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Okay, I am still with my boyfriend, but everytime I think about him I feel like throwing up- like a break up throw up! My stomach gets all tight and I just don't feel good. Does anyone have an explanation about this? If you read my previous psoting you will notice that he has just cheated on me- about a month and a 1/2 ago. He is the only guy I have ever kissed, and I have been with him since high school. So why do I feel like getting sick when I think about our relationship, we are not broken up but sometimes I feel we are on the verge, but maybe it is just me since he just cheated on me and I trusted him. PLEASE HELP

did u come from a family whose parents stayed together, or are they divorced?

My boyfriend of 6 years just cheated on me. I was heartbroken, still am. Now it is rocky. It didn't help. I want to try to make it work, but I don't know if it is possible. I think about it all the time, I still cry about it and it has been a month and a half.

I was just curiuos as to what some of you with experience think about staying with your first love. I have been with my first love for 6 years and he is the only person I have ever kissed. We have had some issues lately and I don't know if we actually are meant for each other, or are just comfortable. You can read my first couple posts to get the picture, if not then I just wnat to know what you think. Thanks for your time and I will be waiting to hear from you!

DO NOT CHEAT! People think that life will be perfect with the other person, but you only see him how he wants him to see you. You do not know what his bad habits are at home, or if he is a snorer, or if he has his wife do every little thing for him! My dad though that life would be greener on the other side! He fell in love with a lady at work- they could just not be kept apart! They ended up having sex, and she got pregnant! After 15 years of marriage my mom and dad got a divorce, and my dad and his girldfriend got married. While they were "seeing" each other they thought that things would be perfect. Well, they had something coming. All us kids did was cry becuase we missed our family. His new wife could not cook like my mom could (my dad would even acknowledge that she always burnt the food, but not to her face), and she was a slob! After two years of marriage they got a divorce. My dad looks back everday now and misses his first family. He never wanted to be a "weekend" dad, but know he is. Remember, if you leave your husband you are also leaving your family. Things will not be better, your kids will have to have two separate houses, bedrooms, and dogs. They will grow up resenting you because of your affair, and your husband will eventually con them into living with him. PLEASE DO NOT HAVE AN AFFAIR AND TELL THIS MAN YOU CAN NO LONGER SEE HIM!!!! I hope this opens your eyes! ~From a daughter who has witnessed this already!

Please help me. I have signed up to volunteer with a youth group each week. I did this because I want to volunteer, plus I want to get to know the lord better. It is at my college and so about 15 other students my age will be doing it, and I don't know anyone. The thing is is that I am scared to do this because I don't know that much about the bible, but I want to learn! Is that being selfish since I want to volunteer but at the same time I hope to get something out of it too? I am also afraid of getting looked down upon from the other students who are more experienced with youth groups. I always wanted to participate in them when I was a kid, but my family did not attend church. I am just starting to attend church regularly and to get to know the lord. Should I still volunteer or should I let someone who is more experienced with the Lord take my place? Please help.

okay Gauchori, I REALLY appreciate you trying to help me out...but that was not AT ALL what this post is about!!!! here I will make it smpler for you...I never do anything on my own This weekend I have a volunteer retreat camp that I was asked to go too...a once in a lifetime deal I also have a wedding to go too for an old high school friend I want to go to the retreat I do not want to hurt anyone's feelings My bf told me to do what I feel I should do I cannot make up my mind even though I want to go to this retreat Please help Is this better???

I didn't forget a coma: I told my boyfriend this and he said that I should do what I want to do, but I can NEVER make up my mind! Just please help me with the advice!

the retreat is only a weekend thing...that is me saying that I can never make up my mind bc I don't ever want to hurt anyone's feelings.

Dear White_Kimono: If your college has screwed up on your records, get a hold of all of your past professors!! They are usually required by law to keep all of their records of students for like 5 years!!! Talk to them and then talk to the records office. About how you are feeling, since you mentioned that you can't go to university, well try getting a hold of those records and then transfer. I think sometimes that by getting out of the house and going somewhere to learn and educate yourself is best. They will have many programs that you can get involved in at school and you will get a chance to live on your own. Many students afford it by taking out loans and working while at school. Look into financial aid. Then when you graduate and make the big bucks you can pay it all off! When you are away from your family you learn to appreciate them more! You will become more closer to your siblings, your mom, and your grandma. There is hope, do not give up!!

