Joanne

Hi, this situation might sound stupid but i really want to ask other people for advice incase i can't see whats best because of what i want. If you get my drift. Basically, this guy, right. I love him to bits. We aren't together. When i'm not with him i'm thinking about him, when i'm with him i'm happy and when we argue i feel like my world is falling apart. i'm quite sure how i feel, but i don't know how he feels. Its like, one minute he's all flirty lovey, the next he's gone all cold. To make things worse there's another girl involved in his life. They aren't together, but thats only because she lives 200 miles away and she thinks its not practical for them to be together. And recently, for about the past few weeks, he's been telling me how much she annoys him and he wants to break it off but he can't coz they arne't really going out. So anyway, today he phoned me to tell me that he and her and going in a new direction and they're getting more serious, and he's HAPPy about it. I feel like my heart is literally breaking, i feel sick, i cant think about anything else but them, and i keep bursting into tear. (sad i know). I don't know what to do here, we share a very special friendship but i dont know whether he loves me or whether we are just friens to him. sometimes he says things to me that hint we should be together, but i dont know. I do not want to speak to him about it incase it spoils our friendship, but i dont want to lose out ot this ooher girl. WHAT SHOULD I DO? sorry if i've rambled about nowt. Love, Jo*

Hey. Well firstly babe, i think you really should tell her how you feel. And tell the girl your true thoughts on the situation, dont just get all stereotypical and tell her what you think is right for the situation. i mean, tell her everything. Maybe she'll realise how much you do care for her. The best scenario is that she'll have been waiting for years to hear you say such things, and by worst all she can say is she doesn't feel the same. But at least then everything is out in the open and you dont have to tear yourself up inside. Be honest, and save yourself the anguish. Luvz, Jo*[/color]