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  1. Just a quick message to say thanks for the recent replies. Particularly like the last comment. The therapy is going well. Helps we to understand somewhat as to why I still care for her. Cause I can't work it out on my own. Therapist says it's still early days and not to try and rush the recovery. I've blocked her but a lot of people to me are saying she's probably gonna try and contact me somehow. Despite her I think (can't be sure) being with this uni mate of hers now. Poor sod!! I guess these kinda girls always have someone else lined up. Which isn't really normal I guess! Thank
  2. No that's fair enough. I should have been stronger and been the one to end this a long time ago. Was engaged to this girl. The highs were beyond my wildest dreams. Not had many girlfriends and she would always criticise that and say that was because of me. I should've been more mature and not unintentionally added to the toxicity. But sometimes when you're in the eye of the storm you can't always see a way out.
  3. No not harsh at all. I have no idea why 'admittedly' I'm still drawn into what is probably a hold she has over me. I'll be the very first to admit that. I try not to see it as a weakness. But just someone I loved and still do. I know to fix myself I need to keep being strong and not give in and contact her. I'm not gonna lie it is bloody hard but in the long run the best thing for me. I'm just hoping and praying I don't cave in and text/call her. Csuse that is probably what she wants. But I won't give it to her. Thanks
  4. Hi everyone, Appreciate all comments in reply to my post on here. Yes some not easy to read but they all make complete sense. She then took away friend request. But now she has unblocked me and posted a pic of a guy she is staying with at his parents with him snuggling his dog in bed. Think someone is playing games. I don't rise to this stuff though. I've blocked her. I would imagine if you were completely over someone you wouldn't behave like this. Quite childish. Thanks again everyone.
  5. Hi all, Went to hospital. Nothing was broken. She was just told to rest. Which she found difficult so it's probably taking longer to heal than usual as she was walking on it fairly soon after. Was just the one leg. I was concerned for my safety. She could've picked up a pen on the dash and stabbed me with it. Not justifying anything. Just trying to get across my worry. Suffered a huge amount of abuse from her over the past year and a half. Just checked facebook and she's just sent me a friend request!!!! What's that mean??
  6. Thank you all. I do feel a bloody idiot for putting up with it for so long. Ashamed I wasn't stronger to be the one to end it ages ago. Don't really understand why I miss her still. But my therapist does so that makes me see I'm not weird!
  7. P.S She has pics and a few texts that state this happened. I'm not hiding anything. I went down to the police on my own accord showing I had nothing to hide. I have pics of what she's done to me. Incredibly abusive messages on my phone from her.
  8. Thank you for your reply LikeWater. It's appreciated. I look back and question if there was anything I could've done differently for it to not end in such a crap way. She'd blame me for why she got angry. Say I'm selfish and only think about myself. Say I wasn't enough or man enough for her. Never really understood these kind of remarks.
  9. Hi all, So a couple weeks ago my ex basically just got her uni friend (a guy) to pick her up and not seen her since. She lost her licence to drink driving. It was a very toxic/coercive control relationship from her. Insulting me, what I wore, saying I have no friends, my family hate me. Would split with me briefly and one time tell me she slept with someone and how he ed her real good. That hurt so bad. She's an alcoholic but doesn't think she is, has depression and bad anxiety. Craves attention from guys. Needs so much love due to not a great childhood. Would threaten to kill herself. A
  10. This is a great post. I've just split with a girl, only going out two months but she have me every reason to think this was forever. Was soooooo into me and then her insecurities (which she's explained) about dating better looking people than her get in the way and she chooses to be with a guy she's known since uni says she loves him oh and he is 21st!! She doesn't want me to contact her again. That's fine, it's early days and people change their mind. I wondered if it's a good idea to pop a Christmas card through her door for her and her sonn when it gets closer, maybe with a note insid
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