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  1. I agree, it's hard when you've been around the person for a long time. Thank-you. It's very hurtful and I can completely relate like many other out there. I just want you to know things will get better. A year from now you will be in a much better place. Good luck!
  2. Also, don't forget why you started in the first place.
  3. I quit 2 years ago after my first year. I was struggling. Couldn't concentrate. Now all my friends have graduated and it's one of my biggest regrets. Focus, it's only 2 more years of your life! I am now working as a carer and do the odd cleaning job. I have just applied for university again to start this September. I have been rejected two out of the 5 universities I've applied for. Please just stick it out. Even if you don't end up using your degree, it's only two years of your life!!! Good luck and keep focused and motivated!!!!!
  4. Also....it could take years for her to heal, or intact never.
  5. Love can make you the happiest or saddest person. I am going through problems myself and know just how painful it is to feel rejected and pushed away. Especially when you have invested emotional and saw your whole future with that one person. I will advise you this... ( I know it's dam hard, but stay strong). Stop contacting her, clearly she has issues and is emotionally playing with your emotions. Now do this....Apply for jobs everyday, at least 20 cv's should be sent off, that should be your goal. When you get a job you will you feel better about yourself and it will take your mind off the situation. Do you have a dream, ambition. Go and pursue it. Stop investing into something with out receiving a return. Like I said it's incredibly hard, you will have good and bad days. However if you do something productive everyday and better yourself, your life will definitely start to improve.
  6. Girls who like someone, don't forget to press the send button. I would leave it. If she doesn't contact you for more than a week and reply, I would block her number and carry on living your life. You don't want to get involved with an in consistent girl. Soooo many fish in the sea.
  7. Just to let you know, he jumped in a million miles an hour before all this happened. Told me he loved me and make commitment promises. He has met my son, taken him out and had him to stay for the weekend. We have been away together 4 times and planned many more trips this year. I was just catching up. Can you see why now.
  8. I posted recently about my partner being in hospital and acting really cold with me and not wanting me to meet his family because he feels uncomfortable to introduce me under those circumstances. I am just seeking more advice. I have been going up at least twice a week. Every time I call him I can almost gaurentee he won't answer. I thought maybe it's because he is in hospital and is not up to taking phone calls. However whenever I go up there is on the phone 85% of the time and never puts his phone down. I send him messages on what's-app and he coldly replys hours or a day later. Everything was perfect before he went into hospital and now he is treating me like an unwanted smell in the air. I keep going to visit him because I love him and want to make sure he is ok. I have now decided to not contact him at all for 4-5 days. I feel his moods are a hint and I want to see what he does without contact. Guys I am going crazy. We spoke on the phone for hours a day and constantly messaged each other (honeymoon period) He is like a different person, who I don't recognise. Is it me over thinking, or what? I split up from my fathers child over 2 years ago. I have not been with another man since. My current partner is the first guy I have dated in a while and now all this rubbish is happening. I can't function and most importantly stressed out about his well-being, and how much he has changed. I miss him, I miss the guy I met and thought I knew. What do I do? Thank you!!
  9. No one is perfect. You won't ever find someone molded into the exact person you want. Accept it and try to fall in love with his "flaws"
  10. Thank you for you very use reply. He is Indian. Educated in England. I was born in South Africa and have British parents.
  11. My question is- why did yo allow these "feelings" to develop. If your partner was on tor mind and you really, really loved (or were in love ) with him, this would never have happened. I believe you subconsciously are looking for a more exciting relationship with a little zest. Just remember, we may live our partners deeply. However it's ok to grow apart. You need to sit down and decided what you really want. Forever with the wrong person is a long time.
  12. "How do you know when to stop loving someone and just let them go" I believe you already know the answer to this. Depression is an on going battle, that cannot be fixed overnight. You are in it long term supporting her, or not. It's ok to walk away and offer her accessional support as a friend. Don't feel obliged to stay because of her depression. This is your life and you need to live it to the fullest without being dragged down. Take the step TODAY! Whatever you plan to do. Remember there is never a right time. Good luck, I wish you and her all the best.
