lgl_chic, I understand where you are coming from, and also your dilema because I was/am in a similar postion...but I am the married one in love with someone else, who is also younger than me.
After 6 months of much personal struggle, I have decided to stay with my husband and two children instead of pursuing the relationship with the other man whom I still love very much. I cannot tell you that I have made the right choice or not, but I can tell you that not all cliche's are true and if you and your ex-boss are meant to be together...then you will be together. I know it's not a popular public opintion but I believe that if you follow your heart, and be true to yourself...without having intentions of hurting anyone, then things will work out the way the should...either with or without this man.
Good for you for leaving work and moving so far away too...it must have been an extremely difficult decision for you - so now the ball is in this mans court and if he comes for you, I would welcome him open-armed - but don't put your life on hold because of him either.
I don't believe that couples should stay together ONLY for their children...my husband and I both want our children to see a good relationship, or no relationship at all. And a close male friend of mine has stayed with his wife for 10 years longer after knowing that he's not in love with his wife, for their children, and completely regrets it. His children did not see a happy couple and he feels that he made the wrong choice years ago. But there are pros and cons to both sides and whatever this man chooses, either to come for you or be with his present family, that will be the bed that he has to lie in, and neither option is easy.
So if nothing else, know that you are on his mind too...and everything will happen as it should. It is not your fault that you've fallen in love with a married man, and it's not his fault that he's fallen in love with you too...love chooses you and isn't easy.
I wish you the very best, much peace in your heart and a lifetime of real love, no matter who it ends up being with!
