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  1. Indeed, the fear of losing her will be nothing if this goes south further down the line. I don’t think there is another man; she would just go back. Her own plans are to go back (according to her). I dont see how she can continue here on a tourism visa
  2. Indeed, and your advice is very much appreciated.
  3. Hi LotusBlack, Thanks for sharing that story and it definitely made me think hard. I’m very sorry to hear that and the retrospective red flags is definitely something to transfer knowledge on...
  4. Thanks Billie, and I appreciate the benefit of doubt at start. Problem is she is arguing that her time used here is the greatest sacrifice and hence anything I do is warranted. Hard to argue this point....
  5. She cries every time we argue (which is about once every two weeks over very small things), does that count for anything in her defence?
  6. Indeed, the worst possibility is that the acting has reached its limit and she is now showing her true self. Bored with the imperfect me... Shall I secretly pause the application (I am pretty sure I can do that without her knowing), because it takes a 1-2 months, and see how she behaves?
  7. It is difficult to describe succinctly the "problem" (hopefully there isn't one), but here goes: 1. I met her through mutual friends and she came recommended - 5 months ago 2. We started dating a month later, but she needs a visa to stay in the country 3. So even after 3-4 months of dating, I agreed to get her an engagement (pathway to marriage) visa, not cheap! -- currently going through application with a lawyer 4. I shower her with holidays and expensive luxury gifts. I pay for most of our living costs, as she has no job here (due to tourism visa). 5. I am off to see her parents, and
  8. Self blame and no closure is haunting me. Not an exaggeration when I say daily. On a good day, I might think about her briefly a few times... because work is busy and there are some cheerful things. On a bad day, it will paralyse me, especially either side of sleep. I decided to write this after kneeling in the shower and crying. Over the 4+ years since break up, I have dated numerous girls (2 for 1+ years) and I have given everything to those relationships, but nothing is right. Some facts: - we dated from 2011 to 2014 (3 years) and we were engaged for half that - the passion and l
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