Okay, please respond a.s.a.p. I really could use you help! A couple weeks ago I found my boyfriend cheating on me, this forum really helped me out. Well, I stayed with him and we are working things out. I am away at college and I am trying to do more things on my own and find myself. WEll, I called on this volunteer opportunity and they called me back today! It sounds REALLY interesting and I want to do it. This weekend they have a retreat for all of the volunteer leaders and it is a weekend event. I really want to do this because I think that it would be GREAT for me!! A chance to make new friends and actually do something for myself for once! The thing is is that this Saturday I told an old friend from high school that I would go to her wedding! I rarely ever talk to her and I was basically invited just bc her fiance's family is good friends with my boyfriend's family. I told my boyfriend this and he said that I should do what I want to do, but I can NEVER make up my mind! I don't want to hurt anyone's feelings, but at the same time I am hurting myself for not participating. Please help me make the right decision, should I go to the wedding or have a weekend of fun without anyone I know (which is really brave for me!!!) Please reply if you read this, THANKS!

PLEASE HELP, ESPECIALLY IF YOU HAVE BEEN THROUGH THIS! I have been with my boyfriend since I was 15 years old, I am now 21. He is the only person I have ever kissed or been intimate with. About a month ago we went to a party together. That night we were talking talking to all of our friends and the conversation came up about kissing others. I looked at my boyfriend and said that if he ever kissed another girl I would break up with him, even though it has been 6 years. He then reached over and kissed my stepsister on the cheek and we all started laughing, I looked him in the eyes and said, "you know what I mean". Later in the night he started to get pretty drunk. He told me that one of the girls there kept bothering him and she told him that it was too bad that he had a girlfriend. I ignored this because I know he gets hit on like this a lot, but he had my full turst, plus I try to avoid conflicts. Eventually I noticed that my boyfriend was missing. I looked and saw him go into a porta-john, I watched the same girl go up to it about 10 seconds later, knock, enter, and then lock the door! My heart sank. It was as if my world and my hopes and dreams and everything I had worked for in my life had died right then and there. I ran up to the porta-john. Wondered if I wanted to see what I knew I would see, but knew I had to open it. I slid the "red" part over, and yanked open the door - they were making out, arms around each other. I went ballistic! He was everything to me, I would NEVER have hurt him, I saw our future together and thought about it everyday, I was so happy. I started to run away and he chased after me. He told me that he don't know what had happened and that he had never got the attention like that before (he told me this when he was drunk and at the moment). Now he really doesn't have an excuse, except for the fact that he will never be in that situation again. The next night he apologized to me and my family. I took him back, but it is not the same. He has quit drinking, and I DO believe he has quit for good (since he wasn't really a heavy drinker to begin with), and has also started to become more close to God and we started going to church. I feel like he wants to be a better person to me and others, but I just feel so empty inside now. I try to feel happy, and I try to envision our future together like I used to, but it is so hard. I feel so depressed, and always so miserable. I don't know what to do. I don't want to break up, but then there is apart of me that says that I should since he is the only person I have ever known. I am not going to get even, but should I break it off? I was going to last week, but then I couldn't. I am just so depressed, I feel like I am always in a dream, and to make matters worse I have always had anxiety problems....but now it is non-stop worries! Please help! Sorry this ended up long! Also, he graduated from college last year so I am here now, and I have other roomates to hang out with. He is also leaving to get his Master's next year. I also now go home to see him on the weekends. I feel like I don't want to leave him...but I told him THAT night that if he ever kissed another girl I would leave, but now it is not that simple!! PLEASE, I NEED SOME ADVICE AND HELP!

Okay, long story short: I am a senior in college, I have been with my boyfriend since freshman year of high school. He is the only person I have ever kissed. He was everything to me, I would NEVER have hurt him, I saw our future together and thought about it everyday, he was everything to me, I was so happy. Four weeks ago we went to a party together. He was drunk (but no excuse!) and I saw him go into a porta-john, I watched a girl (that knew I was his gf and told him earlier in the night that it was too bad he had a gf!) go up to it about 10 seconds later, knock, enter, and then lock the door! My heart sank. It was as if my world and my hopes and dreams and everything I had worked for in my life had died right then and there. I ran up to the porta-john. Wondered if I wanted to see what I knew I would see, but knew I had to open it. I slid the "red" part over, and yanked open the door - they were making out, arms around each other. I went ballistic! The next night he apologized to me and my family. I took him back, but it is not the same. He has not drank since then, and I DO believe he has quit for good (since he wasn't really a heavy drinker to begin with). But I just feel so empty inside now. I try to feel happy, and I try to envision our future together like I used to, but it is so hard. I feel so depressed, and always so miserable. I don't know what to do. I don't want to break up, but then there is apart of me that says that I should since he is the only person I have ever known. I am not going to get even, but should I break it off? We were going to last week, but then I couldn't. I am just so depressed, I feel like I am always in a dream, and to make matters worse I have always had anxiety problems....but now it is non-stop worries! Please help! Sorry this ended up long! Also, he graduated from college last year so I am here now, and I have other roomates to hang out with. I know most of you will say to end it, but it is not that simple. I need "real" advice. Thank you.