condoms (with the exception of one heat-of-the-moment occasion (morning after pill)) and about 2 months in, my she said she wanted to go on the pill. Last weekend she came round. We had sex - but at about 3am sunday morning, she suddenly realised she'd forgotten to take the pill on saturday. On sunday morning, having planned to, we realised we had no way of getting anywhere to get a morning after pill. We worried a bit. This last week she developed cystitis. The worrying news is that she's about a week late for her period. Whilst first consideration might suggest pregnancy, is there any possibility this anomaly is due to her infection last week? She's staying with her grandparents this week who live in the middle of no where so there's no way she can get hold of a pregnancy test. She's coming round again this weekend howevere so hopefully then we'll find out. Any info or advice would be much appreciated till then :sad: Cheers, Tom. P.S - The weird thing is, the more I think about it, the more attractive the idea of being a parent is, yet the more impractical the concept becomes - I'll be going to university soon and she'll be in the middle of A levels.. it's ridiculous. Isn't it?

Hmm.. I can't remember waking up during the night for some time... maybe on the odd occasion but I definitely wouldn't describe my sleeping habits as irregular. I haven't had my thyroid checked, no - but i'm guessing I probably should? And no, I don't take any pills or supplements - only migralieve for occasional migraines, which are like hell

As the title suggests, this really is a vent of a few pent up feelings I’ve been saving for you all. I realise it’s completely self-obsessive rubbish and for that, I apologize in advance. I’m at boarding school. I have been for little over a year. For anyone my age, you’ll know that UCAS places tremendous pressure upon you to complete a taxing and lengthy application which, in effect will decide the rest of your life. Besides this, (of course), I juggle difficult A levels and a huge (don’t even get me started) array of extra curricular activities. And this would all be fine... ..but I’m lazy. Now at the same time trying incredibly hard not to sound arrogant, I have always been able it seems to put hardly any work into any of my subjects, and still do well at the end of the day. It annoys my parents, my friends, my teachers and even me.. I'm forever tired. Tiredness is an understatement in itself. It's beyond the normal level of fatigue, even for a relatively unhealthy teenager. I actually find it a real challenge to get up, and even more so to stay awake during a perfectly active and engaging day. I experience what I can only describe as a complete and utter absense of energy. They thought I had M.E at first (chronic fatigue syndrome) and it's still a possiblity (my blood tests came back as inconclusive). Then they suspected I might have diabetes.. I didn't. I've often been told my diet was to blame, and originally I completely agreed... but now I eat perfectly healthily, and attempt to engage in regular exercise. If anything it gets worse. I have the tendency, as commonly as its unadvised, to bottle emotions and not release them in any way. Seeing as appear to be a highly emotional (teenage) person, this often comes with negative results. For example, I may go through a selfish “depressed” phase... or I might get annoyed at people who I do care about and really deserve better treatment. It’s different this time. I actually feel as though I’m teetering on the edge of a massive nervous breakdown. I know – it sounds ridiculous even reading it back myself, but I can’t think of a more appropriate way to put it. The stupid thing is I have NOTHING to be upset about. I have the best friends I could hope for, a lovely girlfriend, lots of people who care about me... everything else I could possibly want... Which makes me angry... It’s so selfish for someone like me, who does have everything they could want, to act like this... when there are people who have a 5th of what I have and can be the nicest people you’ll ever meet. I really don’t know. Life is a blur. I can’t see clearly at all... nothing is straightforward whatsoever. I find it difficult to think about anything simply. And I seem to complicate things, on an almost abnormal conscious level beyond belief. If anyone does, I create my own stress. I’m worried. And being honest, removing all pride, which for the majority of self-indulgent teens is quite a task, I’m actually pretty scared. Soon, and I can picture it in my deranged mind... I won't be able to take anymore. Heh.. PS. Oh and I THINK I may have discovered, as in this morning... I have quite a serious illness.

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A study in california actually proved that the main reason men are unable to achieve a climax or keep an erection during sex was because they worried about pregnancy. From what you're saying, this sounds exactly like what the problem is for you.. Just relax and enjoy it. If sex becomes something which induces fear or worry, then it loses every ounce of meaning and enjoyment. Her going on the pill sounds like the best and quickest solution but the important thing is to talk to each other and find a the solution together.

Hey Jonothan.. I know how you feel. You have to ask yourself, are you happy just presuming that she isn't getting up to anything at these parties, or is it about time you found out for sure. I know if it was me in your situation then i'd have to confront her. It doesn't have to be aggresive, but it's perfectly OK for you to be concerned.. i'm sure anyone else would agree with me that they'd be a little jealous if their partner was doing the same. The key to any relationship is communication.

