richardwright

Suncomesout- There is something that you are doing that is undermining your efforts. If you are anything like me, your boundaries or more specifically the lack there of, is destroying your efforts. I am going through A period in my life where I am only letting good people in. How do I know a good person when I see them? Only by the way they treat me and others. I respect they and show for themselves and others. I didn't listen to my gut. I didn't learn to love myself properly.I would love to be able to blame everybody else for my problems, and see myself as the victim, but that won't solve this problem for me. Painful emotions create the opportunity for the most change. OK so I slapped the out of myself. My friends and family helped me to realize that I needed to.

I have been married for 12 years. I will be divorced next week. My ex is selfish and mean. I think she hates men. I have two children, eight and 10. She rules the roost with fear and anger. I know I'm better off without her, but this is been the most demoralizing experience of my life. I am upset most of the time. I'm an independent person who is capable of taking care of myself, but these days I'm struggling. Some days all I manage to eat is ice cream out of a 1 gallon bucket. I just can't seem to get myself motivated. 1 year ago, I took on new responsibilities at work and I'm in a new place. I miss my children. I took this job to have more time with my family, and then I realized I needed to get away from my emotionally abusive wife. I have lost interest in all of my normal activities, except my children. I can't seem to let go. Struggling to save myself. Please help.