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Hi, I agree with lily. You have to be patient and build up to it gradually. When there are "sparks", you usually (not always), but oftentimes, feel them and it shouldn't be so hard to go with it from there. I know confidence doesn't grow on trees... but sometimes when you "pretend" to feel confident, repeat it to yourself a few times, and believe it, it actually becomes a part of who you are and how you are perceived by others. This takes time, of course. But even though I agree that it is extremely hard to recuperate from several rejections in a row, we should "try" to take them lightly and not to heart. Many times those girls or guys who reject others are not even worth pursuing. Hang in there... its not a one-sided issue... .. and the beat goes on

Well Corvidae...I think that you shouldn't worry so much about women's mixed or overly-subtle signals as much as guys' overly-passive state. Like you said: And even though it's 2004, I think men should make the bold moves. Call me old-fashioned when it comes to the dating scene if you want, but many girls think this way so don't feel enraged by this. Be open about your feelings. Be confident. Confidence is so sexy! What's the worst that can happen? Someone rejects you?! So What? Bring on the next! Ciao!

I absolutely agree... guys are extremely passive now. Its not this way in other places I've visited. Although we girls should drop hints and be more approachable (I'm working on this!), guys should be less afraid of rejection and bolder - this may actually improve their chances!

I absolutely believe in love at first sight...however, I don't believe it is "love" per se, but its an initial spark, an attraction, or chemistry between two people - something that, with time, can definitely lead to real love and is beautiful from the start. Sometimes it leaves you with a silly, lovestruck, ear-to-ear smile that is irremovable for quite a while. Of course, this "love" can also dissipate or be completely destroyed as you get to know the other person. And then there's another kind of love, wherein you get to know the person first and then start seeing them differently and begin to "love" them through that. All their imperfections are perceived perfectly by you and they seem more and more beautiful by the minute. Love comes at us in many different ways. Cupid doesn't discriminate! He hits us in different ways...so keep your eyes and heart open and never cease smiling!

Hey everyone! Well, I have a small question for you guys. There's this guy I like (he's 21, I'm 19) and I know he has noticed me but there are certain barriers which have caused our relationship to be casually professional. I would like for him to ask me out but I know that I would probably have to hint at it a bit, I'm just kinda shy around him... any suggestions on how to do this? thanks a bunch...xoxo

Hi everyone. I have had a crush on this guy for quite some time but when it started a couple years ago, I was seeing someone and so was he. He would smile at me, I would catch him staring at me and things like that but it never led to anything and we never even talked. However, I ran into him again and he remembered me. I see him on occasion and he's nice to me, but I'm confused as to whether he is just nice or if he actually likes me. Sometimes I notice him looking at me when I'm not "looking" and the other day he smiled at me while I was walking down the hall, and then he was flirtatious - he said Hi, gave me a kiss on the cheek, had his hand on my waist. and he doesn't seem like the kind of guy who would flirt with everyone out there. But thats it!! Nothing much there, in my opinion. We're both single but I don't know if he's interested!?!? Any advice, thoughts, suggestions? Hoping to read your comments soon. thnx. ciao!