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  1. I don't think you guys understand. He's been there for almost three years and we have been to visit him. We surprised him New Year before last. He has also been here a few times. Once for his Mum's wedding, he surprised me for my birthday and he's coming over for this Christmas but it still doesn't seem to help. I know what Australia is like, I lived there myself for over a year. It's a great place but I wouldn't want to live there. I love England and I love the friends and family I have here. There is more to life than hot weather. Oh and sooky, visiting Oz from the UK is quite a lot of money. Obviously it depends on the time of year you go but last time it cost us over £1000 each. Personally, I don't like his girlfriend and hope he choses to come home.
  2. I'm trying to offer some advice to my friend. About 6 years ago he met an Australian girl who was living and working in London. They dated for a couple of years and lived together for a while, then decided to go travelling together. They spent 6 months travelling through Europe and Asia then eventually came to rest in her home town of Sydney. My friend, Ben thought the plan was to stay in Sydney for a year or so then come back to the UK but his girlfriends plan was to settle in Sydney. She assumed he would like it better than the UK and agree to stay with her... Obviously this was not the case. Ben is home sick. He's missing his family and friends but he is in love with his girlfriend. I've asked him where he wants to settle down and he said, "England" however he just can't bring himself to split up with this girl because it would hurt him too much. She has said that she doesn't want to live in the UK again. Obviously I want him back here, he's my best friend and I miss him. Any advice would be appreciated, he's such a nice guy and I hate that he has to go through this. Thanks.
  3. I have talked to her, she knows exactly how I feel. There's not much more I can do. I can't tell her to stop hanging around with guys that she or I don't know, all I can tell her is how I feel and if that has no effect then I guess I just have to put up with the paranoia.
  4. No, this is a different girl. Claire wasn't over her ex so I broke it off soon after that post. I don't feel that this girl would cheat on me, it justs makes me very uncomfortable. Hard to explain these feelings.
  5. Hello All, Firstly just a brief background into my situation. Been seeing a girl for almost 2 years. We live 2 hours drive from each other so meet up most weekends. It's going really well, we're very much in love and I even picture staying with her for the rest of my life. However, we still have at least 3 more years before we can live with together. I don't think I have a huge problem with jealousy or paranoia, it's never been a problem with past relationships, I have good self esteem and I'm a confident person, however recently I have been having some strong feelings. There have been a couple of instances, both on a weekend when we haven't been together. The first, she told me she was going out with a few girl mates for some drinks and a chat, however 2 guys that we've never met before also turned up. At around midnight, the girls went home, leaving my girlfriend and two guys. I phoned later on that night to find she was out clubbing with them. I don't think I would mind so much if one of her friends was there but I hated the fact that she was out with 2 guys she has known for only a few hours. The second instance was similar. She met up with some uni friends for a few drinks after class and ended up going to a club with a guy after everyone else had gone home. I've never met this guy and she has only talked to him a couple of times. I didn't feel to bad on this occasion as she told me the guy was gay but I still felt uneasy as she was drunk, with a guy she hardly knows and in the middle of London. I've talked to her about this and I don't think I have anything to worry about however my feelings are that a long distance relationship takes a little more consideration for your partner. Am I right? Or should I just stop being a paranoid food and let her get on with whatever she wants to do?
  6. Hi, I've been in a LDR for just over a year. My girlfriend is currently studying a part-time foundation college course with a view to starting a degree next year. The original plan was for her to enroll in a University near me once the foundation course was completed. However, last week she said she changed her mind. If she was to move to a uni near me, she would have to start as a full-time student. If she stays where she is, the course is specifically designed for part-time students who work as well so she would keep her current job. Her problem is, she says she could not rely on me for money if she moved here. When I try to discuss possible options with her, she gets upset which makes converstaion difficult. I obviously want what is best for her but if she enrolls on the course where she is now, this long distance relationship will continue for another 5 years! I've managed it for this long because there has been something to look forward to but another 5 years just seems so long. I've thought of ways I could move down to her but I currently work for my father and I'm due to take over the family business in the next 5 years so moving would mean leaving this job and a life-time of financial security. I would also have to sell my flat. I can't see a way out.
  7. Definitely leave it alone. I'm in a long distance relationship and it takes a lot of work to keep things going. The thought of some guy trying it on with my girlfriend while we're apart sickens me. There are plenty of girls out there, flirt with a single one!
  8. this is a very interesting subject. Should a partner put him/herself at risk? My current partner has told me she has genital warts and I have accepted that. I am not sure if I will stay with her the rest of my life but I also understand that it is not necessarily her fault that she has the disease and the warts can be treated.
  9. I've just started my first long distance relationship, with a girl I've known for almost 2 years who lives 150 miles away in London. We had a short fling when I first met her but after 1 week she ended it for reasons I am still unsure about, I remember back then that I called her 2 or three times during that week and she seemed annoyed with me when I did, as though it was bothering her. This time, she is a lot more keen. She was the one who asked me out but I'm sure you can imagine my reluctance to call her too often at the risk of repeating my last mistakes. On the other hand if she is waiting for me to call and I don't it might seem that I am not as interested as her, which I'm sure is a very bad thing in a relationship like this. I have never felt this way about a girl. I know this sounds like something a teenager would say without the benefit of experience, but I'm 27 and I've had my fair share of relationships and this one is different from all the others. I think I'm just searching for reassurance that I'm not going to get my heart broken again. To add to my problems, she is going travelling in 2005 for a year. Oh.... and to add to my problems further, I find it difficult trusting women due to past experience. I get the feeling this is going to be very, very tough.
  10. I did it last night. Told her it was over. Hope I did the right thing, she looked very upset.
  11. Hi Cecelius That is good advice. However, I could not ask other girls out. I have already asked Claire where I stand and she said she didn't want anything too serious. I asked, "does that mean see other people" and she replied with a definite, "no!" Besides, I am not willing to take the risk of hurting her further - that would destroy her confidence in men completely. Either I finish with her and see other people or I treat this as a monogamous relationship. I like the idea of continuing but trying not to contact her, maybe that is worth a shot.
  12. You know what, I've had rebound relationships so many times you'd have thought I'd be able to spot one straight away even if I am looking at it from the other perspective this time. Only a couple of hours to go til I see her and have to finish it. I feel so
  13. Does sound similar to me mate. However I'm not sure she's seeing her ex. She says there's no way she's getting back with him. Imagine what it's like, catching your boyfriend cheating 6 times!! I think the reason she is so screwed up is because he was also her 1st boyfriend, they started seeing each other with she was only 16 and he was 27! ( to me that's a bit sick ) 4 years on and they split up, he's all she knows when it comes to love. I know I'm trying to make excuses for her but what if this really is her way of taking it easy so soon after her last relationship and I'm simply too impatient. If I dump her I might screw her up even more.
  14. Hi Sonjam, I don't want to accuse her of seeing her ex but I can't help but think she is. I think maybe it's time to finish it today. How depressing. I quite liked her too. Back to single life once more.
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