I'm shocked at how often this happens. I'm sorry to all of you who are going through this, it's definitely not easy even months after breaking.
We've been together for 6 years and were high school sweethearts. I've been very loving with her throughout going to near extremes to see her happy and to b honest I'm still in love with her. She's 22 and I'm 24. We've had our ups and downs and just minor issues but things only started getting really bad when her mother got sick in June of last year. I was with her through everything, from early and late visits to the ER to drives to the airport (she was receiving treatment as well as living with family in another state). Their relationship was one sided as my gf had resented her mom for past struggles with her. She passed away in late May of this year in their home state and when my gf returned I noticed her very distant and cold toward her family and I. I tried my best to be with her and there for her as much as possible but I also had my dad in town (I only would see him about twice a year as he lived outside the US) so it was tough to split time between both of them.
Fast forward to end of June and she calls for a break saying she's "not in love anymore". I decide to keep talking in that time to a minimum and in mid July she decided she wanted to break up. I didn't want to put more pressure on her than she had so I agreed to it, but a couple of days later I decided I wanted her back. She's gone out partying and taking road trips with friends alot since we split. 1.5 months after I get a call saying my father passed unexpectedly. I am obviously very affected but as stable as I can given the circumstances.
We haven't spoken about us since the breakup and have had little contact (a few texts once every 2 weeks or so). I last saw her 2 weeks ago at my dad's viewing and it was mainly small talk and a few intense stares between us. I feel that maybe it's best for us not to be together right now but I feel more inclined to remind her I'm here if she needs anything. If she needs me just to be a friend right now, so be it. At the same time, I hear that if she needed help from me she would know that she can ask. With that said, I'm taking the time to focus on myself too. Advice on what I should do? Flowers and a brief card? Anything?
