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  1. It was quite abusive, and I don't think I got to it in my post, but after that type of arguing started. I started to hurl the negativity right back, and it turned into a whirlwind or anger and disrespectful comments. That has stopped for the most part now. That was the breaking point for me, that I just couldn't handle it. I didn't like who I had become in those arguments, arguing like that is something I had never done and was pretty much unaware of happening outside of seeing similar situations in movies or things like that. We were in counseling for right at 16 months, both together and
  2. I appreciate your input. I understand your thoughts on not going on a date with another single dad. I have had similar thoughts myself which make me feel bad, but I kind of think if I were to go back in time and be able to talk to myself, that is something I would say. I would just give a big blunt warning to not date or get involved with a single mother at all, that it is too complicated, and that I can't manage it. I don't necessarily care of the fault, like maybe it is just me, maybe I am just not strong enough to handle it. I am not sure. Because, I feel bad thinking it and don't like the
  3. Before, I don't really think so. I mean it did hurt the kids, it seemed to turn their world upside down and cause a lot of stress. But I think it was just her at her wits end, for other reasons of feeling overwhelmed. Not necessarily what was going on with the kids. However, that doesn't happen as much anymore since it seems like she has changed to keeping them as close to her as possible. Now it is kind of like they can do no wrong. However, between me and her that is the significant change that I have had a hard time coming to terms with. When had fought, while it wasn't pleasant there wa
  4. Yea, I'm not sure if it is the same as what you are getting at, but I was surprised. I tried to keep from sounding whiny and complaining, but when I found out the counselor basically thought I should try and work on this some more it was very discouraging to me. I thought the whole process that I was going through was a bit absurd. I ended up saying that I didn't want to do it anymore, and there was some disagreement about it. The counselor didn't understand why, and I explained that at this point it was just too weird for me. I explained that I would understand if I was the type of guy to nev
  5. My wife (31/F) and I (33/M) have been married a few years, and dated a few years prior to getting married. My wife has two daughters (10 & 6) from two separate men from two separate marriages. We dated for a while before I met the girls, and took it slow from there also. We dated more and more and would spend more time together on the weekends she didn't have them. Slowly started seeing the girls more and more. Everything seemed to be going well. It seemed like we were making good judgement calls about how to go about the whole process, and our relationship blossomed into something we both
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