Silvi

i would say go for someone else!!! u don't seem like you're keen on either of these guys. im guessing u need to work out what it is you want from your next relationship! i doubt it's anything too serious cos u've just got outta one like that. work out what u want and then decide, but honestly i don't like the sound of any of these guys! try someone else and soneone different! good luck!

yea she said that she was gonna look it up but we were both just there so she thought she might as well ask. i think she's really sorry, i tried to make a few jokes out of it like you said annie24 and it kinda worked, lol! she said to me if she ever raises her hand to me again i should hit her lol! obviously i wouldn't but it's funny cos it proves how sorry she is!!! thanks for that piece of advice DN, you've got a point about not being too forgiving but i think it's ok now...cheers

your right and i've sent you a PM saying sorry...i just got worked up... lol! thank you, now i understand what you mean...that's a good idea actually!!!

forget about it mate...basically it was just a post that i wrote and it got deleted!!! i was just complaining and giving my own opinion on certain things cos some people were giving out stupid advice that's all....anyway it got deleted so obviously this is a very fair forum.... and i don't think i was being harsh...and neither would you if you had read my other post...

ok ok im sorry about that previous post...but i just wanna ask is it wrong when i give my own opinion but it's ok when others leave stupid ideas for people that are asking for help??? cos if that how it is then...wow what a great forum!!! who ever deleted my other post...well done cos you were really doing the right thing!!!! so i'll just ask again...does anyone have any good advice???

lol! thanks but i think it may be a little more serious then that plus the necklace is amazing and she absolutely adores it...also it took me ages to pick out so errrrm thanks for the suggestion but no thanks...sorry! anyone else got any ideas???

yesterday my gf and i were walking around town and she was searching for a book. while we were in one of the book store's she asked me how much the necklace was that i bought her for valentines day, the reason she was asking is cos her friends were talking about it and they said it looked expensive..the thing is she doesn't like it when i spend too much money on her..that's why she asked! anyway eventually i told her how much it was (kinda expensive ) and she fliped out on me!!! she hit me over the head, pushed me and shouted a little lol! well after this we were kinda distant and then she asked me if she hurt me and i said not physically but emotionally yes! she said sorry and we had a little talk about it...after that we were fine, we sat down in the park and she layed down and rested her head on my lap..basically we forgot all about it! then i spoke to her on the phone that night (as we always do) and she mentioned how bad she feels by it...i told her that iv forgotten all about it and there's nothing to worry about..it was just a spare of the moment thing that happened! anyways we went out today and she mentioned it again, i don't know why but she just won't forget about it...i told her that it was one bad thing that happened on what was probably the sweetest day we've had out together!!! but she just won't stop beating her self up over it!!!!! i'v tried a million times to tell her it's ok, it's in the past, no harm done!!!! she just won't accept it!!!! how do i get her to realise that iv forgiven her? i just don't want her to feel so hurt about it especially after i've already forgotten about it!!! cos i hate to see her so down and it's realli starting to make me feel bad and hurt now..... yea so how can i try n tackle this situation??? thanks in advance....

wow it's sacred ...talk about turning up the pressure lol! im just joking!!!! wel she told me that she realli enjoyed the day and that we're defiantly gonna do that again very soon! so yea i think i will have another chance at it.... thanks for the help...

hey everyone, k wel me and my gf have been together for just over 3 months but the thing is we haven't kissed yet, is this a problem after 3 months???? oh and she's kissed others before but i haven't kissed anyone yet, and she's expecting me to make the first move which is fair enough but obviously im nervous about this. yesterday we both went and played some basketball together (just the two of us) and during this time we were realli close and we couldnt stop messing about, like for exapmle wen she was about to shoot i would pick her up and move her out the way and little things like that, we just had loads of fun...i thought this was the perfect chance to have our first kiss but it just never happened...does anyone think that maybe i missed a great chance and iv messed it up???? cos thats what im thinking!!! i know i'll have more chances to kiss her cos we're spending most of next week together so any advice would be greatly appreciated, thanks........... Silvi

well when she's with me she's be full of confidence, it's only when i say nice things to her..she's like "oh yea whatever!" and when i brang up the topic about why she does this she told me all about it...so i think that's a good sign but in general she just likes to ignore the topic. i told her that it really upsets me when she does this, and she asked why, so i said cos you upset your self. basically she's agreed to try to change for the better but it doesn't seem like she wants to change for her self...but rather so that she doesn't upset me. this cant' be good..can it? oh yea..i forgot to say that i doubt a counselor would be good cos her parents would never allow it, plus i think that there apart of the problem too.

hey, i have the exact same thing with my gf, i know how you feel man it's fantastic..anyway lol....i made my gf a mix cd and it worked wonders im tellin you! she's indian so i made her a mix cd of all her favourite hindi songs, which i found out from her ever so friendly big brother. i mean i didnt understand a thing the people singing were saying but when i gave it to her she had this beautiful sparkle in her eyes that i could never forget... anyway u should make a mix cd..trust me you wont regret it... Silvi

hi everyone, k wel i need help with my gf, there's no problems with us, its just that she has trouble with herself...let me explain... k we've been together for about 8 weeks and recently we've gotten a lot more closer and more emotionally connected (i think thats what i mean), anyway i've started to compliment her as well, like tell her how beautiful she is and how great she is and so on..anyway this is where the problem is...she doesn't except compliments she just brushes them off and whats even worse is that she actually puts herself down in the process..she says she's ugly and things like that. at first i thought she was just saying that to maybe get me to compliment her more but recently i've found out (from her) that she get's taken the piss out of at school...the things that some of the people at her school say to her are unbelievable...but she's so pretty i just dont understand why people would say thing like that to her. anyway she told me that she says things about herself cos when others say them it makes her think about it and she ends up believing what they say to her..she says she cant help it!!! i said to her that i cant stop other people from saying things to her but i'll do my best to make her feel beautiful again... i dont really know wot im asking here but i guess i kinda need some help and advice on what to do to get her self esteem up...any help would be really appreciated... Thanks in advance, Silvi

Hey, i understand your situation but you haven't said anything about how you feel about this apart from that it's pissin you off lol. what do you want from your ex? do you want her back? or do you just want her to notice you?

dont worry im kool, im kool! i just needed to know how lol! i doubt i'll get nervous cos we're both really comfortable around eachother so i dont think i have much to worry about, like i said i just needed some advice and you guys gave it, thanks...

hey winkie, yep both of us have kissed other people before. I dont really mind what kind of kiss it is im not fussed bout that i just really feel like kissing her. lol yea we do both like eachother..a lot! Thanks for your advice mate, it's appreiciated!