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About kelmar

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  1. I get you've had a bad past experience, but don't project what happened with your ex onto your current bf. He burned the picture at your request so he doesn't seem to have an emotional attachment to it. Guys seriously do forget about this kind of stuff. I know that may sound convenient to you, but it is the truth. I've been broken up with my ex for 4 months now. He is with someone else and when I was over at his place (to get some money he owed me) a few weeks ago I noticed that my toothbrush was still in the medicine cabinet and my feminine products were still under the sink. He ended th
  2. My ex and I have been broken up for 3 months now. I'm ready for the confidence boost that is the good ol' rebound. Not like an emotional crutch, this-got-off-on-the-wrong-foot relationship-type of rebound, but just one of those sometimes-you-gotta-get-under-someone kind of rebounds. I've got a few prospects and if I was the betting type I'd say one that is a certainty. Issue is that this dude is an emotional guy. He has quite literally been hitting on me for almost 6 years (he said that to me, which I found kind of charming and definitely flattering) and has asked me out in the past before I g
  3. Aww man, I remember the first few days after my breakup and I can honestly say they were the most painful days of my life. I had never experienced so much turmoil. I'm now 3 months into my break up and it gets so much better once you actively commit to moving on. For me, I had to see my ex one last time (after almost 2 months of very limited contact) and ask if it was absolutely over, with no chance of us ever being together again and it was. He had become a completely different person by then and I no longer even desired him which liberated me. If you really feel you need to reach out, do
  4. You should only implement no contact if your intention is to move on after your breakup. That's what it's for. Not for you to spend an arbitrary 30 days improving yourself to get her back. Distance does not make a dumpers heart grow fonder or make them change their mind. The window closes after about 2 weeks and each and every day the connection to you weakens as they begin to explore other options. Remind yourself that she wanted this. What's done is done. She's quite literally moving on, physically and emotionally. Focus your energy now on yourself and forgetting about her (maybe not forever
  5. Absolutely! It is so freeing to wake up and not wonder anymore. It is never easy being left behind by someone you once loved dearly, but they made the choice to leave and we have to make the choice to accept it. Once you do, the pain subsides and you're finally yourself again.
  6. Yep cancelled the light bill and told him I wasn't going to continue to pay rent in his f*ck palace of cheap girls and drugs...not my fault he blew his savings on glad rags and whatever the hell else. Felt liberating. I also told him to just do whatever with my stuff. Don't need it, don't want it. I didn't say it quite like that because there is no point in being savage, but he got the message. Told him I wasn't interested in maintaining any sort of friendship and said goodbye.
  7. Not harsh and well put. For me, I am an incredibly detail orientated person. The more I know, the more power I have. I think a part of me thought he might be pining for me and to know that is absolutely not the case and that he has moved on in such a gross manner makes it very easy for me to put it behind me. I was tormenting myself with the unknown. Now that I know he's a sleaze and he's sleeping with multiple women and doing drugs, I'm just totally turned off by him. The relationship had been over for me before it ended in a lot of ways as I had tried to end our relationship several time
  8. You guys, I think it has finally happened. I got closure. Now I don't want to get ahead of myself, but I think I'm finally able to let go of him and move on! Long story short, I saw my ex tonight for the first time in about a month. He told me what we had is way in the past (it hasn't even been 3 months but whatever) and that he is going out drinking, selling and doing drugs, and sleeping with "numerous women who come and go." I'm a little bit embarrassed that I asked about his dating life, but I NEEDED to hear that to move on. As I was leaving, he had a girl on the way over and I tho
  9. That right there was a MAJOR sign of him checking out. Please realize that he was crying and telling you all that junk because that's when he realized it was OVER. He knew the breakup was inevitable but he just wasn't quite ready. He then spent the following weeks being with you while simultaneously moving on, making it much easier for him to end it when he did rather than a few weeks before. That kind of sh*t happens all the time. It's happened to me, to you and probably everyone else on here. It sucks so bad, but you have no choice but to move on as he is already with someone else.
  10. If you constantly live in a world where you don't do this or don't do that and/or you don't have this or you don't have that then, sadly, you'll never do or have anything. Realize the chances of you being murdered are VERY slim. In 2013, the US government reported that there were about 92 murders a day by guns. That's roughly 92 people out of approximately 320,000,000...making your chances of being randomly murdered on any given day 0.00002875%. That's the reality. You have a 100% chance of never meeting anyone if you stay in bed all day. You need to rewire your neural pathways and align
  11. I don't want to give you false hope, but I am just going to throw this out there as a few things about this situation strike me as incredibly odd. -Why is a happily engaged woman speaking with her ex, especially regarding such intimate feelings? -Why is she asking him if he is in love with you? -Why would she even bother contacting you about this if she did not want the relationship to end? -The fact that she reiterates so many times that she is not trying to hurt you makes her ulterior motives clear She is without a doubt manipulating your relationship. It seems she sought him out, k
  12. This is an open letter to the gentlemen who helped me out tonight: I just want to say thank you for your kindness from the bottom of my heart. Tonight when I arrived at my vehicle in a dark parking garage I was alarmed to see a strange man passed out in the driver's seat of my car. I am a young woman and I was all alone. I panicked. I opened the door and attempted to wake him, but he was passed out drunk and unresponsive. After my attempts I noticed two men entering the parking garage. I made eye contact with one of the men and he could tell I was having an issue. I called out for help.
  13. Have you had a talk with her about her neediness/low self esteem? If not then there is only one outcome in this situation; you're probably going to have to break up with her. Don't blind side her. Talk to her about her behavior. If any part of you wants to make this work you can start by pulling away for about a week or two... give her some distance. See if she makes any attempts, no matter how small, to be happy without you around. If she doesn't and is constantly blowing up your phone then you know what's next. If you decide to break up with her then you must end it with her in person. Te
  14. As painful as this may be to hear, it really sounds like the two of you bring out the worst in each other. If you find you can't control you're anger and your emotions, it's because you're playing with fire and getting burned. You're lashing out from a deep rooted incompatibility. You may love each other, but if you treat each other like that it makes your relationship a toxic cesspool where negativity and heartache come to breed. Let her go. You guys obviously have different expectations of how the relationship should be. You WILL find someone that you don't have to struggle so much with.
  15. Alright every body, enough mom shaming. She's looking for relationship advice, not parenting advice. Let's try to leave her alleged mistakes when it comes to raising her children as a single mother out of it because it's probably really fu*king hard and lonely at times. My advice? Tell him it's time to move out. That being FWB was a mistake and that you need someone who is going to commit to you and not just sleep with you because it's convenient. Tell him that yourself and your kids always come first and that whatever psuedo-relationship the two of you had/have isn't working out and that
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