Dont you miss the good old days where you used to wonder whether you were french kissing right? Before your discovery of the tangled web which comprises such complexities as oral sex, and even more scarily.. emotions lol Cos I sure as hell don't..

Complex, misunderstood beings we are..

You're sure you're kissing people.. right?

I'm only really posting cos he specifically requested females only

Perfectly reasonable question, no reason to react in any negative way whatsoever.. Would you not ask a pilot whether he'd flown a plane before if you thought it might hurt his feelings?

Well I was gona reply with a detailed post but friscodj kinda took the words out of my mouth

I don't mean to sound doubting, but I think if you were REALLY in love, then a matter regarding your friends wouldn't cause such a terrible result in your relationship. Obviously there's some deeper emotion that she's battling with at the moment.. If you're passionate about continuing this line of love, then my advice would be to give it some time. She's obviously still interested in you (interested enough to get back together with you after breaking up the first time).. Don't give up.. best of luck. Keep us posted on what happens

With bitter experience i've come to discover that if one tries to remain unseen, one is usually seen

I thought a nice monty python song with some cheery lyrics which are relevant to your situation might make you feel better Whenever life gets you down, mrs brown And things seem hard or tough And people are stupid, obnoxious or daft And you feel that youve had quite enoooouuuuugh Just remember that you're standing on a planet thats evolving Revolving at 900 miles an hour That's orbiting at 90 miles a second, so it's reckoned A sun that is the source of all our power The sun and you and me and all the stars that we can see A moving at a million miles a day In an outer spiral arm at 40,000 miles an hour In the galaxy we call the milky way (cant remember this verse) So remember when you're feeling very small and insecure How amazingly unlikely is your birth And pray that there's intelligent life somewhere up in space Cos there's bugger all down here on earth. Hope i've been of some assistance lol

I think it doesn't matter a great deal.. coming from a guys point of view I wouldn't really care as long as we got on and I didn't feel as though I was vastly incapable due to her being experienced.. ..with regard to finding out, it's best to be open and straight with him

I suggest tying him up and holding a gun to his head

My god people.. has society really fallen to a level inwhich we need to question who has the better gender? This is insane.. In this topic, all i've seen is people listing the faults with a gender. Mostly other than that is merely others challenging these views. Why can't people understand that life is comprised to two genders, utterly equal in their purpose and relevance upon earth. One thing I really can't get over is this: Women can create life? Excuse me but the last time I checked, sperm seemed a rather important element in creating anything close to life.. When you drift into the childish realm of claiming that women are better than men merely because they can naturally have multiple orgasms, you really do become ridiculous. Besides this point, it's been scientifically proven that men's capacity to become multi-orgasmic is entirely equal to women's.. Your generlisations regarding women's ability to communicate better than men are really inaccurate also.. this massively stereotypes men as some form of life which fails to possess any means of humane ability to transfer their feelings and emotions to others. Men can be far better communicaters that women, and similarly the same can be said for the opposite circumstances. To assume that in this world, one gender simply possesses this ability, and one doesn't is nothing more than stupid really.. A woman just needs to smile at a guy and he comes drooling, does he? Try it next time you see one and i'm faaaaairly sure you'll continue smiling as he walks away.. again you seem to portray quite an offensive image of men which really doesn't do anything to solve any element of sexism.. Sexual power? I mean really, what are you talking about? Women automatically look better than men? Rubbish. Women having the ability to use both sides of their brains is a completely ineffective argument and only further proves your lack of knowledge regarding the different capabilities of men and women.. men can use just as much of their brains as women can. So yeah, as you asked for us to do, i'm correcting you where you're so very wrong.. Basically, life consists of a delicate balance which is constantly kept moving and alive through the mediums of two powers, each which must work in unison to achieve this goal. Without women, men would be completely helpless. Similarly, without men, women would stand no chance. Is it really that difficult to understand that each gender plays their equal part within life, and that makes each one vitally important in it's own right? Let me know what you think

It's a fantastic way of spicing up your sexlife

I agree

That's awful.. if your parents won't listen to you then i strongly suggest you seek help from the police. This man's breaking the law, and they have to listen to you.

This anxiety is far more common than you might think. Every teenager at some point will be nervous when doing something new - whether it be going on a date, having sex, whatever. The important thing to remember is that if they're going on a date with you in the first place, they probably really like you and are just as nervous as you. There's nothing wrong with being anxious..