K_N_AZ
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Engaged to get married, but...ex on my mind
K_N_AZ replied to K_N_AZ's topic in Marriage/Long Term Relationships
Thanks for the replies!!! I was kind of hoping it was just a "jitter thing". I know I love the person I am engaged to and want nothing more than to share my life with her. I just get stuck every once in a while when my ex pops in my head. It's weird because I don't really think about any of my other exes the way I do my first love. I just wonder what she's been up to, and how she is doing, etc. I guess that's why we have kept in touch over the last year or so. But, I think it is definitely wise for me to not talk to her during this time. Thanks again =) -
Well, I haven't posted on her for some time, but I'm glad to see that the site is still around. A couple of years ago, everyone on here helped me get through a really tough break-up. And, now I am engaged to a beautiful young woman, who is intelligent, kind, caring, etc. For me, she is a total package. Here's the weird thing... We have been dating for about 1 1/2 years, and engaged since June of 2006, and the wedding plans are under way. But, I keep thinking of one of my ex's, from a long time ago...my first love. I dated this girl for about 8 months, 8 years ago, and have always kept her in my heart. But, over the years, as time went on, she has popped in and out of my mind. But, more recently she has been on my mind a lot, and I don't know what this means. Can anyone help me out? I also have to add that I talk with her a couple times a year through MySpace. I setup an account to keep in touch with my college friends, and she e-mailed me out of the blue, about a year ago, after 6 years of not talking. Any advice would be greatly appreciated.
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My friend is chilled and calm most of the time. He did respond by saying he didn't have a problem with me asking his sister out, although he thought it might be weird. And he said that, currently, she is crazy about her boyfriend (which sucks for me I guess), but who knows what can happen, right? He did say that if they were to ever break up, he'd rather she pursue me if she likes me, rather than me pursuing her. i told him I understood and that was that. So, it wasn't all that bad, just awkward I guess. And, I guess she may be more into her boyfriend than I thought so I guess the only thing I can do is to wait and see what happens. Oh, I'm not sure who he'll tell, if anyone at all, because I asked him if I could talk to him about it confidentially before bringing it up. So, hopefully this will stay between he and I. ***I seem to always be attracted to (or want) what I can't have =( ***
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Okay, so I texted my best friend an asked him if I could ask him a weird confidential question. He said, "Yes". So, I asked him "I have something on my mind that I've wanted to ask for years...if the opportunity ever came up and we were both single would you be upset if I asked your sister out?" So far, he hasn't replied. I hope I didn't upset him by this. And I'm hoping he will keep this to himself and not spill the news to everyone. Do you think I did a dumb thing?
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Wow, that's a difficult situation to be in, specially since you really like her. Let me ask you this...how old is she? Without knowing too much information about her or her past relationships, it's hard to say what her true intentions are with Garry and with you. It sounds like she is enjoying the single life right now and is not ready for a serious relationship, but it's hard to say without knowing much about her. Just wondering, and not suggesting this...but have you talked about other women that you are interested in with her? Does she seem bothered by it? Or are you concentrating on letting her know that you really would like to date her at this point? Hope this weekend goes well for you and hang in there
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Well, you have helped me with some advice so maybe I could offer something that'll enlighten your day. Many people have told me that "one" of the true keys to love is friendship. What I mean by this, is that being friends with someone first can make a future relationship very strong. It sounds like she really cares for you, but it's hard to know her true intentions at this point. I'm not sure I see the reason why she wants to pursue a relationship with Garry at this point in time, but it doesn't sound like he is in the same mindset as she is. Sounds like she may end up getting hurt by this guy, because he is not in the "relationship" frame of mind like she is. As for her feelings for you goes...she is sending very mixed signals right now and may be confused herself. How long have you two been friends again?
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No, I have not talked about it with my best friend. Part of me feels that if I bring it up to him, that she will definitely find out how I feel about her and she may brush it off as, "I really think you're a great guy but I'm inlove with so and so..." Wouldn't this make me look like a fool then? I would certainly feel foolish everytime I'd be around her and their family. Atomic... After reading your dilemma, my doesn't sound as bad. Your situation must be very hard for and I can't say I know exactly what you are going through.
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Atomic, What have said makes a lot of sense and takes a lot of the complication of of my thinking. I have a question though (or maybe I am reading into this way too much)... if she likes me, would she show it even if a) she is datins someone else and b) I am her brother's best friend?
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Thanks for the great advice!!! So, I guess I run the risk of being alone for quite a while? I mean, I have no idea how serious my friend's sister is with her current boyfriend, but they have been together for about a year and a half. Ugh, I hate breaking up with people and seeing them hurt and upset.
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Okay, so I have a very weird dilemma. I am currently dating a young woman, for about 8 months, who I feel like I am drifting apart from. I can't say that I really see a future with her and don't want to prolonge the relationship out of guilt. This is problem #1 of my dilemma. Now it gets kinda weird. I have an attraction to my best friend's sister, whom I've wanted to date for many years now. But, there were several things stopping me from asking her out like; she is my best friend's sister, one or the other of us has been in a relationship (bad timing), and I'm not sure if she would date me (is she attracted to me or does she see me as the big brother type). Problem #2 of my dilemma. Okay, assuming I was single again, the sister (Jen) is dating a guy, who she has been with over a year. I have no clue how serious they are and/or if she really loves him or what ever. Problem #3. So, does anyone have any advice for me? 1. Should I get out of my current relationship? How do I do it gently? 2. Should I pursue my interest in Jen? It's not sexual, it's more than that...she makes me light up inside, feel giddy, fills me with laughter, etc. 3. How do I find out about her current relationship? Or should I wait to see what happens with her and her current b/f? Any advice would be much appreciated.
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Thank you for the kind words. I guess I really have been beating myself up over this whole thing and second guessing my decision. I just hope my gut was right this time Thanks again for helping me through this tough time!
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Funny you mention "gut feeling". My gut feeling originally toldme that she was not the right girl for me, which is why I broke up with her and asked her to move out. Shold I follow my gut feeling? Or did I make a big mistake? That's the biggest decision I need to find an answer to.
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I know I keep coming up with the what ifs.... We broke up in July, then I started NC in end of August for 1 1/2 months. And I figured I'd contact her, so I did and that's when I got a call from her moher and she called my parents answering machine. So, I thought that was the final blow. I think she knows where I stand and she probably just really hates me and doesn't want me in her life ever again. So, wouldn't emailing her now just put me through all that pain again?
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My biggest fear is if I do email her, I will get another phone call from her mother tellig me to leave her alone.
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I guess so. All I know is that I feel like I want her back more than ever. And I must admit that it makes me very jealous that she is with someone else.