  13. Hi, I have been in a relationship with my boyfriend for 4 months. It's been going really well, he is very loving and kind. We get alone sooo well and thoroughly enjoy each others company. We have been away together several times during our short relationship. 3 weeks ago he went into hospital to have surgery. I helped him book the surgery date and encouraged him to go. I made sure he knew I would support him and be with him. After the survey he faced many complications (life threatening ) he was suppose to spend one night and has been there for over 3 weeks. The problem is I feel very alone and pushed away. I made sure I came to visit him the day after surgery. I kept away the day of the surgery because I was aware his family were there and didn't want to intrude. The day I came we planned around his family visiting as he didn't feel it was the time nor place to introduce or explain who I was. Unexpectedly his family arrived earlier than planned and there was nothing I could do. I ended up staying at the hospital all day until the evening. He was quite unwell and I was very concerned, therefore didn't want to leave his side. The next day I came, he called me selfish and had a real go at me for "barging in" when it was an emotional time and he wanted privacy with his family. I was deeply hurt and felt like a piece of #### on his shoe. I have to ask to come and see him and plan around his family. He feels uncomfortable introducing me as he is quite high status and I come from a working class family. I personally think if you love someone (as he said he does) it wouldn't matter. Yesterday I asked him if I could see him anytime soon. He said come tomorrow. Today I text him saying, shell I come and see you tomorrow morning as planned. He responded by saying" will call you tomorrow afternoon". I instantly got the hint and am quite sure he won't phone me as he said he would. I am really confused as he has been the sweetest most loving person I've ever met. He is a mature man a few years my senior And I know he wouldn't mess me around. Please answer my question... (why) from an outsiders point of view, what do you think. One last thing. He likes to come across as a strong invincible man, he is an extrovert and does not like people seeing him weak or vulnerable. Sorry for the long post, I really appreciate all you guys that reply.
  14. Thank-you all for your response. I feel so low at the moment. A combination of worrying and upset. When he is fully recovered (Hopefully!) I will sit him down and talk about this. I just cannot believe how I am being treated when trying to be there for someone. And to be told am selfish is just the most hurtful thing. Especially when I literally dropped everything to be by his side. Drove 50 mile one way and spent money getting there. All I can do at this point is be patient
  15. Hi, I have been in a relationship with my boyfriend for 4 months. It's been going really well, he is very loving and kind. We get alone sooo well and thoroughly enjoy each others company. We have been away together several times during our short relationship. 3 weeks ago he went into hospital to have surgery. I helped him book the surgery date and encouraged him to go. I made sure he knew I would support him and be with him. After the survey he faced many complications (life threatening ) he was suppose to spend one night and has been there for over 3 weeks. The problem is I feel very alone and pushed away. I made sure I came to visit him the day after surgery. I kept away the day of the surgery because I was aware his family were there and didn't want to intrude. The day I came we planned around his family visiting as he didn't feel it was the time nor place to introduce or explain who I was. Unexpectedly his family arrived earlier than planned and there was nothing I could do. I ended up staying at the hospital all day until the evening. He was quite unwell and I was very concerned, therefore didn't want to leave his side. The next day I came, he called me selfish and had a real go at me for "barging in" when it was an emotional time and he wanted privacy with his family. I was deeply hurt and felt like a piece of #### on his shoe. I have to ask to come and see him and plan around his family. He feels uncomfortable introducing me as he is quite high status and I come from a working class family. I personally think if you love someone (as he said he does) it wouldn't matter. Yesterday I asked him if I could see him anytime soon. He said come tomorrow. Today I text him saying, shell I come and see you tomorrow morning as planned. He responded by saying" will call you tomorrow afternoon". I instantly got the hint and am quite sure he won't phone me as he said he would. I am really confused as he has been the sweetest most loving person I've ever met. He is a mature man a few years my senior And I know he wouldn't mess me around. Please answer my question... (why) from an outsiders point of view, what do you think. One last thing. He likes to come across as a strong invincible man, he is an extrovert and does not like people seeing him weak or vulnerable. Sorry for the long post, I really appreciate all you guys that reply.
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