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  1. If they were paid then that'd be totally fine. I don't really care too much about the money. It's more the fact that interacting with friends has become an escape mechanism rather than an additional aspect of their life. They have made it known that they aren't happy with their life direction at the moment, and that was probably one of the reasons they broke up with me, because our relationship was stagnant and promoted just spending time online not doing much, effectively losing feelings. I just didn't know what to do. All I wanted to do was support them. One of my biggest regrets
  2. My Ex had ideas to work in the health sector but messed up their MA due to an addiction and avoidance. From that moment on wards, things have gone down in a negative spiral for them. They lost direction and motivation to search for work due to anxiety. It's now approaching 2 years and the situation hasn't changed. Whilst they still laugh a lot, I notice that whenever I bring up the idea of searching for work or even volunteering. They see have a lot of anxiety over something like that. Talking about anything job related seem to cause a lot of strain on our relationship so I didn't push i
  3. Sigh. I guess I can't really accept the fact that she's attention seeking - it's so different to what I know of her... but it's so obvious now that I write it out that there is at least an element of unconscious desire even if it isn't conscious. This wouldn't even be an issue if her life wasn't such a mess at the moment. Unemployment and anxiety around job-search, General boredom Loss of close friendship groups I don't know how to support her any more without it all coming across as lectures. It's currently all escapism/denial behaviour... Maybe she will wake up one day herself
  4. Important note: This is all online-friendship interaction with people who live in different countries. It's probably none of my business what she wants to do any more but this is so different to what I've known of her. She's one of the nicest people I met so this behaviour just doesn't make any sense at all. She wants to be friends with other people. She wants to be able to joke with guys the way guys joke with each other (i.e. pretending to want each others booty). To her, it feels like a double standard why guys can joke with others like that, and she can't without it leading to some u
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